My boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year, and have been living together almost as long. Sometimes, at night, I'm woken up by motions or sounds, and I suspect that he is "pleasuring himself." The 1st time or 2 was disturbing. Then I got over it. But the last time or two, I was annoyed because, a few hours before, I tried to initiate intimacy but he just wanted to go to sleep. What gives?
(I don't think it's TOO often, but I might be sleeping through more occasions than I realize...)
1) Is this normal behavior - to m*sturbate when you're perfectly willing and able (although, perhaps, sleeping) girlfriend is right beside you? (not that it matters if I'm sleeping - it wakes me up anyway !)
2) If this isn't normal, or even if it is, SHOULD WE TALK ABOUT? If so - HOW!?
2006-06-26 05:08:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal and maybe at the time you intiate it he's tired or not in the mood but later on he is and doesn't want to disturb you. Next time when you hear him help him out or ask to join in. He might appreciate it.
2006-06-26 05:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
communication,if you are not afraid to sleep with him you should not be afraid to talk to him
he may want you to join in or participate at the same time. don't turn to a book your man has all the answers as to what makes him happy and by the way tell him what makes you happy
good luck
2006-06-26 13:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by evian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) No it is not normal to jerk off in bed next to the girlfriend. He should save that for the shower or something or when you aren't around.
2)Tell him straight up to stop wacking it in bed and give you some lovin.
2006-06-26 12:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recomend washing yourself, getting some lingerie, ohhhhh wait her is a clue your not doing something right.....read a book about sex, rent a porn anything if you actually liked him you wouldnt be on here asking you would have already done these things
2006-06-26 12:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by chalpin07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1-He is just an idiot and doesn't deserves you.
2-He doesn't find you sexually attractive.
Me personally I go with he is an idiot(no guy with the right mind would go for masturbation while having a willing woman by his side no matter if she is ugly or fat) you should dump him.
2006-06-26 12:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ivan R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that sex with you is boring. Bad sex is worse than no sex.
Your boyfriend is not interested in having sex with you but yet still needs the release.
You need to find ways to make sex more interesting.
Stop laying there like a dead fish. Explore new positions.
Act interested in satisfying each other.
Otherwise your boyfriend will have sex woth someone else, since hes not getting satisfied from you.
2006-06-26 12:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him about it and find out who or what he is thinking about to get stimulated. It seems that he is not as turned on with you as you are with him. either that or he is gay and have not come out of the closet yet.
2006-06-26 12:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not so normal. next time he does it you should grab his ahem, and start helping him with it. Or else start moaning and pleasing yourself. maybe it's a fetish. see what happens. otherwise it signifies problems with intimacy. And you should address it exactly as you asked us.
2006-06-26 12:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he is doing it next, wake up and sit on him and make put his stick inside u .....hope he will stop that behavior because i think it is bad for u and for him
2006-06-26 12:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by diamond maker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's done the foreplay. hop on and have fun
2006-06-26 12:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋