Is there a proper way to ask for cash instead of gifts for your wedding?

Question

My fiancee and I have been living together for over a year, so we don't need anything. We thought cash would be great to go towards the honeymoon!

Answer 1

To ask outright on an invitation is bad manners. Typically if you let your parents and his parents know your wishes are for cash instead of gifts for the home you know you dont need and/or won't use then they can spread the word amongst the family members that were invited to the wedding. As for friends/coworkers that are invited, you can bring up the subject that you are having a hard time figuring out what to register for since you and your fiance have everything you need and that if there was a polite way to register for "cash" that you would do it. Try to make it seem lighthearted and not directly asking for cash and that should do the trick.

There are also several online companies that take contributions from guests directly for your honeymoon. You can register for different activities online and people can purchase specific items for you or just contirbute a certain dollar amount to be applied to the trip in general.

Answer 2

You can't put it in the invitation, it's not proper etiquette. You have to have family and friends spread the word, but beware, you're still going to get gifts, so you might as well register somewhere so you at least get what you want. I just got married 2 weeks ago and we spread the word that we wanted money, but we also registerd at Bed Bath & Beyond for those that really don't want to give money. We had our family and friends spread the word and if anyone seemed like they really didn't want to give money then they were told where we were registered. We had a guest list of 110, and we got a lot of money and just a few gifts, it worked out perfect. But, if you don't register anywhere, you're going to get gifts that you don't want and can't be returned. It will work, I promise. We got way more money than I ever thought and it really came in handy.

Answer 3

There is not a proper way of asking for cash instead of gifts.

But you could tell your immediate family and then the word would get spread that way. Also, if you do receive gifts you do not want, just return them and keep the cash.

Answer 4

The worst thing about a wedding is getting gifts that you don't need or want. If they don't give you a gift receipt then you can't return it for cash only store credit. Is your wedding traditional? If no then you could insert a paper that says cash only please no gifts. Or you could just do word of mouth. Congrats. Too bad getting married wasn't easier huh?

Answer 5

No,there is no polite way the best idea is to open up a honeymoon account or a honeymoon fund and have people spread it that are close to you to others .

Answer 6

It depends on what you want to use the money for. There are websites that let your guests contribute however much they want to your honeymoon. I know of a few off hand.
distintivehoneymoons.com
honeyluna.com
honeymoonwishes.com
starwoodhoneymoons.com
the bigday.com
Each site has it's own personality and rules. So I hope that helped a little.

Answer 7

Trust me you won't get much gifts anyway. Most people give you cash. So I wouldn't worry about asking for it. Besides everyone probably knows you are living together.

Answer 8

My fiance and I were older and already had everything we needed and enough for 2 households so we put out the word that cash would be appreciated instead of gifts but that we didn't expect any gifts at all.

Answer 9

Yes - don't have a bridal shower and don't register anywhere. That gives people no choice but to give you money. That's what my husband and I did for our wedding last year and it worked out amazing! Just the way we wanted!

Answer 10

No..it's tacky.