What could I do to get over someone. This is from being in a relatoinship and alot has happened between us. It'll be hard to get over everthing that has happened between us. Would it still be a good idea to stay friends with him after I get over him and if too much stuff has happened will a friendship work? Serious answers please.
2006-06-26 02:58:33 · 19 answers · asked by hearts99992000 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now. And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
2006-06-26 03:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie P 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over someone is to look for somebody new. You must try to replace the time and energy you used to spend with him with another activity. It may be a good idea to stay friends with him ONLY IF YOU ARE SURE THAT IT WILL NOT BOTHER YOU. If so, try to stay away from him as much as possible. I realize that it's hard, particularly when so much has happened between you two, but you must make the effort to get over him. As I said, look for another activity to replace him. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea; it's up to you to catch another - perhaps someone much better. Good luck to you.
2006-06-26 10:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by maryc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will go ahead and tell you if you stay friends with this person it will be the a friendship that needs constant work. The way I get over someone is to make my self realize that they where bad for me and it is not going to work out and never will. Every time i think of that person I tell myself that and eventually I believe it. One thing about being friends is that you will have to see this person with their new g/f and for me that is the hardest part of being friends with an ex.
2006-06-26 10:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the most common advice for a similar situation is: if you have myspace (which sucks by the way), delete that person off of your myspace, that way they can't post stuff, or be a reminder that they are still in your life. Secondly, and the hardest, delete their phone number from you cell. You won't see it, and if they call, their name won't come up. Thirdly, go out with some friends. Recharge that brain that you can have a great life without that other person.
2006-06-26 10:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the staying friends part will require both of you to work on that aspect. I tried staying friends with someone after much happened between us (he basically screwed me over) and as of right now he does not speak to me. My best advice is to work on getting yourself 100% happy in life and that will help you get over this person and maybe even find someone better because you deserve better.
2006-06-26 10:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on....just like life. You want to stay friends? If you think that can be possible, fine. If it looks as though that may open a can of worms in the future then certainally you won't be rude or idgnore this person but just don't include him in your plans with other friends.
2006-06-26 10:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tried to be friends with an ex but it didnt work.
You end up watching / guessing their every move and then get upset when you see them happy with someone else. You will just torture yourself - or how about you meet for coffee and you ask "so whats going on in your life then?" and he relplies "I've met the love of my life"!!! Ask yourself - could you handle that and wish him well. Maybe in years and years when your both in stable long relationships it could be possible - but for now - stay away from him
2006-06-26 10:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hard to turn love on and off. but when its off you need to let go and move on, sure it will take time and it will be hard but what else is there to do but move on. as far as staying friend, you need to ask yourself if its going to be hard for you to see as a friend and not feel hurt over what you had.
sometime keeping him around is not a good idea until you are very certain that you are over him.
good luck!
2006-06-26 10:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by carline30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over someone....time, time, time, just as a relationship to become so wonderful takes time as does getting over that person....would be nice if it were not so but time is what it takes. Regarding friendship, that will remain to be seen, sometimes it works wonderfully, but you will only know as time passes.
2006-06-26 10:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by JodiLynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. I got over my last ex by deleting him from my buddy list on AIM, deleting his email from my contacts, deleting his phone number from my contacts, basicallyy deleting him out of my life. I didnt talk to him for a long time after.
Start looking at other guys again and try flirting with them.
2006-06-26 10:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by xcelticsbabee34x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋