My sons auntie on his fathers side told me she was taking my son to macgic mountain and disneyland for the 4th of july week. Sh edemanded $200 and for me to buy him new outfits for this trip. We don't get along that well and the whole family is bossy and I try to keep my distance from them as much as possible but she's the ring leader of everything and wants things her way all the time. I feel that his father should pitch in on this trip too? Am I wrong for giving my son $100 for this trip? Should his father fund the other $100 since he is going with my son on this trip anyway?
2006-06-26 05:50:02 · 21 answers · asked by taushadoll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why would you let your son go with her.
2006-06-26 05:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by jlimages 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she offered to take your son she should not be demanding money at all. let alone why should you spend 200 dollars on new closes just for this trip. If you do decide to pay then yes the father should pay half. If I were you I would put your foot down and tell her that you will not be giving her any money. If you continue to give in to her and his family they will always treat you like this.
2006-06-26 12:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you would just want to give her all that she asks for so she can't say you never do....She's asking for too much...If they are inviting him they should pay. If you chose to give your son $50 that would be for his personal use..not hers. But to avoid conflict gove her half.....At the same time she'll probably make noise about that too... Man girl Good Luck seems like you have a very feisty one on your hands. I don;t think you should purchase new clothes just for the trip...u can send some of his nicer clothes...But as far as settling for what she is asking for I wouldn't go there. Give her $100 and that's it. She can either take him with that or not take him at all. How dare she even ask you for money......I'm pissed off for you.....GOOD LUCK
2006-06-26 12:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you ma! First of all, If you dont get along with her and if you try your best to stay away from her then why would you want to send your son with her ?? Second of all, she has no right to demand sh*t from you. For all of that you can bring him there your damn self.. Third, how is your relationship with the father? I ask this b/c you mentioned him but if you and him aren't on good terms then I wouldn't even try to take it there. Why even go through any of that frustration dealing with what part he should pay. If you have to deal with all of that then you really need to just keep your baby home with you and when you get the time and money then take him out there yourself....
I hope I help you out.. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 13:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His father should fund $100 since hes going and his Auntie should fund the other 100 because if she wants to take him she needs to pay for something cause if not then she shouldnt go you should.
2006-06-26 12:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Father should pay at least $100, especially if it is his family that is giving you the headache, and he will be going. Why should you have to even pay any, when its the auntie that is planning the whole thing.
Family can be so...you know.
2006-06-26 12:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like !
Tell your son not to give the 100$ to anyone.
Why should you pay anything when the father is going with the child? If that money is to be spent, let the daddy spend it! After all, who cares who bought clothes for your child? You or your husband? Unless of course you are seperated.
I mean, money is money! And whether you spend it or he does, it is going out of the family kitty? And why should an aunt get involved in buying clothes for the boy?
Bossy is one thing, but asking you money? Wow! That's strange! My aunt would rather spend her money on me first, rather then ask my mum for it, although then Mum would have to buy some dresses/present for my cousin/aunt when they come to our house again. It is more or less an unwritten law. But in your case, if daddy is going with junior, he'll buy stuff for the boy. And tell her that auntie dearest need not get involved.
Or you can confide in your son, Give him his pocket money seperately, and tell him that when they are about to set out, You'll give him 100 ( Or 200 bucks if you wish) to him, and that he is to give the money to his Dad , NOT AUNTIE. Then when they are living , Give the money to him in view of his Dad, and tell him to buy things for himself but , " Keep it with Dad, or you'll lose the money". The boy goes and gives the money to his Dad, thus eliminating Aunt from the loop. unless of course his dad decides to giveit to his aunt.
And tell you what, Give 100 bucks! Not 200 if you have to. Who'spayingforthe stay, tickets food etc. by the way?
2006-06-26 13:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the whole story, but I would think that if she offered to take him, she should pay for it. If not, you and the father should split it. Why don't you go too? Kill her with kindness. Your son does not need a new outfit to go to magic mountain or Disney land.
2006-06-26 12:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by April R.E.A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give her any money!! Buy your son anything he needs to wear but only give him spending money like fifty dollars.. I think you son's auntie wants to have fun at your expense. Since his father is going too, he should pay for everything else.. They are the adults who are taking your son to an amusement park, they should pay for your son.. since they are inviting him.....I think you are being taken for ride...
2006-06-26 13:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not fair. Get the father to fund the other $100. If he has nice enough clothes already, just send him with his best clothes. If he needs new clothes, I would think that you should probably do that.
2006-06-26 12:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Dave E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if it is the dads family that is taking him and the dad is going you should not have to pay anything. The father or whoever is taking him should pay his way. And buying new clothes??? If he has suitable ones, why have to buy new ones?
2006-06-26 12:57:23 · answer #11 · answered by lcombsfan_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋