She's almost 91 years old, and has all her marbles. But she is having trouble caring for herself in her own apartment. She has insisted in the past that she won't go into assisted living because of the connotations of that kind of place, but she can no longer care for herself. She knows it, too.
2006-06-26 05:21:54 · 6 answers · asked by AJP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take her for a tour, have her spend some days there (some places will let you do day programs), you can ease her into it., let her make as many decisions as possible.
i just had to put my grandma into an assisted living place, for her it wasn't so hard...but she was on a lock down dementia unit (from meds) so any place was better than that.
i work in a assisted living/skilled facility and most people love it there once they are there, and really there is no connotations with that "kind of place".
see what kind of place that she would want, most places have single apt, or shared apt. some will come equipped with a microwave and small fridge, some don't...some are large (like living in a apt complex), some are small (like living in a family)....there are different levels of care (level 1 and level 2)....some have a RN or LPN on duty all times..some just have CMT's......
good luck
2006-07-02 17:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by sassymaccat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is that right now, she can help you pick out a place she would like. Research the places together, make appointments and go with her. Let her be involved in where she will live. You say she knows it. Most seniors are afraid of losing what independence they have. Make sure the place will let her still do as much as she cares to for herself--with them able to be there if she needs them.
2006-06-26 05:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was an LNA which mean licensed nurse Assistant and i can tell you a home is no place for her i worked in a few of them and she is right people don't take good care of you there and why can't you as her child take care of her? she raised and took care of you for how many years? come on she is 91 how much longer is she gonna live for? take her in for her last few years it Will be better than to watch her die unhappy in a place she never wanted to go and never was treated the way she should be!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-26 05:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea04201983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gran or ma'am or watever u call her- u know I love you and I dont want anything bad happening to you. The problem is I wont be able to watch you everytime and take care of you as much as I want to. and there is only one solution to this, which is that you go to a living facility and I will visit you every single time I get a chance. I promise you wont miss me
2006-06-26 05:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by tebuny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try to convince her that they can take better care of her than you or herself can, and also let her know that she still deserves the best of care and that the assisted living can provide that for her.
2006-06-26 05:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by dzr0001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her move in with you? or if she has enough money, get a caretaker.. but if she lives in an apartment.. no luck in that..
2006-06-26 05:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋