I know , you may think I'm a bad gal. But I do hate my mom and brother.HE is always making life difficult for me and she supports him no matter who is responsible for the problems. I don't just dislike them , I hate them. Now she wants to marry me off to some fool . I don't want to live with them , but I have no choice right now, what should I do? Help me.
2006-06-26 03:11:49 · 28 answers · asked by Cutie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't get married to someone just to get out the house,
it won't work & you'll end up hating them too
Find something to keep you busy, a job or hang out w/ some friends that you get along with then you won't have to be around your Mom & brother as much
BUT, perhaps it's you who needs to change & then maybe you can all get along
all you have to help you in life is God & your family
so be thankful that you have a home & a family alot
of people don't have either
2006-06-26 03:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 13⤊ 1⤋
You haven't said how old you are, or what country you live in. In fact, there's very little to go on here. But I would look into living somewhere else, if I were you. If you really hate them, then they would be better off with you out of the house, too. And certainly I can understand your not wanting to be forced to marry someone you consider a fool. But you say you "have no choice" but to live with them. I wonder if that's true. Is there anyone you can talk to about this?
2006-06-26 12:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all brothers and sisters are going to fight it is natural. But hating your family will only bring regret later in life. Step back and assess the good qualities in your mom and brother. Remember life is short, it is what you make it. If things are really that bad I would seek the form of counceling. Also talk to your mother about the way you feel. Tell her how hurt you are, and how her taking sides has made you feel alienated. Lastly, you do not have to marry anyone you do not want to. This is a free country, and everyone of every age has the same rights and privledges, including who they will or won't marry. I hope I helped a little!!
2006-06-26 03:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by natmegie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite a pretty tuff situation, nevertheless your mom and brother may feel they are doing what is good , the best thing you can do is to confront them and let them know you don`t like the way they treat you. As for trying to marry you, Marriage is between two people who are in love, you can`t marry some one you think is foolish cause you will end up in a worser situation than you are. Don`t let your brother and mom force you in a marriage that you will regret. Marry someone you love
2006-06-26 03:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by twambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a very strong word. It's your family! But you're entitled to feel how ever you want to feel. When I was a teenager I looked at things alot differently than I do now. Try and not be hurtful, you'll be a better person in the long run. I don't understand about this thing of 'marrying you off'...??? Try to work things out w/ your fam.. Sometimes things look worse than they really are.
2006-06-26 03:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by idgie_64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't force you to marry someone. So I don't think your question is totally serious. It sounds like you are not even old enough to get a job and move out of the house yet. So, I would suggest trying to move in with your grandparents for a while so you can get some relief.
2006-06-26 03:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to get your thoughts in line because the worst thing that is happening in this situation is you hating your mother. Your mother had a choice of bringing you in this world and she can take you out. Your mother raised you to be the person you are today and you should be thanking her and loving her for that. Until you can get your feelings under control about your mother, you will NOT be able to solve your dilemma.
2006-06-26 03:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by camping_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably grow out of it. Find your own fool to marry. Parents tend to get a lot cooler once their kids grow up and move on into some self security.
2006-06-26 03:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by Robsthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? What country are you in?
In America, most families don't force their kids to get married.
I dunno what to tell you about that.
I say save up some money, move out and live on your own.
I'd never marry someone I don't want to. However, I have the freedom to choose who I marry...You might not have that luxury. In which case, you can either accept your fate or run away.
2006-06-26 03:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out refuse... do nothing she says and live with the punishments. A life lived with the consequences of your own actions is always a better one than if you lived your life by others rules.
2006-06-26 03:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by The Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋