the other night my dad yelled at me cuz he started to tell me that he wanted the house to be clean when the rest of my family go on vacation leaving me and my cousin and my friend the house to ourselves. i was walking and he said"listen to me!" i yelled back that i was! and then he started to yell at me and said **** you and called me a lazy *****(even though my cuzin and my friend live with us and i am the only one with a full time good paying job)... and now he isnt talking to me and wants me to appologize. i dont want to or think i should have to. what should i do? he used to be my best friend now he and i are like nothing.
2006-06-26 04:14:07 · 18 answers · asked by harasgirl2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would like to add that i pay rent and that they wont let me leave the house untill my car is paid off, and i didnt walk away i was in the prosess of walking when he started yelling.
2006-06-26 04:40:29 · update #1
TELL HIM UER SORRY, THINGS WOULD NOT GO BACK AS THE SAME THOUGH!! IT MIGHT BUT IT WOULD TAKE A WHILE!!!
2006-06-26 04:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by Curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Father and daughter yelling at each other can happen every day. You said you are the one who gets a full time job. Then you are right to be served at home. But the problem can be solved if you or your dad will change the tone a little bit, and let your cousin or your friends do the cleaning. All in all, I think you should apologize him. It is not because you are wrong, but he is your dad who deserves some respect.
2006-06-26 11:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave out too many details. Why is the family leaving you (3) behind? Is it because of your job? or did you not want to go with them? Is this the first time that you do not go on vacation with them?
This argument doesn't really seem like it stems from cleaning the house or you being "lazy", it sounds like something deeper.
You mentioned that your Dad used to be your best friend. Sounds to me like things are now changing... you're not his baby any more, you're getting a life of your own and it is bothering him more than he thinks.
Sometimes people have a hard time saying exactly what is on their minds and argue over things that have nothing to do with it.
Approach him, and delicately bring up the subject about how you feel... let him know that you miss him but you have to go on with your life.
Sometimes bringing up the truth to someone is enough to make them change their ways. Just talk to him.
2006-06-26 11:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by olivia6799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your dad is like, but most people hate being told that they are wrong. If you feel you are right and he is the one who over reacted, than take that and have it be a quiet victory inside your head. You dont have to apologize for what happened, but atleast acknowledge your part of the argument to your dad. If that doesn't fix the situation, maybe it's time to consider putting those checks from your full-time job towards rent.
2006-06-26 11:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by The_Handle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way in h-e-l-l I would apologize for him yellin at u. I would tell him we need to talk. Sit down with him and tell him he hurt your feelings the night he called you lazy a-s-s and everything. I would let him know that you heard him loud and clear and knows what he expects while away but he didn't have to talk to you like that. He is still your best friend and will always be there but not if you dont talk about how you feel and let him know that it wasn't cool and you dont like it. Best friends tell each other good and bad...Good Luck
2006-06-26 11:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by mrsmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you yelled at and disrespected your father, you should apologize. It doesn't matter how old you are and that you have a good-paying job. If you live in his house you need to respect him. Even if you don't get an apology from him if he was wrong in his dealing with you, you need to do what's right.
If it's that bad between you, you should probably consider moving out if you're of age.
2006-06-26 11:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your dad have been close then you need to be the better person and apologize. Can you imagine what you would feel like if something happened to him and you never got a chance to say im sorry. My mom is somewhat hardheaded when it comes to us arguing and she is my best friend so i will be the one to call and say im sorry just so that the argument is over. Family is so important. Good luck and i hope you guys make up.You seem to be the strong one.
2006-06-26 11:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self pride does hurt sometimes...but honesty is a great healer. If there is any truth to what your Dad said, be mature about it, accept it, and show him as a responsible adult, your action will be convincing by apologizing. Let him see for himself your ability of cleaning the house before he leaves for vacation, that in itself is a very loving gesture. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 11:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I dont think you should apologize for walking away. Exspecially if your dad was calling you a lazy b*tch and all that. He obviously needs to act like an adult and just drop it because he was wrong to. My stepdad is stuborn like that but when he starts ignoring me and does not want to talk to me and wants to act like a baby, then I let him. He cant ignore you forever...
2006-06-26 11:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by SAMiAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt do absolutly anything at all. I dont understand why he is mad...You should be the mad one. He shouldnt cuss you out. He will understand that you didnt do anything wrong and you should teach h im a lesson with a cold shoulder... but do what you want
2006-06-26 11:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try telling him that you would like to talk to him,and explain that you work,and that you dont think you are lazy,that you are just tired from working,and that you dont appreciate himtalking to you by cursing to you!and ask him just how lazy everyone else is,for not even having a job!
2006-06-26 11:20:02 · answer #11 · answered by cyndi b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋