I've been close to my friend’s brother for 5 years now. In the beginning we messed around but stopped because it didn't seem like it would be except by anyone. We stayed the best of friends and we've been there for each other through everything including relationships that we've had since. I love him to death and I don't know if I should tell him how I feel. I don't want to lose him and I want us to be together and the other night when we were together it felt right.
2006-06-26 05:40:53 · 29 answers · asked by bbygrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not fair... thats a trick question! Yes its good, if you have really been good friends that long then you each know the others likes and dislikes, none of the awkward "figuring things out" stage. And you should have an idea how he'll respond to you... after all you're friends.
However... if you want to screw up a good relationship, all you have to do is ask him out. Actually, thats not true... its sex that screws it up. Once that frontier is crossed you can't go back. So you have to decide if the payoff is worth losing him as a really good friend.
One of my best friends now was one of my best friends before we had a relationship. After we broke up things were strained until I told him outright we were meant to be friends and nothing more, it took a few years to develop the friendship again. And one of my best friends married her secret crush from high school after they saw each other at the 5th year reunion... and they've been married almost 8 years now.
So yes it is good... and the payoff can be tremendous... but if you guys break up, and he's not mature enough to handle just being friends again, you may lose a good friend.
Oh yeah... I say go for it, because you don't want to be wondering in a few years what could have been. You can probably get him back as a friend, but you'll never get rid of the regret if you don't try it.
2006-06-26 05:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to tell him. Maybe he feels the same way.
If he does, great, you will have your best friend and love of your life all in one. If he doesn't, then you will still have your friend.
It is very hard to transition from friend to more than friends because there is fear that you will lose that person if it doesnt work out, but to me, it sounds like you have a good solid foundation for a good relationship already and you can definitely expand on that.
2006-06-26 12:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, it felt right but you know, if your not sure...wait. He might get scared. Let it happen. Let him tell you. The signs are there. Enjoy this moment. The wanting to know. Wait till he spills the beans because if you do it and he doesnt respond the way you'd like him to then your going to get hurt. Guys think with their brains and alot of times if they don't have their life in order they rather not percieve the relationship and we just don't care. Wait. If you appreciate him the way you say you do you'll wait.
2006-06-26 12:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMHO being friends is a major part of being lovers unless all you want is sex. for any relationship to last and prosper there has to be more. if he feel the same way sooner or later you will know. if he does you two should have a better start than many couples. good luck
2006-06-26 12:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by glen t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD risk it. A lot of the best relationships start out as friends. My husband and I were friends first and have now been married for 10 years. He is still my best friend!
2006-06-26 12:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that relationships that really last are the ones that start from friendship because you know each other, understand hobbies, ways to do things and above everything else, there is real love and care because in some other relations, there is only attraction by appearence and nothing else so go for it..
2006-06-26 12:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...this situation depends on your current relationship with your bestfriend. Tou two should first establish what type of relationship you want with each other and if you two did not end up working out,would yo two remain friends. If it is going to affect your current friendship I would say dont do it. There are always other people for you to meet and enjoy yourself with.
2006-06-26 12:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by energy31o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good idea. You just must take the risk in order to get something you want. Otherwise, it's like a wish for winning the lottery, when you have bought no ticket.
2006-06-26 12:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nena S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him how you feel,and see how he responds to that.The important thing to remember is that you want to continue to have a friendship with him no matter what happens.Some say that,Friends make the best lovers because they know you best.Good Luck
2006-06-26 12:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by princess M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been great friends it follows logically that you can have a great relationship. However, when you take it up a notch, you are putting the enitre relationship on the line (friends don't "break-up" as often as couples do)
2006-06-26 12:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by DonSoze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋