I am pregnant with my second girl right now and I love my 1st sooo much that I don't understand how there will be enough love for the new baby too. Does it take love away from your first and use it for your second? I just don't know how I can love and provide equal attention to both of my girls.
2006-06-26 06:04:36 · 13 answers · asked by AuroraBorealis 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I hated to admit it but I felt the same way when I was pregnant with #2. The thing is you don't have a set amount of love in you for children. When the 2nd arrives somehow a whole new love is born too. It is just as much as you felt for your first one and then you wonder how you ever could have doubted what you would feel for this beautiful little person.
2006-06-26 06:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I have three children. All I can say is that love is not divided, it's multiplied.
Equal attention isn't always possible. At the end of every day, you can't hope to tally up the minutes and hope it's equal. Sometimes one child gets more, sometimes the other.
Don't fret!
Have your first child pick out a baby gift for your second. And buy something that your first really wants so the baby can give a gift to her. I did that with my kids and they still remember that. I guess it meant a lot to them.
Take care!
2006-06-26 13:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same thing when I was pregnant with my baby girl(10 months old now). I also have a 14 year old son. For some reason you are able to share the love equally with both. I love both of my children soooo much. Congrats too!!!
2006-06-26 13:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tortured Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure as soon as you see your baby girl for the first time, you'll have a hard time not pouring your attention on her. The real task is to be able to take care of your baby while at the same time being able to spend enough time with your older child. Make sure you do both.
2006-06-26 13:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant with my fourth. My oldest is 5. I was worried too especially when everyoen told me I was selfish and they other ones would not get enough attention. That is sooo not true. the kids love playing together and get sick of me. It gives them time to get a way from an adult and be a kid. You will have equal love trust me...
2006-06-26 13:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love divided is love multiplied. It is also an act of the will. The same hormones that enabled you to bond with your first child will work with all of them.
2006-06-26 21:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by rb42redsuns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I JUST HAD MY SECOND 4 MONTHS AGO SO I AM STILL NEW TO THIS ALSO. I HAVE FOUND THAT WHEN THE NEW ADDITON IS ASLEEP, SPEND TIME WITH THE OTHER CHILD. THAT WAY SHE DON'T FEEL ABANDONED. WHEN THEY ARE BOTH AWAKE LET THE OLDEST ONE HELP YOU WITH THE NEW CHILD. THIS MAKES HER FEEL IMPORTANT AND LIKE A BIG GIRL. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-26 15:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by NaeNae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just do. I felt the same way when I was prego and then when I saw my 2nd baby it just clicked. I promise you will then ask How can I love two children so much?
2006-06-26 13:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry. I went throught the same thing, and the love developed. Maybe not as quickly as with the first, but it came.
2006-06-26 13:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is part of the miracle when you're father/mother.. you'll love your kids each one as a unique one, and every one will be part of your full life. Is amazing!!
2006-06-26 13:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by ricardocobar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋