my cousin is having suiside thoughts and i already had a cousin commit suisde and she died and it still hurts because we were kinda close and so are me and cousin and the problem is she lives so far away and i talk to her everyday and her parents don't know and i swore i wouldn't tell i don't know what to do and i only get to see her on family occasions and i don't know what i would do if another family member commited suiside so far their have been 2 my grandfather and my other cousin so if one more were to happen i don't know what i would do please help me if you can God bless!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-26 03:46:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
find out y she's having these thoughts. and show her that you care and show her love. tell her that whatever she is going throught will pass and God will not give us anything that we cannot handle. tell her that you know she's strong and that she can get past this. make her feel wanted. try referring her to a professional, im sure there's annonymous places out there.
sound like you have a family history of suicides and maybe this could be genetic and through a medical reason, if you can get her to a doctor and quick! she may not know y she's having these thoughts.
2006-06-26 03:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by cher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I managed to get your question through all the muddle somehow. As a nice human being, you should help her out which is what you are looking to do..thats great! See if you can cousel her out of this, get to the root of the problem, show her hope and encouragement. See if starts working, up her confidence by small things--like how pretty she is looking, how she should get out more and show off herself and shop..etc etc. If this is not really working, you ought to get some elders involved in this. I am nto sure how old both of you are, but suicide is nothing but cowardice. Yes I have heard a lot of people say, "to suicide you need guts", but its all BS. Yes that maybe true, but you have NO right to take away your life. You dont make that choice. Tell your cousin this, shake her up to reality..tell her not to run away from adversity but face it. All of us have the worst times sometimes, I am in the midst of a personal mid life crisis, but I keep egging myself on for my family, for my parents. This is an honest advice I am sharing. Most imp, never let go of her/his hand and always have your shoulder for them to cry on. Long live both of you
2006-06-26 10:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by hopeful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first you need to realize is that you cannot in any way shape or form control another person, their thoughts, their actions or their wishes. They are in control of themselves. Only if they are ready to seek help or advise on a suicidal issue, can they be helped. You can intervene only so far, by telling his or her parents, school councelor or principal, or even a police officer, of any threats of suicide you have heard or discovered. That is the best thing you can do. If you make a promise not to tell, that is something you cannot be bound to if it involves life or death. You can't just die for a little while. It's permanent. Tell, tell, tell, as loud as you possibly can until someone of responsibility for this person listens and acts. This person needs to talk about why life is hurting them so badly. They need to find avenues to release the pain in a constructive way so they can alllow themselves to find the good things in life to sustain them.
2006-06-26 10:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell! If you don't tell and your cousin does commit suicide, then you are going to feel incredibly guilty and if it slips out later that you knew about it but didn't tell, then everyone will be angry at you. If you do tell, you may be saving your cousin's life and yes, she may be mad at you, but if she gets the help she needs, then she'll probably thank you and you'll have the satisfaction of knowing you did the right thing! Good luck to both of you!
2006-06-26 10:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to this- I've been in this situation before.
You HAVE to tell another family member (her parents?). It'll be the hardest thing you ever do, because she told you not to tell, but you have to remember that she's (obviously) not thinking 100% normally now, so you really can't trust her judgement. Trust your own.
In health class, we learned that 85% of people who commit suicide regret it immidiately after, but by then it's too late.
Please listen to this- you need to tell someone. Imagine how you will feel afterwards if you don't.
2006-06-26 10:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by sarahg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your cousin commited. She will be kept safe, recieve counsling and not be allowed around anything dangerous. There isnt much you can actually do for her. Let the professionals help.
2006-06-26 10:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make an arrangement to meet wit you cousin find out whats really going true her head get her to a doctor b4 its to late no point looking bk and regretting
2006-06-26 10:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by helenamcdonagh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her parents so they can get her the help she needs. She may be mad at you for telling but what would you rather have happen; her parents NOT know and she kills herself, or her parents knowing and getting her help?
2006-06-26 10:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action TO DO
1 - PRAY and PRAY Hard!
2. - Get some matured counsellor to talk to her.
3. - Look for free telephone help for counselling from your end. Get them to call (Make sure u r around) to counsel ger.
2006-06-26 10:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ben A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about your cousin, you will act on this cry for help. Tel her parents or someone closer to her so that they can help her resolve her feelings.
2006-06-26 10:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Zephyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋