i broke up with my boyfriend and i dont know why. but there is this guy i've for almost a month and i m not sure what i feel towards him. he has a girlfriend but i dont know if maybe we migh thave something together. but i did not break up with my boyfriend to go around with someone else, or did I?
2006-06-26 03:40:54 · 32 answers · asked by Anahi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you already know the answer to this question. you left your boyfriend because you didn't or don't love him and you think you love this guy. well, we always seem to want what we can't have. you should have broken up with your boyfriend because it's not fair to him for you to be with him and have feelings for someone else. you can't have something with someone who has a girlfriend, unless you plan on trying to break them up. i think you should take this break from your boyfriend as time to reflect on what it is you actually want. do you want him back or someone else? decide what you want before you do something you might regret later.
2006-06-26 03:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 2 · 18⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you wrote this in haste and reads like you wrote something and then deleted stuff off sounds like you were "hot" for this other guy and dumped your boyfriend. You said it yourself...you don't know why you dumped your boyfriend. Did he do something wrong? How long were you together before you kicked him to the curb? Did you even give him an explanation? Well, good for him then. Ask yourself, what is love? Once you hear the answer from your own lips then you would realize that it's not love. For Pete sake, this guy already has a girlfriend. You're here secretly hoping that he'll leave her or she'll leave him so that he could be with you. Shame on you. How would you feel if your boyfriend had left you, not even for another girl but rather for the hope of another girl being rejected by another guy or dumping a guy to be with him? You should have appreciated the one you were with and left him for a legitimate reason. I hope that everything works out for the both of you and it doesn't turn ugly in any way. Best wishes and take care.
2006-06-26 03:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a very similar situation about 3.5 years ago. I broke up with a long-term (over 2 years) boyfriend, even though nothing was "wrong"- it just didn't feel quite right anymore. I started dating someone I'd been spending a lot of time with as friends, but I never thought I would fall in love with him. Well, we're getting married July 22. My advice to you is to try not to worry too much about your "plans"- life has a way of changing them without consulting you. If you didn't break up with your boyfriend *just* to go after this other guy, odds are the relationship you were in wasn't quite right for you (even if you did, that's a good sign the guy you were with wasn't what you needed). There may be something between you and the new guy, or there may be someone totally different that will come along when you least expect it. Either way, hang in there!
2006-06-26 03:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you aren't still with your boyfriend, that makes this less complicated. The problem with this is that the guy you think you may like is with someone else. If you guys get together while he is with her, you need to be wary that he could just turn right around and do the same thing to you when you stop interesting him. The same thing goes if he leaves her for you. The best way to handle the situation is to realize that he is choosing to stay with his girlfriend right now. If he breaks up with her, you can be on his doorstep the next day and tell him how you feel but until then, it may do more harm than good and your relationship may not be grounded in the right things. Good luck and hang in there, that's always a tough situation, take it from someone who knows from experience! You are going to be just fine though.
2006-06-26 03:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, and it is even more difficult to fall OUT of love with someone. I am currently in love with a man that I was engaged to 9 years ago. We broke up, then I got married to another man knowing in my heart that I still loved my former fiance. Thru some strange and amazing circumstances, my former fiance and I made email contact (I am currently divorced) about 7 years ago and realized that we both thought about each other during the time we were apart. We looked for each other's cars, searched each other out in the internet, etc. We had this amazing connection when we reconnected. Now, we do love each other very much, but his family is still hurt by what happened 9 years ago. I am not sure I know exactly what he told them about our breakup. He is very influenced, somewhat controlled by his family.
So, we aren't going as great as to be expected because of them. I love him so much. I don't even care about the hair on his back! That is love...lol. But I with I didn't love him. I wish I could walk away from him.
Like everything that grows and lives, Love has to be nurtured. Love has to develop from something that you can't pinpoint. I think that is important. He asks me "why do you love me?" and I can't exactly answer it, cause there are so many reasons and then there are reasons you can't describe.
Yes you can fall in love unexpectedly....but it is not something you should discredit cause it wasn't planned.
Go for it. you only live once.
2006-06-26 03:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet ya. I am walking and living proof of that!
MY husband and I are total opposites . Never in a milli on years
that I thought I would marry him. He was an *** hole when I met him. But you know what? 4 years later and 1 kid and 1 trip to Iraq later you would be amazed. And I am too that its lasted this long!
The things ya do for love!
2006-06-26 03:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by colinsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, very posible. sometimes we fall in love with someone we have never imagined falling in love with, someone we never thought of holding hands with, someone we thought we can never get along with. but thats the way love works, sometimes you feel so alone that all you want is someone to come into your life as fast as he could but no one comes along and you get disapointed. and then there comes a time that you are very happy with someone, you say that he is "the one" that you want to spend the rest of your life with but then, suddenly, someone comes along, someone you never expected and you forget the promises that you made, those happy moments you have shared and all you think about is the new guy in your life and you feel guilty. but you shouldnt be beacause it isn't your fault. God knows what he is doing. and you should trust him. because he will direct you in the right path. and he knows what is best for you.
2006-06-26 04:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being interested in someone else makes us look at our current relationship and question things that aren't perfect about it... if this guy has something to offer, maybe you should check it out and see if anything comes out of it.
2006-06-26 03:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be that your just use to te person and its not love and were one fails one over comes and everything the othe guy does is what your ex didnt do and for that you like him but still you worry about your ex pick what your feels are now then pick who ever you pick never regret it
2006-06-26 03:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by souh side gangsta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't plan on fallin in luv with a particular person. yeah i am sure when u were a teen(if u arn't still) u planned on falling in love someday but u arent' supposed to plan on fallin in love with anyone so yeah it is possible.
2006-06-26 03:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋