I know a guy he is 34 i am 35 female we get on super.I think i might fancy him more than anyone i have ver met in the last while but yep there is always a but, he has a 14 year old daughter from a previous relationship,he has also got in contact with a girl he was involved with 12 years ago,him an i have been texting an talking on the phone everyday for the past 7 months but thats as far as it goes I used to visit him but stopped ,I get wound up to 90 when the ex of 12 years ago visits he always tells me when she calls r when they are talkin , he knwos I get upset over her an has told me more than once if I want he will stop talking to her etc,I think he is playing me,problem is it is working.One more thing I told him last week end that I think i had sort of developed stronger feelings for him he passed no comment of course i said it in the middle of tellin him i wanting nothing more to do with him, anyhow i text over soemthing else an all he said was" r u in better form with me now"
2006-06-26 04:23:26 · 15 answers · asked by bermur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it up hun, I don't think he's on the same level with you.
2006-06-26 04:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're not too pleased about his having a daughter. This could be the problem. If you and her don't get on he may be reluctant to start a relationship with you because his daughter should and will always come first. If his ex that you mention is the mother of this child, your chances are even slimmer I'm afraid. They have formed a blood link that you have not, therefore she will take priority, no matter how he feels about you.
I don't think he is playing you, he is probably trying to find out how serious you are about him and whether you two could have a long term relationship, for the sake of his daughter, to give her stability. He may just want to be friends.
My suggestion is that you both meet somewhere neutral such as a pub or cafe without his daughter in attendance. You need to talk about your intentions for the relationship and ask him about his expectations of you and what you can do for each other. If it's a 'no' on his part then at least you can move on with a satisfactory answer.
2006-06-26 05:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw babe, poor you - however I think the signs are all in your favour!! i mean if hes prepared to give up contact with the ex from 12 years - he DEFO likes you!! As for when you said that you had the feelings for him - well you did kinda send out mixed signals by telling him you didnt want to see hm anymore!! I mean come on the poor guy doesnt know what to do!! I think you need to meet him - explain how you really feel, if he feels teh same, result, if he doesnt, give it a few weeks apart and start the friendship back on the same level. But personally speaking i think you are well in there. He prob feels the same as you and is just as scared
2006-06-26 04:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally i think you should grow up for a woman of your age. If you fancy him then tell him outright then at least you will know where you stand if you get rejected move on. Regards his child of 12 well if she lives with her father then you have to accept that they come as a package.
Also the ex well there is nothing wrong with still being friends with an ex.
So either go for it or stop winging.
2006-06-26 04:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by sophie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see where you are coming from. I would just tell him how you feel and that if he feels the same then he needs to let you know. The ball is in his court then, he is the one who has to get in contact with you. If you don't here anything from him, then you will know. Not in a very nice way, but there isn't a nice way to find something like this out. Just don't be dicked around!
2006-06-26 04:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by chrisnewcars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as i see it you have 2 options
1)drop him but you seem to have feelings 4 him so you might find that hard so,
2)bring him out for a nice meal dress up real sexy, have a bottle of wine over dinner etc and have a chat be forward with him. try and kiss him at some stage and see where it goes.
it may not work but as i see it, it is the only way and you have nothing to lose
2006-06-26 04:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by peterpeterpeter1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is flattered by your luved up feelings for him but i feel he just wants to be friends with you, he likes to see a reaction from you when he speaks to his ex. Who knows he could have stronger feelings but you're not gonna know unless you ask, some men are just like cavemen you have to tell it how it is? you feel hurt whether you see him or not so lay it on the line to him tell him your feelings towards him and ask him how he feels about you. if he doesn't feel the same way then move on to the next fit man there's plenty of them???
2006-06-26 04:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lyniroquai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now. Dont look back you asre asking for trouble.
He will cheat on you with his ex. He knows he can so he will.
And you told him how you feel about him so now he KNOWS he can act like a fool...
Drop him now
Read the book "He's just not into you" I read it because my wife wanted to know if it is true about men...IT really is. Sorry guys you know it is.
2006-06-26 04:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by smitty031 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut all communication with him. He is playing you like a fine- tuned fiddle.......and a couple of other women as well. Move on with your life . Find a man that wants you, and only you. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 04:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart
2006-06-26 04:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by the Chelsea guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋