ok here it is... my boyfriend & i have been together for 3 years however we were apart for a while, i left him for another man but after awhile we got back because he loved me dearly, upon my return i ask him if he was still with someone else cuz i know he had been sleeping around but he said no he broke off contact with all the girl he has been with. but there was this particular girl who kept on calling him who he claims was obsess with him & couldn't get over him thats why she still calls him, but i figured something was wrong so i did my research & found out they were still together & the girl knew nothing about me all she knew was that i was his ex, anyways the whole truth came out & he eventually choose to be with me, ok just last night he told me that he found out fathers day that she was pregnant & she got rid of it, he said it wasn't intentional but i told him if he respected me he would have tried not to get someone else pregnant, how would u honestly feel about this!
2006-06-26 04:32:50 · 41 answers · asked by curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
who is DR. PHIL?????
2006-06-26 04:40:32 · update #1
oh for the folks that thinks he is lying about the abortion y would he? he claims he called the doctor to see if the girl was lying and it turns out she di had an abortion.
and next thing alot of people told me i look too good to be sitting around and taking his bulshit even his friends but he is a great guy away from the cheating and i am not so sure there r guys out there who dont cheat and lie and will be real!!
2006-06-26 04:48:57 · update #2
hey we got aback and after 5 -6 months i found out they were sill together after he told me that they were apart, i know i cheated but i didn't lie about it, i told him the minute i did!
2006-06-26 04:57:07 · update #3
Well the fact that you stayed with him after you found about about the whole situation is your first mistake...but since you're there now...
She and him obviously had sex often and he was pretty excited by it if he accidently got her pregnant...that means he was much more focused on the feeling then at the logical thought that ge better be careful...keep that in mind next time you sleep with him and see if he has the same intensity...probably not, so you should just move on. Besides...he's probably just sleeping with her behind your back now and she is going along with hiding it from you.
Ok, I've read though a lot of the responses on here since I posted this the first time and I just have to laugh...so many TOUGH girls when it comes to typing responses... "once a cheater always a cheater", "I'd leave him." , "Don't degrade yourself" So many of you would do the same thing...maybe if you answered a little more sincerely and put yourself in the emotional "boat" that this girl is in, you'd say something different...cause I know most of you would act differently.
2006-06-26 04:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by 1n51ght 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey cant neither one of you talk about respect or lack there of. Both of you stepped out the relationship, and you did it first when you left him for another man and claimed you got back together bc he loved YOU so dearly, apparently the feelings were mutual or you wouldnt have gotten back together in the first place. Now if he lied to you and still choose to be with him-thats your bad bc you said yourself he chose to be with you, so anything previous to you shouldnt matter. You're supposed to forgive him and move in. I know its easier said than done but its not fair to be with him and hold that over his head, I mean he just found out, on Fathers Day no less (now how tacky is that),so he claims, and in turn he told you, so maybe thats his first step in trying to mend the relationship and make it right and thats by being honest with you. EIther give him a break, or give yourself a break and let him go. Good luck with both.
2006-06-26 04:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Free_Spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a chance of pregancy when having sex. The only way to "try" not to get someone pregnant is to not have sex, period. Abstinence is the only true form of birth control. I don't think you're going to like my answer, but you were the one who broke it off with him in the first place. You can't have it both ways, sweetie...I know this sucks, I know it hurts to find this out...but YOU left HIM...had you stayed together, perhaps this whole thing wouldn't have happened. I'm assuming you had sex with the guy you left him for....the only difference between you and your boyfriend is that you didn't get pregnant. You're both guilty. You'll have to forgive him and move past this or end the relationship...but you really need to take responsibility for your part in this. You didn't respect him in the first place by leaving him.
2006-06-26 04:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 you both were separated from each other.
#2 You left Him for another man
It sound like you want your cake and eat it too. It doesn't work that way All the time. You have to compromise. Did you expect him to be lonely while you were out mingling? He deserve to find happiness too. He thought it was truly over. In his time of dating he got someone pregnant. Ish happens. It could have happened to you. Would it be different if you were pregnant and he took YOU back? Look she didn't have the baby. Let the past be the past.
2006-06-26 04:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Chyna D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a tough one the idea to get rid of it was wrong
cause that is killing a little person but when he got her pregnant was he still with and if he was then you need to get rid of him because the saying goes once a cheater always a cheater but any way if he was not with you then it was okay cause you were broke up and i am sure you went out and saw other people but any way you need to talk to him and figure out what he wants and there is nothing wrong with girls calling him if he is just friends with them but if not then it is not okay. good luck to you both and god bless you both
2006-06-26 04:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by bay_robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is in the past, I wouldn't believe the other girls accusations either...been there and didn't do that...she made same accusations but later found out that it was never true..if you accept someone back after such a break-up, then what happened in the past should not be settled or negotiated later in the relationship.
2006-06-26 04:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I'm glad I'm not in your shoes because i wouldn't be able to handle that i hate lies if he's cheated once he may very easily cheat again hey he got her pregnant that's too much if he did that while you were together i would have to let him go don't degrade yourself and make him feel that's OK you have t think of your future whats your life going to be like will you have to be on his tail every time you feel like hes lying that doesn't seem like a happy picture. you can find someone that will respect you just give it time. good luck.
2006-06-26 04:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is the foundation of a normal/healthy relationship. You can love someone, but If the bond of truth and respect is in question then I think u need to do some soul searching. Is he or is he not worth it.
2006-06-26 04:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by momprotect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you left him for another man but he came back because he loved you dearly. You didn't say you loved him dearly and now your punishing him for going out and finding someone when you dumped him originally for someone else. Take your medicine and deal with it. You both sound confused and might be meant for each other
2006-06-26 04:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be pis*ed off!!! it sounds like a rocky relationship but there is still love between you two ...it's not going to be easy but I think it will work get everything straight tell him how you feel and why and give him a chance to speak his mind ...the vow to start over...and really put the past behind...
2006-06-26 04:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by JeNe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋