mom problems...take the time to read, its important..?

Question

ok i love my mom so much, more than anything in the world and if anything happened to her i dont know what i would do. i know that she always wants what is best for me but it seems like she is always mad at me. sometimes i dont even do anything and she lectures me. i want to try and get closer to my mom but i cant when it seems like she pushes me out of her life. both of my parents dont trust me and here lately i dont know what to do. they put so much stress on me but they think that i dont understand what stress is. but back to my mom, i dont kno what to do now i seem to get in fights with her everyday and im sick of it. its bad to say but sometimes i am afraid to go around her because i dont want to get yelled at. here lately when i have been going to bed i cry before i go to sleep because i dont know what to do. sometimes i feel as if she doesnt like me being around her but i really dont know. i hope thet you guys can help me.i love her so much.

its also really hard to talk to her.

Answer 1

sounds like your mom is either going through a lot of stress or she is so hard on you because she doesn't want you to make the mistakes she might of made.Maybe its not that she doesn't trust you,maybe she doesn't trust other people with you.There are some hateful people in the world,thats bad to say,but true.It could be that your mom is trying so hard to protect you from that part.Don't take it so hard.But the first step to finding out what the problem is,is the source.Ask your mom what is wrong or if there is something that you can do to help.Does she take care of you alone?She may be a little bit bitter at having to do that.Talk to her and help her out around the house as much as possible.

Answer 2

The best way to handle this, because something is definitely wrong. If you cook, and know her favorite food have dinner made, when your Mom and DAD sit down let them know you would like to talk to Them.
Let them both know you love them dearly but you feel there is a problem, and you want to break the silence. Then ask your Mom why she always mad at you. Tell her how you feel. BUT do not get an attitude. Let her know that you think she hates you, and you would like to know why.
Parents are funny, there are things that could be going on with her, and she is trying to distance herself from everyone. Has she been ill lately, or are there alot of bills on the table. That tends to put anger out front.
Just a suggestion.

Answer 3

Yup... this is an important one!!

There is no easy answer. Sorry.

First off... you need to look at your mom's life. What is going on? Do you know what she is facing? How is her job going? Are there problems between her and you dad? A lot of times, parents don't share this kind of stuff with their kids. Unfortunately, their actions show that there are problems and the child doesn't understand.

Second... you need to look at yourself. Trust is something that is taken back lightly. Have you done something that perhaps you should not have done to loose a bit of trust? Really think about it. Maybe it is a lot of little things. Maybe you haven't done anything but you are in an age rage where others are getting into trouble and your parents are trying to prevent problems.

Third... make an appointment to talk with your mom. And then make another one to talk to both of your parents. The most important part of any good relationship is open communication. Without it... things fall apart quickly. Let your parents know that you want to understand what is happening and how to fix things. Let them know how the current situation is affecting you. Let them know you want to be able to come to them with questions, problems, and bring the family closer.

Fourth... if #3 doesn't work... you should consider talking with a trusted adult. Perhaps a pastor or school counselor.

I wish you the best of luck and my thoughts are with you.

Answer 4

I bet if your mom read this she would rethink how she's been acting. If she won't listen to you or talk to you, try to get her to read what u just wrote about her on this site. Maybe write it in a note and leave it somewhere she will find it. I know she does love you or she wouldn't yell at all or care what you do. Maybe she's scared of what will happen to you if you continue on the path you're on. All I know is that ya'll need a good heart to heart talk. After you tell her how you feel and what's going on, don't forget to listen to her to and how she feels. Then ya'll can come to some middle ground. Good Luck!

Answer 5

well, you can tell her that you want her to make you feel more comfortable around her and then she's going to lecture for the longest time but then tell her how you feel go to like a spa or something and maybe it's that you might not bond with her and maybe since you're always with your friends she might feel left out of your life so that's might be what is bothering her but still just talk to her because parents feel that already! oh, i got an idea you can go to therapy you that kind with your parents and maybe through a couple of weeks you'll find out what's bothering her so much and so would she and you guys can be a normal family!

Answer 6

Being a mom myself I know that we can sometimes take out our personal problems on our kids just like you described. I wish I could tell your mom not to make the mistake of doing that. It is hurtful and I did not realize how hurtful it can be until I read your question. I hope your mom is caring enough to listen to what you just told us and take it seriously. I wish you the best because there is nothing better than a meaningful relationship with your mom.

Answer 7

if you are really close to your mom have a heart to heart talk to her tell her how you are feeling and what seem to be the problem maybe someone is telling her stuff about you that are not true but she feels that she doesn't have to confront you that you should come out and say it sometimes parent think they know every thing but trust me we don't we hit bumps along the road too so tell her what is the matter and explain to her how you feel i don't think that its good for you to go to sleep crying that's tearing you inside and its not healthy so take some time and talk to her take her to the movies then to a restaurant and tell her just how you feel sometime we mom can be stubborn so try this.and good luck

Answer 8

Sometimes it's just better to do things for her, rather than trying to talk. She's probably under alot of pressure, and she obviously loves you very much. You should try to understand what it's like to be in her shoes. Once you do that you'll meet her halfway. There's nothing like a great relationship with your Mom. Because she'll always be there for you ... no matter what.

Answer 9

I understand your situation. But without knowing your age it is difficult to guide you.

Any way, try to remain calm when she gets angry. She may have her own problem that you are not aware of. That can be the main cause all the troubles you suffer. When you get right opportunity try to talk to her peacefully about the stress you suffer.

When you are alone, close your eyes and tray to talk to God. He will guide you with better solutions.

Answer 10

You should tell your mom that you need to talk to her about something that is bothering you. Tell her that your feelings are hurt because you feel like she doesn't want you around. Tell her that you love her and want to be close with her. Tell her everything you told us. Good luck to you!