I caught my friend in my bed with my boyfriends should I dump my boyfriend and not be friends with my friend? I need some major help. my other friends also told me that he had tried to come on to them. They also said the saw him with other women. When i go to confront im about it he says it wasn't him.
2006-06-26 06:00:26 · 66 answers · asked by kyle lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, once a cheater, always a cheater!
2006-06-26 06:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by sapphiredreams_69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dont dump him. I mean if you had a pet dog that was huming the leg of your friends you wouldnt dump it or put it down. Just take him to the vet and have him neutered. Soon he will settle down becoming more docile and want to spend more tiime at home with you.
I'M KIDDING!
Why confront him. If you have established the fact that he is cheating on you get rid of him. And please dont tell me that you love him. Cause I might believe it and I would also believe you dont love yourself if you allow this to happen. Ask yourself why you allow this to happen. You cannot control him. But you can control and look after your own best interests. If allowing him to be a human mattress that hits upon your friends and anything else wearing a skirt is in your own best interests then I would suggest you stop being a human being and become a doormat.
If it doesnt fit your needs then its time to ship him out and let him hump the world along with all the dangers that represents. You on the other hand should look for someone who will appreciate what you have to offer. Consider yourself a steak....all those others are hamburgers. No one in their right mind would go out for a hamburger when they have a steak at home.
Again do not take him for neutering or do it yourself...I was KIDDING!
2006-06-26 06:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I can understand why your man said it wasn't him. Most cheaters won't fess up until they are caught red handed or completely backed into a corner. Even then, some guys might deny it. My best friends man was caught in bed with another woman. His excuse: "She attacked me- I couldn't stop her!" Did I mention he was 6'1 and the girl was about 5'5? Ya right dude.
Ok, well, first of all, I am so sorry this happened to you. What a horrible thing. Second of all, who would you believe, your friends who said they saw your man with other girls or the guy that has been lying and cheating with you?
Tough love time: This guy sounds no good and is not worth your time. Find someone new who will appreciate you. Anyone who lies to you like this is a slimeball.
As far as your friend, is she sorry? Does she seem remorseful? If you do decide to forgive her, I think you at least need some time off from her to decide. She sounds a little insecure and like she was probably jealous of your relationship and maybe wanted to sabotage it. I would be very cautious of her in your life. People like that can be very harmful..
Good luck.
2006-06-26 06:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you this, you are a woman and a beautiful one, you have to respect your self, if you don't no one is. You have to think that if your are being fare and being fateful, you deserve the same. Do not believe empty promises, you can find some one who respect you and treat you the way you need to be treated. Don't let anyone make a foul out of you. You are a woman you have the advantage that you choose who you want to be with, man have to wait for you to make that choice, not the other way around, Be proud of being a woman, embrace it.....You make your own decisions, but I tell you this a man will say anything, even that he loves you just to have sex with you. Be safe remember you can get sick because some one else is just having sex every where, protect your body, you can get aids because he is doing it with every woman, and here you are being good and behaving and he is risking your life...beware, be safe....and about your friend she is not a friend she did not respect you at all, move on ....
2006-06-26 06:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by vanilla_d_i_v_a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u kidding me??? What kind of question is this, if u have any respect for yourself and some dignity YES!!!!
Dump him and your so called girlfriend! As far as im concerned they are both trash for doing this to you- Obviously this boyfriend of yours and "friend" do not care for you nor do they love or respect you enough, if u have not dumped them to the curve then do it now-- You dont need deceiving, heartless people like that in your life! and please do not listen to their pittiful excuses, DO NOT believe the crap that comes out of their mouth, WHAT ELSE do you need?? u caught them in bed! did someone put a gun to their head and made them F*** each other?? Please grow up and dump them.
2006-06-26 06:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely dump his ***. I stayed in a horrible relationship for 6 years. Do not let this happen to you. Even though you might care about him, if he even thinks about or does something with someone else, you should definitely not be together and friends don't mess with your man. For sure you can find way better than that loser of a boyfriend. You'll find him later on in life perhaps as a nasty fat man still living at home in his parents basement playing video games eattin' Cheetos. ^-^
2006-06-26 06:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Haruko ^-^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously asking this? You must not be too hurt or think anyone was wrong here. You know the answer. Your BEST friend isn't a friend. She wouldn't do that to you. And if your boyfriend hits on all your friends then he's not worth it whatsoever. Forget them both and move on. It's hard, but life is too short to waste it on unwanted drama and people who aren't capable of having mature relationships.
2006-06-26 06:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already new the answer to this question. H--- Yea! Oh yea, expect him to lie, because that's a way with most men. Your so call friend needs to be shafted ASAP. She knew exactly what she was doing, so don't give her another chance either. Word of warning, Don't ever let your friends get too close or involved with your man, this would be the outcome. Oh, and both of them would be at fault.
2006-06-26 06:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You found a cute guy once YOU can find a cute guy again. As for the girl, f-her! She's got major competition issues. Girls like that have low self-esteem and will jump into bed w/ whatever gives them the most attention b/c thats what she lacks
2006-06-26 06:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Caramel_apples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she wasn't much of a friend if she slept with your boyfriend. So, you're not losing anything there. Having caught him with her, then you know that he is lying about the others. Since he is sleeping with just about anyone that he can, he isn't safe; diseases you know. If i were you, I'd just move on. Believe me there are much better people out there.
2006-06-26 06:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY YES!!!!
don't put up with this once a cheater always a cheater, you'll find someone in this world who wants to be with you and only you for who you are. A cheater is someone who uses you for what they need and you need more than what a cheater can give to you and you deserve someone to be faithful because you want the same from that someone who you want to be with. so many more to choose from in this world, dump him now and move on , he'll regret what he loss in you, you'll see it and know you did the right thing by moving on..
2006-06-26 06:10:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋