Is my brother normal?

Question

My brother plays barbies even whens its sunny outside and his mates are here he rather play with barbies then his mates. Help it winds me up and he's 12

Answer 1

any kind ofbehaviour like that is normal, to some extent. If thats what he enjoys, then that what he enjoys. Be more supoprtive, talk to him and maybe you'll understand why he likes playing with dolls. It could just be a phase.

Answer 2

The fact is that not until twelve had I known there was a doll called Barbie. Having seen one, I felt that was perfect for my GI Joe as a girlfriend and wife. However, as a kid a lot of Barbie s got exposed to the same weather conditions as my GI Joe figures. They went in dirt, sand, leaves, or whatever. However, this did not prevent me from enjoying sports or hard work. these were for fantasy. My friends were for reality. By keeping those separate, I enjoyed both. He needs to experience both while being clearly taught that Barbies are only for fantasy. Ask him what he likes about them. Why does he want to play with them instead of his mates? He might feel that he is not as good as they are at some things. He might be more mature than they are in this aspect. Your brother might be seriously interested in girls instead of their activities. Hormones played a major part in my life at that age. Barbies did not preclude me from being a published poet; a raise at most every job that I have held ; or a masculine male.

Answer 3

It is easy to see why this would catch your eye. This exact issue came up on the Dr. Phil show here in the United States, recently, and Dr. Phil said not to get too upset about all of it. He said it would be helpful to make some gender-neutral toys available and even some guy-type of toys as well... things which boys enjoy playing with, and this will make it easier for your brother to add this type of thing in instead, so it isn't an all-Barbies agenda which would continue to make you crackers. Dr. Phil's approach was to calm down and make more choices to your brother available. Also, there is a far more basic approach to this - show your brother some interest and attention and if you can find it in your heart, some love, too. The support you can dredge up from your Soul on behalf of this child will help him realize he doesn't need to "make a statement" and that he is loved. Also, ask others about this issue, and be sure you read everything people are offering you here on Yahoo! Answers. The thing seems to be if you fuss about it, it makes it more of an issue than it really is... this is a hard middle-course to find, but if you can keep calm and redirect your brother's interests gently, you will avoid the hassle of having it become a full-blown tug of war over - Barbie dolls. This is sent to you with love and care from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)

Answer 4

So what if he plays with dolls? Have you ever spoken to him about it? All you doing by getting upset is giving him the kick he wants so he will continue to do it or on the other hand is there any trouble with him at school like bullying as that can cause you to withdraw. I would say talk to him and if you can't or don't want too speak to his mates to find out what is going on at school if anything, if there is nothing on that front then he is doing to for 2 reason one is to upset you and 1 is that's is what he wants to do and if that's what he wants to do then leave him be it may be that it's you that has a hang up about him playing with dolls not him. You did not answer a few key questions like does he play with dolls just inside or outside as well? Is he well adjusted in all other areas of his life? So I can't answer your question fully but I hope the pointers helps good luck and let me know how are you get on

Answer 5

Whatever turns his crank. I like to play with real Barbies

Answer 6

Well its not normal for a boy (Not that he shouldnt play with barbies - but playing with actionmen/barbies while his friends are there and its sunny cound mean something) - but perhaps theres something wrong - perhaps somethings happened - see if he talks to them... Be nice to him - try to find out.... Ask your pairents - but try to find out off him first...

Answer 7

He is normal person that just acts a bit different than the 'norm'. My 13 year old little brother has just grown his hair long and wears lots of black clothes, baggy jeans and chains. I hated it at first but even though i do take the piss out of him a bit ive just accepted it and it doesnt bother me anymore

Answer 8

If you are a girl maybe you are being a little sexist? Do you sometimes wear trousers? Do you ever use a screwdriver, or hammer? Do you ever use a razor, wear a tie, wear shorts?
If you are male, will you when you are married and have children, refuse to dress them, change their nappy etcetera?
Where is it written that to be male one must do this, but not that and to be female one may do that, but not this?

Answer 9

Define NORMAL and I'll tell you the meaning of life........

Leave him to it, he's not hurting you. This is your issue of acceptance not his.

Just learn to accept your brothers choices, even if it winds you up. After all there may be things you do that he doesn't approve of.

Answer 10

Homer J Simpson.