I am 81/2 months pregnant, and my son is using it to his full advantage. He is always pushing my limits and getting into trouble. When he isn't in trouble he is attached at my hip. I can say something 10 times and he wont listen. My husband can say it once or just look at him and he does it right away. Allot of people are telling me it's just because of the baby, and that when she is born things will be bac to normal. Is this true? Does anyone have any advice for me?????
2006-06-26 02:31:20 · 14 answers · asked by mickem11 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Beat him mercifully - that usually seems to work with little kids, right? No, I'm just kidding. I would say 3 year old just seem to act that way, they're learning a lot about their role in the family/world, along with his concern for the new baby coming. I guess it's just normal behavior that you have to get through. Good luck! =D
2006-06-26 02:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were not having the second baby, you would still be treating your son as the baby that he is. If anyone said anything about his behavior, you would probably say, 'But he's just a baby!' And that's exactly how you have to look at it. Having a second child was your decision, not his. with the coming of the second child, the first one does not miraculously turn into a mature, understanding adult. He is still a baby and he's scared his Mummy is going to be taken away from him by a stranger lurking in Mummy's belly. Don't expect him to be nice to you because you're having a baby. It's your job to be extra nice to him so that he does not become insecure. Having nice long chats with him about his very important position in this new family structure will help him feel better about the situation. You might even do a little parctice run with him, for example folding towels, etc.
2006-06-26 03:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nanny has a great procedure for this you get down to their level and engage in eye contact so you know you have their attention and dont' let them do anything but have your attention you tell them your command then after that you say ok what did I say. You repeat if it's not what the command is until both of you unerstand and know the same thing. He has to comply no one two three that is giving him three seconds to disobey. He does it the first time. If he dosen't obey then you need to punish him right away. Take away priviliges x box tv make him stay by our side, ti's hard but it may be what you have to do and If he whines telll him you chose not to obey right? Point to the one who disobeyed? He will have to point to himself and asknowledge who did it and then you way "what did I say would be the consequences if you didn't obey? " he will say them. Make sure you tell him what the consequences are when you give him a command if he is being testy. Use active listening to confirm... Now what did I say repeat that back to me. Follow thru with punishment swiftly and make sure they know what and why they are getting punished.
2006-06-26 03:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he may be jealous already before the baby is even born... i think you should just tell him that he is always going to be your boy and you are going to have another baby and he can help you with the baby.. and that he needs to try and help you by being a better boy right now and listening to you....i had two kids right together and the oldest was very jealous of the baby.. just tell him he is going to have to be a big boy and help you...tell him you will always love him and the new baby too... hopefully he will learn to love the new baby.. let him bring you diapers and wipes and he will get to feel like a big helper...i have seen this in my grandkids anyway....so do the best you can for now.. and just try to talk to him and try to get him to understand.. he may not quite understand all that is going on with you yet....but try and not let things bother you right now.. do the best you can...maybe the dad will have to do the discipline for awhile....
2006-06-26 02:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 4 months pregnant and going through the same thing with my 3 year old son too.. My son is also the same way with his dad, I am hoping too that things will go back to being the same after having my baby..
2006-06-27 16:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the father of a 3 1/2 year old boy, and while I can't speak directly to your situation, I can tell you that my wife, (who is also taking care of our 1 year old twins) typically lets my son get away with stuff, if it isn't bothering her. If he is acting up, you have to make the effort, whether it is bothering you or not, to straighten him out, and you have to be consistent. I am that way, and hence he listens to me quicker. He will listen to my wife too, but only after she has gotten massively upset.
PS - Try putting him in the corner, it worked for us.
2006-06-26 08:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by booyain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to establish authority. trust me, if he is acting this way at 3 years old, in his teens he will run all over you. you need to start punishing, and set the boundaries that will last when the baby is born too and which will later on apply to both of them. i personally believe in spanking and he is at a great age to start. as i have said over and over again to my parent friends, you nip it in the bud- when they are older the behavour is GONE.
you might wanna also talk to him about all this before you reinforce the rules. be simple, brief and to the point. tell him what the punishment for which offence is beforehand, so its not unfair or cruel- he knows exactly what he is getting if he disobeys. for example, my 4 year old knows that running away from me in a busy street is the biggest no no there is, she knows its a spanking offence and she only had to make sure once that i meant it. now she never tries it again.
good luck and arm yourself with patience, you'll need it!
2006-06-26 03:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be normal, but you dont have to accept it. You have to step up and discipline him. Dont tell him 10 times to do something, the first time he doesnt listen punish him (what ever you use time out, spanking, taking toys away,etc). You have to do this the first time every time. There is no next time or 10th time. You son has the thought process now that you wont punish him until the 10th time. Dont bargin, bribe, negotiate. The first time every time no exceptions.
2006-06-26 05:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will never be normal again! Maybe he's worried about the new baby coming and is acting out because he's worried.
If i didn't listen when I was a kid I'd get paddling or some other form of punishment.
2006-06-26 02:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by classic_tigger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it just comes to this Doesn't it . Well you just have to use threats such as:if you don't behave I will put you in the oven and I'll invite the boogieman over for dinner so he can eat you. Or: spank him, threaten to spank him, or say you'll make him sleep outside with no pillows and no blankets with the boogieman and bugs and snake and bears and (what ever he is most afraid of). Or if he thinks there is a monster in his closet make him sleep in his closet.
2006-06-26 02:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by Darkrune399 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋