How can I get over Jealousy?

Answer 1

You have to trust someone. If your jealous and in a relationship it could and would tear it apart.

Answer 2

Jealousy isn't about the other person. It's about YOU. People get jealous because they are insecure and have low self esteem. They generally imagine they aren't worthy of the other person, therefore the other person MUST be cheating on them. The only way to get over being a jealous person is to decide you are worthy of being loved.

If the other person IS seeing someone else, then that's a different story altogether.

Answer 3

Jealousy is just one of many negative emotions caused (according to Buddhism) by Attachment. All the negative emotions are capable of being removed from one's self by one's self. But it will take an open mind and learning. Buddhism is a means of controlling one's own mind. Jealousy like hate, anger, and all the negative emotions, are in the mind. They have no power unless you give it to them. Anyway here is a new approach for you to consider.
http://www.longleaf.net/ggrow/Buddhism.html

Answer 4

Needless to say, the best protection against jealousy is a good relationship, i.e. prevention is better than a cure. If the love can be kept alive and exciting, that is much more effective than trying to revive a threatened love. Once jealousy has occurred, however, what works best? Salovey and Rodin (1985) asked 100 college students what had worked for them. Best was "tough it out ," i.e. controlling their emotions and becoming even more committed to and attentive to the loved one. A second method was somewhat effective, namely, "selective ignoring ," i.e. telling themselves that the desired object (the lover or some achievement) was just not that important. A third method, telling themselves their good qualities and doing something nice for themselves, was not helpful in this case. Read on.
Branden (1981) advocates an openly honest "I feel..." response. Example: you see your partner flirting with a very attractive person at a party. Rather than bitterly attacking the partner, what if later you said: "As I watched you with him/her , I immediately felt anxious. There were butterflies in my stomach and I started to imagine that you might try to see him/her later and get all emotionally involved. The idea of your touching and holding him/her really upset me. I'm scared you will leave me." Such an frank, unattacking response, which discloses the true feelings underneath the jealousy, should make it easy for the flirting partner to response sympathetically and honestly to the heart of the matter, namely the jealous person's hurt and fears. This honesty is usually the best way to handle jealousy.
What is the best protection against being devastated by an actual break up or the possibility of a break up? Self-esteem and a belief that your future will work out okay. But esteem has to be developed before the break up, not afterwards. Some simple techniques may be useful in reducing jealousy: stay active, distract yourself with friends, fun, hobbies, work, self-improvement, etc.; thought stopping (ch. 11) should reduce the jealousy arousing fantasies; desensitization (ch. 12) can reduce the emotional response of jealousy just as if it were a fear; venting (ch. 12) will relieve the hurt and angry feelings; seek support from friends and tell them how you feel. Also, you must challenge your irrational ideas that drive you "crazy" (ch. 14), including understanding that jealousy is probably unavoidable to some degree, that you are responsible for your feelings, that the thrill of a new love will initially overshadow a taken-for-granted relationship, that some "games" are played to make us jealous, that some partners are so self-centered they can not be faithful, that no love comes with a life-time guarantee, that there may be very good reasons for your former lover to be interested in someone else, etc. Most of us who have been deeply hurt by a rejection know, however, that little can be done about the pain during the first several days or weeks. You can try to keep busy and "keep your mind off of it," but in the main you just have to tough it out.
Before long, the basic solution to these many irrational thoughts and expectations surely involves a counterattack with rational thinking. One important point to realize is that intense jealousy does not prove there is intense "true love " between two people. In fact, jealousy only reflects your intense needs, your desperation to keep what you want (at the moment), and your unrealistic (perhaps) demands about what the future should hold. Thus, jealousy reflects self-interest and self-love, rather than mutual "true love." A second important point is that your lover can decide to like or love someone else without that proving in any way that you are less worthwhile or less desirable or less lovable. There are hundred of reasons why people lose interest in others, including paradoxical reasons like "I'm not good enough for him/her," "I'm just not as serious or ambitious as they are," etc. And, there are many good reasons for changing partners that demean no one, e.g. "I have more interests in common with another person," "Our cultural-religious backgrounds are so different," "Our futures will take us in different directions," etc. Being rejected doesn't mean you are no good.
For many hurting people, it is helpful to realize that the pain of childhood wounds may intensify your reactions to the hurtful situation. Sometimes, putting yourself in your partner's shoes is very helpful. One partner can write a defense for the actions and feelings of the unfaithful or rejecting partner, while the other partner writes a description and defense of his/her partner's pain and jealousy. It may also help if the jealous person acts as if he/she is not jealous. It will probably help to know that jealousy is common and normal, not a shameful personal weakness, and that jealousy is a result of the situation. Ask yourself: "Have you been constantly jealous in every relationship?" If no, then you aren't an unavoidably "jealous person." In short, your understanding of both the hurtful and the hurting person can be reframed, i.e. the unfaithful person may be seen as seeking a childhood dream or desperately signaling that the marriage is in deep trouble. There are many ways to reduce jealousy (Pines, 1992b). In any case, the pain will normally go away in a few weeks.
Unquestionably, it is often wise for lovers with doubts to break up. Considering the divorce rate, perhaps we, even in pain from rejection, should be thankful and accept it. Not likely! Yet, a person with "true unselfish love" would say, "I love you enough to let you do whatever you think is best for you, even if that means leaving me." But, romantic love is selfish. Perhaps the best you can hope for is to learn from this relationship and select a better partner and be a better partner next time. If you break up, the most important thing to remember is: "I am a valuable, lovable person regardless of whether you love me or not. It hurts but I can handle it. I'll get on with my life." For me, the best way to get over pining for a lost love (after a month or so) is to begin carefully looking for a better relationship (Mathes, 1988, found several women reduced their jealousy this way, men did not). Other people need some time alone. See discussion of divorce and re-marriage.

Answer 5

maybe the reason behind ur jealousy is true(dont avoid that)
but if its not then tell ur partner about it and he should help u

Answer 6

Just do one thing
whenever u r jealouse just put ur finger into ur *** for a min and then smell it. yeah i know this is bad(****) but doing this u'll feel that its better not to be jealouse then smelling a *** finger

Answer 7

Try believing in yourself! Good luck!

Answer 8

confident..know u could have anyman u want ! n trust..is all in u head !dont worry too much about!

Answer 9

trust the one you love. maybe you dont have alot of self esteem.

Answer 10

If you really love this person you'll learn to trust them!!!!