I really feel a click with this girl.She has an adorable daughter from a previous relationship. She is very pretty and very well educated. When we spoke over the phone for the first time she opened up to me and told me all about the jerks that have been in her life. She is currently trying to break things off with her old boyfriend who treats her like dirt. I am a really good guy. Very patient, very understanding and always trying to find the humor in things. Life is too short not to enjoy it you know. My question is; Am I setting myself up for a possible heart break? I have heard about women like this. They say they want a good guy but they are addicted to a@@holes. I am going to ask her out and get to know her either way because the risk seems worth the possible disappointment. I just wanted to get some other opinions.
2006-06-26 01:40:25 · 10 answers · asked by woodybmi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From a womens point of view I will offer this...proceed with caution, you did mention she has not YET broken it off with the old boyfriend. She may be at a vulnerable time right now as many single moms are. Be her friend and put the lust on the back burner for the time being. See how it goes.
Many single moms have trouble being "alone" and will lean where they can until someone more desirable comes along so be careful.
2006-06-26 01:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by renascent_girl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This woman will undoubtedly present interesting challenges, and if you are up for them, go for it! I would exercise extreme patience and forbearance with her. Do not try to have sex with her until you have formed a reasonable emotional foundation. She may even initiate, but reassure her you are serious about her and don't want to ruin things by leaping into intimacy. Her biggest problem will be low self esteem, though she may not know she has it. Women who wind up consistently with bad men generally do not feel worthy of great men. So, be patient and support her toward blossoming!
2006-06-26 09:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by marsvenusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is guilty of one thing: She met all the wrong men before. Sounds like she finally met one who really appreciates her. Take a risk with your eyes wide open. Trust is something someone has to earn. Who knows, she may prove herself worthy of you. The alternative would be that you will be the one who lost out.
2006-06-26 08:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a gamble, you can't win unless you make a bid.
P.S. Don't get too involved until you know she's broken it off with her ex-boyfriend completely. Also, becareful not to be the rebound guy. Good luck!
2006-06-26 08:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!!!!! You never know what the outcome may be but it never hurts to try. Its better to try and get to know her then to step back and wonder what could have happen.
Seems like you are a great man and she just have had a couple of relationships don't hold that against her.
Good LUCK!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-26 08:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by ms_classylady00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep doing what you are doing.... if you feel some love for her so then fight for your love and help her out what ever happens... and if you just like her as a friend help her too.. and if you just know her then you have to help her too... if she is a nice girl as you say and you think you can help. then give it a try.. you won't lose much, but you will gain a lot.
2006-06-26 08:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by k_ali_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl seems like she is setting you up too get hurt again theres no chance in trying new ideas see what she is like first before you actually take her out
2006-06-26 08:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by wildcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that this woman is possibly waiting for mr.right and by the sounds of it I think she's found him. Go for it!
2006-06-26 08:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure these other guys think they are "really good guys" too.
2006-06-26 08:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel.
2006-06-26 09:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋