I have a 4 month old baby and all he wants is his mommy what can i do to break him of that?

Question

My baby boy loves to be held. Mostly by his mommy.But I need to break him of that real fast! He only wants me all the time never anyone else so what should I do?

Answer 1

there is nothing you can do. i assume you are with him the majority of the time which makes him more connected to you. it is a phase and will pass in the next couple of months. if a few years you are going to be wishing he still wanted his mommy.

Answer 2

At 4 months old, it's normal and perfectly acceptable to want to be held by mommy all the time. As your son grows and develops he will take more interest in interacting with the world and gradually require less holding. It's not true that holding him all the time will condition him to expect it or make it worse. It will just make him feel secure and loved and allow him to develop confidence.
Many babies don't even realize that they are seperate beings from their Mother until they are a few months old.
You just have to keep holding him, until he is ready. That's what he is telling you he needs and it's your responsibility to oblige.

Answer 3

You have to introduce the baby to some more people. It's going to be hard on you. The baby will cry. Once he gets used to having another person around, it will be ok. This is called "separation anxiety". You have to learn to share your baby with other people or you will have a problem in the future.

What if you had to go to the hospital or something and you couldn't bring the baby. You have to find someone to look at him, so start now. The baby will cry, but if you wait too long (like when he is older), he'll cry more. It's easier to do it when they are younger. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 4

Not much. At that age that's all they want is mommy and then the first words they utter is dada. Give it time, he will break away with from.....In the mean time encourage him to go to other family members and then move on from there. Also check to see if he's teething, sometimes when they are teething they crave you more. Good luck.

Answer 5

OK don't listen to all these people who say you can't break what he is doing, you can indeed stop it don't pick him up every time he crays and you need to start leaving him even if it is for a few hours with your mother or others mother or some relative let him get used of being with other people b/c if you don't eventually you won't be able to even leave him with anyone if you don't

Answer 6

LOL You can't "break" him of that. He's your child. For the first few months they don't even know that you and he are two different people! You just have to wait for the cognitive development to hit the independence stage. Enjoy this time! When he's 15 and saying he hates you, you'll wish for the days he wanted you around.

Answer 7

It's just a phase, relax. He won't be like this forever. Maybe soon (a month or 2) he'll start to separate easier. For the time being, hold him - he obviously needs his attachment to his mom. Letting him cry will only make him upset and abandoned.

Answer 8

Your baby will be attatched to you emotionaly, for the next Seven years,,at such time he will gain some of his own independant ways,,,but he will always be reliant on you emotionaly.
It is wrong of you to be thinking of breaking him of anything at this delicate stage in life.
You need to find councelling,,or an experienced friend or family member to releive you when it gets too much.

Answer 9

One of my twins went through this - she grew out of it in a few weeks. She did not want Daddy or anyone else- just Mommy. While it boosted my ego - it ticked off my husband and my other baby!!!

Answer 10

The sad thing is that we want to comfort our children when they cry and for babies we pick them up and hold them close or never leave them with other people. Its hard but you have to stop picking him up when he cries and you should start leaving him for short periods and extending it to longer times to ease him into becoming used to your absences.