You can have an affair and love the person you are having the affair with yes, but it is the beginning of a relationship that is trustworthy. Whether it is you, the other person, or both of you that are cheating, it is a relationship that is built on a shaky foundation of infidelity.
I had an affair with a woman, whom unfortunately I grew to love, and who decided that she was no longer happy and wanted something else. She moved on to a new relationship within a month after the breakup. This after saying that she loved me as well.
Statistics show that most relationships based on infidelity last an average of six months. They can last and endure, but the odds are against you.
I think the right course of action for you is to do what I am trying to do, remake your relationship with your spouse or boyfriend. I screwed up, but my wife is so loving and loves me so much that we are trying to fix the damage caused by my infidelity, and the damage we both created that led to us drifting apart and looking to other people in our owns ways in the first palce.
Find out why you are having feelings that make you stray, and go to counseling to work out your problems. If they cannot be worked out, then do the right thing and break it off. Then, any relationships you build can start out on the right foot. Good luck.
2006-06-26 04:44:46
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answered by Raistliin 5
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No I've never had an affair. But I have been the other woman twice. Not a good thing and nothing I'm proud of. Just remember ... what goes around comes around. And also ... 2 wrongs don't make it right. In the end you'll get hurt whether you're the cheater or the other person. Just watch out you can get burnt easily. It happened to me. I broke up his marriage because another woman had broken mine and then I kept this other guy and lookie lookie now I find out he's cheating on me.
2006-06-26 11:42:06
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answered by bella_mexicana_rellena 2
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Sure....anyone can have an affair...including your wife!!!! Would you feel better about it then? If you're so in love with "the other woman", leave the one you're with and be with that one. Sounds to me like want to "have your cake and eat it too". Wise up! And if you expect this to last a lifetime, I think you have something else coming. Not the answer you were looking for I know, but it's the right answer.
2006-06-26 11:43:54
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answered by trueblond195 5
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I don't believe you can have an affair and truly love the person you are seeing. You might be able to love them but you wouldn't be "in love" with them anymore. Loving someone takes respect, trust and honesty. If you respected them, you wouldn't be cheating on them. Could they trust you if they found out? And would you lie to them if they asked? What you should probably do is find out what the "someone else" is offering that your sweetie isn't and see if it is really worth losing what you have over. If it is then you probably shouldn't be with the person you are and have at the new flame. If it isn't worth the risk drop the extra baggage and focus on what is really important.
2006-06-26 11:42:49
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answered by sage_vixen 2
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Don't be a coward! Do it or don't do it, and stop toying with the idea. If you aren't committed to the relationship you are in, why be in it? Or better yet - let your significant other know that she can have some lovers on the side.
Whatever you do, be up front about it, and deal with the consequences like a man.
2006-06-26 11:41:02
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answered by Rico Machiavelli 2
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I think a person can have an affair and love 2 poeple, but I also think that no matter what someone will get hurt.
2006-06-26 11:38:44
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answered by cutipi_1977 3
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I've heard of that, but never happened to me. I have heard of a couple who have had a lifelong affair, and were truly in love, but for whatever reason stayed with their spouse.
I really do think that you can love two people in a romantic way.
2006-06-26 11:38:46
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answered by Anonymous
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You can lie and say you love someone while your having an affair. It happens all the time
2006-06-26 11:38:36
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answered by dmxdragon2 6
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I'm having an affair and I'm in love with this person...I love to feel in love....9 months and counting
2006-06-26 11:38:24
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answered by JeNe 4
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No, I think at some point the "other women" wants more or finds someone new or someone gets caught.
2006-06-26 11:38:57
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answered by shae 6
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