She broke up with me and told me that she wants us only to be friends, I decided in my mind that i can't be friends with her because i love her so much, so i decided to cut off contact with her, but everytime we happen to bump in to each other she is happy to see me, the last time we saw each other she told me to call her because we didn't have time to talk at that moment, i didn't call her, and now it's been 3 weeks since i've heard from eqch other, the thing is i think she is playing mind games with me and possibly using me as an ego boaster, and i know that i have to stay away from her, but the thing is the longer i don't talk or see her the more i miss her and think about her, what should i do?
2006-06-26 03:00:54 · 21 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She dumped you for a reason.
She wants to string you along for an ego boost. Tell her that she chose to go, so she doesn't get the pleasure of your company/acquaintance etc. You've already decided NO to the friend issue. So stick to it.
Don't be anyone's doormat.
2006-06-26 03:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are exactly right. People like feeling wanted, even if they don't have the same feelings in return. So I am sure she is just basking in your adoration without any intention of reciprocating. If she really wanted you back, she would call. The fact that she doesn't tells you everything you need to know.
Stay away from her. Get yourself occupied with other things - any other things. Take a pottery class, join a dating site, go on a cruise. Most of all, go out on a lot of first dates. There's no better cure for wanting one person than dating others.
And don't call her or, like a recovering alcoholic, you'll just end up right back where you were.
2006-06-26 10:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Loss Leader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop judging your girlfriends based on who they have been with before, take them out to a place better than McDonald's and stop visiting prostitutes. I don't think she is playing mind games because it's impossible to play mind games with an unarmed person. The fact that a phone call costs money is probably stopping you from calling her which is good for her because she's probably sick of pretending that she's happy to see a weed like you. As far as what you can do in the future it's probably better for all females if you stop inflicting your insipid little personality on them as they clearly don't like you.
2006-06-26 23:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by rsdudm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, if she wanted to be just friends for a while; be friends for a while.
Love has so many emotional fixes and it is difficult to keep atop of the situation when you do not know where you stand!
You might possibly give her a call just to enquire how things are, and invite her for coffee to talk!!!
2006-06-26 10:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont contact her if you think she is playing mind game with you. i believe she will automatically contact you when you arent. if she is not playing a mind game with you, i suggest you to stay away from her because she knows she broke up with you, she knows you are most likely still in pain over the break up, she knows its best to give you sometime to get over her, but she insist to be friends with you and still keep in contact. doing all these things she recommended to do only brings harm to you. i believe a rational human being would understand this. yet, she is not being considerate to your feelings. she sounds like she is playing with you, torturing you. its best to try to stay away from her and get over her. i dont believe couples who broke up can be friends, ever! goodluck and stay positive!!
2006-06-26 10:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably she still likes you go somewhere private and ask her if she does. You can date her best friend then when your ex gets jealous just break up with your girlfriend right now then get back together.
2006-06-26 10:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do interesting things to take your mind off of her.Find another girlfriend if you and your ex feel that things cannot be fixed.
2006-06-26 10:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by star! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest! call her up and tell her exactly how you feel. IF she sounds flattered she might be trying to play hard to get. listen to what she has to say in response to what you said. After that you will know exactly what to do. If its ment to be its ment to be. Follow your heart. *Good luck*
2006-06-26 10:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by ashlee_86_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're playing mind games with yourself. She isn't playing them with you. Grow up. Move on. "I love her so much"...Sheesh.....take my advice sport before you become so infatuated you end up becoming the recipient of a restraining order.
2006-06-26 10:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on with your life and find someone else, your better off that way, why waste time on missing her when she's probably with someone else if its been that long since you heard from her.
life goes on man, life goes on.
i know its hard but you just have to cope with it and move on!
2006-06-26 10:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by _ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋