I don't know how to compose it. He's a close friend but he's in an other country so i want to write him a letter. What do I say? What should I write?
2006-06-26 04:56:24 · 10 answers · asked by mihika 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
make it from the heart....
let them know that you are "sorry for their loss" and you "understand how much (person's name) meant to them".
then, i would include a funny or sweet story about them if you knew the deceased.
if not, then just let them know that you are there for them if they ever need to talk and that you look forward to seeing them soon, or talking to them soon.
also, i would find a sympathy card, not just a loose-leaf letter....
take care.
2006-06-26 05:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many times Hallmark can phrase it better than we can. A nice card is always acceptable.
If you want to write a letter this is also acceptable.
Start if off with "I'm sorry to hear of the of lose of your _____ (brother, sister...)" if you didn't know the person who died. If you did know the person use their name.
Let them know you are thinking of them. "I wanted to let you know, you are in our thoughts (or prayers)."
Offer support. "If there is anything I can do for you, please feel free ask."
Keep the letter short, and not to mushy.
Depending on what country your friend is in, you may wish to Fedex it. The card/letter should arrive with in a week. If the mail service can't handle it, spend the bucks for express.
Something else you might wish to consider, flowers. If the person is a close friend, you can go online find a florist, order a nice potted plant, and have a note attached.
We like to think the flowers are for the dead, but in truth, they are more for the family.
2006-06-26 12:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Robin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has lost a very close family member very recently, and has received these cards - it's tough. Of course, it depends on the personality of the person you are writing the card to - but Hallmark cards with pre-written sentiments just pissed me off - it's like they couldn't take 5 minutes to write a nice sentence. One of my friends sent me a really cool planted flower with a card that said "To the well-organised mind, death is but the next great adventure." It's a quote from Harry Potter - which I do love -and it was about the sweetest thing I received, b/c I knew she was thinking of me, trying to make me laugh a bit(which is OK in a kind way) and it was a comforting thought. It was great, too - b/c it was totally an expression of who she is - and that cheered me up too. People who have just lost someone know how hard it is for their friends to talk to them about it - it's painful and awkward. So a thoughtful expression of "wow - this has got to be hard for you" is (in my opinion) the best thing you can do.
The same friend also framed a set of cloud stamps for me, b/c she knew I love clouds - and figured I probably wasn't taking time to notice things going on in our beloved postal system. I have that framed set of stamps on my wall.
2006-06-26 14:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jericho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know the truth about how you feel. Let him know that you realize that there aren't any magic words you can say to ease his pain but you want to offer your support during this time of pain for him that he is a close friend and that you care deeply. during a time of loss it may help to know that he has friends who care.
2006-06-26 12:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you are there for him in his time of bereavement. You may also write about God calling his Angels and inspirational things like that. Never say you are sorry tho...
2006-06-26 12:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so hard i feel for you
tell them that you are thinking of them and you are there for them and that they are in your thoughts
no words can explain but in there sorrow knowing you are thinking of them in there hour of need will bring some comfort
good luck with your letter
respect
shaz
2006-06-26 12:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send a card and add something like "prayers for you and your family at the difficult time" or "thinking of you"
2006-06-26 13:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose a hallmark, he is going to feel the same iether way, plus it really is hard to face something like that!!
2006-06-30 10:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them a card that has it already written.
2006-06-26 12:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-06-16 00:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋