l'm seeing this guy, loeded drives a nice car, very respectiful takes me where ever l wanna go, we met on line, felt a connection when l spoke to him on the fone but on the first date didn't feel the same, we been on 3 dates so far but l still feel nothing for him and he seems to be seriouse, he met my sister when he was coming to pick me up for lunch and she thinks he is good guy but l really am not attracted to him at all, every time he tries to kiss me l always have to come up with an excuse, l keep wishing he was my ex, whats like the nicest way to let him down cos l have tried ignoring his call but he won't give up, l really don't wanna hurt his feelings pls help
2006-06-26 06:28:58 · 48 answers · asked by Lil mama 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-06-26 06:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm...don´t complicate yourself! If you don´t feel attracted to him than just tell him you are not looking for anything serious right now. If you think he has good qualities than keep him as a friend. Get to know him little by little (always go out in a group, not in pairs) and this way you will start developing a pretty good picture of what he is really like. And most importantly, you say you wished he were your ex boyfriend.....get over it!! Move on!! Don´t suffer for something in the past. Look into the future....believe me you will be a much happier person.
2006-06-26 06:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of prolonging it, do it right away. Let him know that you want to take it slow for now, and would like to be friends first before jumping in to a serious relationship. I am sure he is a great guy, but with relationships that start online, the physical aspect of it, is what makes it work or not. If you aren't attracted to him then what's the point in making him seem it's more than it really is? He's calling you b/c he thinks you feel the same way about him, so let him know how you feel, sooner or later he would find out...make it sooner..it's easier that way.
2006-06-26 06:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see.... You kinda have a problem like my younger sister and what i told her is tell the truth. I mean you say you don't feel the same way no more, so right there you should know to stop the dates and communication with this guy. michelle all you have to say is " Hey look, I like you alot but to think of heading into a relationship right now is not my focus; I'm really confused and need time to ponder." FYI: Never like a person because of what they have or got. Not every guy you like must look good, dress nice, or even buy you things. now of days it's all about sense of humor, personality, swagger, house hold behavior. Things like that.
2006-06-26 06:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ke Ke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him.
Let him know how much of a nice guy he is and how happy you are having met him but you dont feel any chemistry w/ him- Somehow you see him only as a friend and as much as he has all the qualities you are looking for in a guy you just feel a friendly connection with him. Let him know that you wished your feelings for him were stronger but you cant help or dictate how your heart feels! If he wishes to remain in your life as a friend then great, you welcome his friendship but if he does not feel comfortable being ONLY friends then tell him you will miss him- The end-- Just be honest!
and DO NOT give him hope- Be straight to the point!
2006-06-26 06:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and be straight with him. By trying not to hurt his feelings, you run the risk of stringing him along and hurting him worse in the end. You could maybe even offer to set him up with a friend or your sister if any of them seem interested. It sounds like he is a nice enough guy, just not the right guy for you.
2006-06-26 06:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not attracted to him, you need to be honest with him and say in a very nice way that this is not a love connection. Leading him on when he really likes you is wrong and what goes around does come around. No sense in putting some bad Karma out there to come back at you someday.
Be honest and break it off.
2006-06-26 06:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him up ask him to go to dinner in a very public place. Then politely tell him,that you're not interested,but really appreciate everything that he's done for you. He'll be ok. Just don't give him any mixed signals, so that he knows that there is no chance. Then excuse yourself and leave. His feelings aren't going to be crushed,if he's as successful as you say,he can handle this. G'luck
2006-06-26 06:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by mieldor76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ended up in the same situation two years ago I started dating a guy to make my BF jealous. It worked but I feel for the nice guy.... He just grew on me. Now we live together and have a newborn baby. Love sometimes comes where you don't expect it. Be open to it.
2006-06-26 06:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by lexiekitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should tell him the truth as soon as possible because later its going to hurt him much more break it to him nicely say u see him more like a brother or a friend than as someone you would want to spend the rest of the life with. He will understand :) and if he wont be calling don't feel sorry its u who didn't want him :)
2006-06-26 06:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this be honest. Sit down with him and tell him that everything was going great and then you realized he just wasn't your perfect match. There has to be some sort of physical attrection in every relationship. You may hurt his feelings but that truth is always better then to lie. Jamie
2006-06-26 06:32:27 · answer #11 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋