life, god? I'm pretty down?

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life, god? I'm pretty down?
I'm not understanding, I need insight. Last night, I was let down yet again. I am cursed beyond belief. I know I should be grateful, but it's very very hard. I'm unhappy. My sister wants to be a pro athlete, now I know it's tough and seemingly unattaintable. Aren't you supposed to have goals? She has the talent, drive, determination, dedication, she works so hard. She's worked hard for a long time. I've dreamed of being liked by people(friends) and having a bf( and love) yet the bf and the friends seem to be unattainable. Yet I did for some1. We are 20-26. She is 26. We've struggled for 10 years or better. There's a glimmer of hope sometimes. We get close and then big disapppointment rolls around. Call me crazy, but I'm cursed. Quite possibly those chain letters. Though I've had a bad life before that. I lost my grandma, my cousin lost her father to a 16 y/o who didn't use the signal and he wasn't wearing his seatbelt, my other grandparents I worry about, t

about every1 else. I got in big fights w my sis, and I mean big too. I can't talk to my cousin for a lot of reasons. And it's repeatedly the same thing, especially my sister wanting to be an athlete, every1 thought she'd make it. She seems to have the mentak issue, she sychs herself out. We thought this year would be different. She has gotten some help and she did well, she came close(see what I mean) and then big let down. I guess she needs to consider herself a pro. Although I think they were amatuer's. Or get real help, but we are not rich. I had a fight w my family cuz they don't understand. Fought w my mom again. The computer oveheated. Everwood is cancelled. And 20 other things. And there's even more then that.
I wish. I'm down to the last bit of hope tho. I am sick of struggling. I am calm. You have no idea how my life has been. I only listed some, I could list more.
I'm not comparing myself. So? I'm so cursed and let down, so deep beyond, so fa

out of wack* yup, repeatedly, repeatedly, repeadly!!!!!!!! gr gr grr!!! Kelly played well again, and then today did okay on her HOME course, pretty easy, took an 8 and now she's so upset! She wants a coke. She wants to play but it is so hard for her to play bad!!!! I didn't mention my other problems too, my aunt has a LOT of problems, my cousin is somewhat fine but they were in TONS of accidents, weren't their fault. Me too. And my family, had a few. Does everything really happen for a reason? I mean everything everything? I am not understanding why I am so ******* cursed?!!!! It is god, coincidence? curse? or my ******* life?!!!!

because I love them!!! It makes me sick. I can't. Because it is the worst ever!!! I haven't even got to all my slut friends, my life, my other friends and more. I aint asking for PERFECTION. I know that, just decent, the **** never ever ends!!!!! I don't get it! Ur all religous? I know it's in religion, I have been PRAYING FOR 10 YEARS OR BETTER. My sis has been trying for even more!!!!! Maybe it's cuz I'm not believing. I never did but after time and time again, and AGAIN, it's getting hard to believe it.

http://www.uswapl.org/news/schaub.html...
3 page article!!!!!
I've got more articles. She was in the U.S Open. She is 26, graduated in 03, so she doesn't need more schooling. She just needs to do this. There is a little bit she can do, but not much, not w/out big money.

Answer 1

Sometimes we are so focused on waiting for our ship to come in, that we ignore the bus and the taxi that were sent for us.

Look around you, see all the trees in the forest, start walking down the entire path, enjoy all of it.

This question is in the religion section, so I am going to tell you to first get saved. If you believe you have, then get to church and rededicate your live to Christ, live for him and not yourself, lay your human burdons at his feet, and when you get up, do NOT take those burdons back with you. If you find that you did take some of them back with you, go right back and put them back at his feet.

You will be doing this the rest of your life, but everytime we leave a bit more of our worries at his feet, we can walk closer to GOD with more and more of the weight lifted off from us.

Answer 2

you know.... at the time we're experiencing things, we feel that they are just the worst thing that could happen to us. It is not until years later that we realize that it was not that bad at all.

You're fretting over small stuff, years from now do you really think you're going to remember that your day was ruined by the cancellation of that show?

Other are very valid for you to feel down, such as the loss of your grandmother. I don't understand about you & your friend, you said you've struggled for 10 years, so u were 10 when this relationship started?

But sure what you're going through but you ARE where you're suppose to be at this time. I don't know why you're so upset at your sister and her desire to be an athlete, let her be, she has a goal, let her work at it, whether she makes it or not is not the point, she's happiest when she is doing her thang!

YOU need to look into why you are so unhappy. Stop using everything around you as an excuse and get down to the bottom of it. You're in a stage where you're still trying to find yourself. Its difficult and it'll take some time, be patient and strong. Hang in there.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Life is hard, and sometimes you get a worse one then the guy next to you. However, no ones life is perfect, and we all have let downs and failures.

No ones life is all bad. You have your sister, who you obviously love, and who loves you. Some people don't even have that. You have a family that care enough to argue with you, and some people don't even have that. You are gifted with family. Some people are gifted with money, and some people with other things.

Your sister should use her athletic ability to go to school, and get an education. A very small fraction of everyone who wants to be a professional athlete actually makes it, so it's important to have other goals. Never put all of you eggs in one basket, and always be prepared for the loss. Keep in mind though that as long as your family is there, you really haven't lost.

Life is all about finding roses in a weed field. Sometimes it's a little harder for some. However, they are always there.

Answer 4

Your letter seems to be mostly about your sister and HER dreams, and things like people passing away that you have no control over. You say you are cursed and don't say WHY you feel that way. You say "we've struggled" but with what? Chain letters can't hurt you! You are worried about your grandparents. And you worry!!!
Everything is in God's hands. Worrying about all of it would make even the smartest person dizzy! Find things that make YOU happy. The happier you are, the better bfs and friends you will make. Be sure to pray to God and read The Bible. Then thank God and sleep well. You are twenty, I am fifty-seven with a grown daughter. You will be fine.

Answer 5

First off, stop thinking you are cursed. Everything does happen for a reason. I am in the same state you are in, and was actually in a worse position than you ever described. Life is a road basically; sometimes you come to a road that is bumpy and in order for you to get to a newly remodeled freeway it'll take some walking. You are not curse, I use to think that way, because it seems like one thing happens after another and before you even finish picking up the pieces you fall apart again. I've been in many situations in my life to where I was lower than low and as if I couldn't get any lower, I sunk deeper into my own sorrows. You need to stop thinking about other's battle; think about your own. You're battling a subconcious feeling inside yourself that won't let you win until you see other satisfied. But you know what, in order for you to help those you have to help yourself. You seem to have a knack for taking other people's burden and making it your own. You don't need to do that, a battle within yourself is hard enough, you don't need to be battling other people's as well. Let them handle it, I mean if they've come that far battling battles, then they can keep on going without you doing it for them. Another thing is hope, hope for the better because without hope you wouldn't wake another day. You are apparently stronger than you think because if you are where you are now although still unsatified it's because you are strong. I'm not one to judge your situation because everyone defines hurt and disappointment differently. But growing up I didn't have much, my family was broken, and I was a mother to three children (siblings) until I couldn't be no other. I learn so many things at such a young age that it scarred me, and was beaten by my father physically and verbally abused by my mother. Put in an arrange marriage at the age of 15 to a man that was too old for me, and shun from many things because I broke off the engagement. I was thrown out and was homeless for quite sometimes, but still manage to graduate. My only best friend betrayed me after 13 years of friendship. There's so much going on in the world and sometimes life seems so cold, and so awful that all you want to do is end it. But you have to think about what is best for yourself. Stop burdening yourself with others problem and live your life the way you need to live it. Make the decisions that is best fit for you and you're going to be content with yourself. It seems like your mind is in five hundred places at once. When all it wants to do is be "still."
I don't know if this makes any sense to you, but what you're going through I've gone through and still is going through. It's a battle inside yourself, and your the only one who can win the battle. Need anything else, just write =) and I'll be happy to answer.

Answer 6

Let go!!!!!!

What you are doing is creating anxiety and depression for yourself by chasing to many ideas and focusing on bad events.

If you re-examine your life and everything that you have your. perspective will change.

What i suggest is that you set a goal for yourself, learn something new, join a group of people doing something that interests you. Just do things that interest you and you will find people with similar interests which leads to friends and relationships.

along with that start each day being thankful that you are walking and talking and not living in sudan or iraq!!!!!!! Sometimes we forget just how good we really have it.

The more you learn to appreciate how great your life truly is the less you will feel so miserable.

Been there done that

Answer 7

To believe that you are cursed is a curse in itself. All you really need is faith in this life; faith in yourself, faith in others, faith in the fact that things can and will get better for you. It is with deep grief that i learned of your sadness; and, especially, that it is affecting your young heart beyond what is common in such cases. In this sad world of ours, sorrow comes to all; and, to the young, it comes with bitterest agony, because it takes them unawares. The older have learned to expect it. I am anxious to afford some alleveiation to your present distress. Perfect relief is not possible, expcept with time. You can not now realize that you will ever feel better. Is not this so? And yet it is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again. To know this, which is certainly true, will make you some less miserable now. I have had experience enough to know what i say; and you need only to believe it, to feel better at once. The memory of all of these things instead of an agony, will yet be a sad sweet feeling in your heart of a purer and holier sort than you have ever known before.
A belief of mine which i have had for a good amount of time is the following: if you know your own self worth, what need you care about the needs or desires of others. Many people in this life will want or expect certain things out of you. If you were to listen to, much less try and do the things that everyone else told you to do, you would spend the rest of your life changing to the needs of others. Worry about your own needs before you try and fulfill the needs of others.
Something else that i may offer you; try not to live in fear of the past or even of the future. The past is gone, and can not be changed. The future comes soon enough. Remember the past and learn from it, but do not dwell in it. Move forward with each new experience and pray to God(if you believe) for guidance and strength. Try and find that inner strength and build yourself from there. Cry, scream, hit a pillow, whatever; let your emotions out. everyone's heart needs relief sometimes, and when we keep those emotions bottled in, our hearts become saddened and we feel that we can never be happy again. Try and be optimistic, and look for the good in all situations; believe it or not, there is good in everything. We need only to look for it to find it.
When you are let down in life, lift yourself back up. Life is a constant struggle of good and stormy weather. Some days you will bask in the glory of the sunshine, while others you will be smashed against the rocks. What matters is how you respond to those situations. You must (metaphorically or even literally speaking) yell "Do your worst, for i will do mine. I will meet any bad with an even greater good, and i will be happy again!!!"
If you would like, i can offer you further insights, help, and/or advice as you need it. If you ever feel the need to talk, feel free to talk to me (e-mail under my screenname by picture). I hope that i have helped you in some small way, and if i can do anything for you in the future, let me know. Please, try and be happy and optimistic; we've all been through rough times, but YOU will get through this! Trust in this alone, and you will see joy enter your heart once again. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 8

Why are you taking all of your family's problems upon yourself? I can see that you love your family dearly, but there is such a thing as caring too much. Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how badly we all want it. It must be hard living with everyone else's problems. I know. I still do it. Blame myself. I feel like my family expects it from me. You're being a scapegoat. Live your own life. Don't allow for people to manipulate you and don't beat yourself up. You're too young for the world to be resting on your shoulders. Don't worry about your sis. What do YOU like to do in your spare time? Music, dance, art, etc.? Focus on yourself first. Your family knows that you love them. You can't fix them. All you can do is better yourself. Trust me, it will get to be too much if you keep living like this. Open up to yourself, let yourself in, do what you want to do, live how you want to live. Find God. Do what it takes. You have it in you. Blessings!

Answer 9

that was so tangled i didnt even get what the problem was.except that your unhappy... im glad you got to vent, that helps, the only way to find happiness is through you, the only way to get close to God is to just let it happen.. he is there carrying you...
One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was
walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the
sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he
noticed two sets of footprints in the sand: one
belonging to him, and the other to the Lord. When
the last scene of his life flashed before him, he
looked back at the footprints in the sand. He
noticed that many times along the path of his life
there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed
that it happened at the very lowest and saddest
times in his life. This really bothered him and he
questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, You said that
once I decided to follow you, You'd walk with me all
the way. But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life, there is only one set
of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed
you most you would leave me." The Lord replied,
"My son, My precious child, I love you and I would
never leave you. During your times of trial and
suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it
was then that I Carried You." The Poem Footprints in the Sand by Mary Stevenson Learn about the new song and CD,
"Footprints in the Sand"
by Mark Hargrave.

Answer 10

First off, chain letters are a bunch of crap, don't believe in them, it's just superstition.

Not sure where your stand is on Faith, but I know of a good book you can read. It is called Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller. It is a book of non-religous thoughts on Christian Spirituality. I just got done and it showed me I'm not the only one who struggles... and I think it can show you too.

Everyone has problems, and remember you can't help anyone in need unless you know how to help yourself. God would like to work on you, and work on others through you. Everyone has issues, just some like to hand them over, and some like to worry about them and let them get to them. Problems are lies told to your mind by the devil to get you to worry.

I'm not some preacher dude, or some internet crusader looking for prey to try and add to my "tell people about God" quota, I read what you said and I felt your pain. It sounds to me like you do need a friend.... Whenever I feel sorry for myself, I always try to think of what I can be thankful for, I have all my limbs ;-), I have a beautiful wife, a good job, a baby on the way, and I always forget about what I was down about.

Take care, I hope I helped.

Brian