Alright, I called my boyfrined from the mall when I was hanging out with his friends because they wnated to know if he wanted to come and obviously same here. So a girl answered... I was like uhmm put "BOY" on .. so i was like "BOY" who was that and he just kept saying some girl... so i was like... WTF and i got mad.. now, he thinks he wants to break up because I'm too controlling? Is he right? I mean I let him go over his friends house who he cheated on my last year with... and over girls houses all the time and stuff. I trust him it just aggrivated me that he wouldn't tell me. maybe I am too controlling?!
2006-06-26 01:15:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am close with his friends as with him.
We went out for several monthes then broke up after he cheated on me. but no matter what I did I couldn't stop loving him.
and... he did tell me who the girl was after 15 minutes of him yelling at me.. she was his neihgbors friend... He tells me he just likes hanging out with them.. it just scares me because I mean he cheated on me last year and with me when he got a new girlfriend between the times of us going out.
2006-06-26 01:23:20 · update #1
yes.
2006-06-26 01:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by ms♥ catepillarஐღஐஐღஐ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are definitely not controlling but, you have to realize that you don't allow your boyfriend to do anything. If he want to see other women, he will. It is a matter of if he respects you enough not to get put in questionable situations. You need to take a minute and decide if this guy is really worth the trouble. Some people come into your life for a lifetime, others for just a season; be sure you learn the difference.
2006-06-26 14:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by tdoll7777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not controlling. Trust me, I've stooped to quite a few low levels.
It sounds like he's just using that as an excuse. It seems that you'll be better off without him. If he had an respect for you at all he wouldn't be hanging around with the girl he cheated on you with. Besides, he can't be trusted. He cheated once and he's hiding things from you.
Let him go sweetheart, you'll find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-06-26 08:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Clueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be looked at in many differnt ways. If he refused to tell you who the girl is then either he hiding something or he feels that you are controlling and closes up and doesn't want to tell you a thing.
The way I look at it is that you have some trust issues going on and until you get over that any relationship you try won't work. If you don't trust the one your with you will push them away. Either learn to trust him which is probably going to be hard to do if he cheated on you, or go on with out him.
If he is messing around with some girl it is so much easier to say I am breaking up with you because you are controlling then to admit It's my fault were breaking up because I want to be with someone else.
You sound like your young so don't beat yourself up over all of this. There are plenty of nice guys out there. Just learn to trust people.
My rule of thumb is I will trust you until you break that trust. I will forgive you but I will never forget. You will have to earn that trust back and if you can't or I can't learn to trust that person I go on with my life. No big deal. Dating can be fun.
2006-06-26 08:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships should be bult on trust. If he cheated on you once and you gave him a second chance, he should understand that you want to know what girls he's hanging out with. Could you be controlling? Maybe, maybe not. Get someone that will treat you right that you don't have to worry about cheating.
2006-06-26 08:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Hugo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you're too controlling. That is just the excuse he uses to push the blame back on you. If a guy really likes a girl, trust me, he will find any excuse to spend time with her. From what you describe it sounds like "guy" is just not that into you. Probably likes to just keep you on the side or whatever as backup either for sex or to feed his ego. Drop him like a hot potatoe! Take care of you and "Mr. Right" will come along. "Guy" is not the one!
2006-06-26 08:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by lade40free 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not controlling just guarding your heart, he has lost your trust in him and it doesn't seem that hes trying to regain it. Never look down on yourself for the sake of making his excuse better. If he has already cheated in the past it shouldn't have been a problem for him to tell you who was on the phone.
Continue to guard your heart.........and don't let him disrespect you.
2006-06-26 09:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by ms_classylady00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee. This loser cheated on you and you still let him go to this girls house by himself. Are you STUPID!
Why didn't you just hand him a condom while he was walking out the door. You practically gave this jerk permission, and now you are suprised to find out he's doing it again. WAKE UP!
Get rid of this loser and find someone you can actually trust, that you are not having to check up on at all times.
2006-06-26 08:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you u shud let him be a bit independent..have some time to himself..either alone or with some of his friends. If you think he is cheating..try to get evidences then u can let go else..a guy needs some space ..that makes him a MAN!
2006-06-26 10:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ben A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not controlling you are just keeping your man together and i see nothing bad about it.I would do the same thing but just maybe u need to not be so worried,just keep in mind is it worth loosing your man over
2006-06-26 08:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by prettyergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was some other girl doing answering his phone anyway??? If you are his girlfriend, then what was he doing??? He is just trying to throw things back at you. And if you don't mind me asking what were you doing hanging out with his friends???
2006-06-26 08:20:12 · answer #11 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋