I know its a commandment to honor your father and mother, and i dont have a problem with the mother part, but i do with the father part. 25 years ago, my father walked out on me, my mom, and my sister when i was five years old. He also did it again to his new family in Texas and left a wife and two young kids. He also recently got in a fist fight at a bar where he beat a man to death (he actually died). So how am i supposed to honor a person like that. In my own opinoin, there is a special place in hell waiting for him
2006-06-26 01:08:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Jesus also said that we are to forgive... seven times seventy-seven. You're not your dad and I'm sorry that he's done these things, not just to you but to other people. It sounds like he needs some major help and maybe he'll get it in prison, but it's God's job to judge and condemn (but it's easy for us to do). I hope you learn from your dad and are a better person because of it.
2006-06-26 01:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in your case the commandment of honoring your father would best be done by not becoming what he has become when you get to be a father. Then you are honoring the role of a father rather than someone you couldn't possibly ever look up to. Good luck!
2006-06-26 08:20:15 · answer #2 · answered by jeanhack42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "other half" of that commandment is for the parents to honor the children.
It seems as if your father doesn't honor anyone, mortal or otherwise, if he did perhaps then he wouldn't have left two families and gotten into a drunken bar fight and killed someone. And therefore he doesn't deserved honor himself.
However if you're uncomfortable with that, while the bible does say to honor your parents, doesn't necessarily mean you have to like them. And if you ignore them, that would be perfectly alright then.
Good luck and God bless!
2006-06-26 08:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by freedom1313fighter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when it says honor your father that it applies only in terms of if he has been a good father and anyway he will answer on the final day for anything he did. He sounds like an extremely misguided soul. Besides you can honor that he is your father without respecting the man he is. I am not advocating anything other than acknowledgement of his ability to father a child.
2006-06-26 08:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by sadiekay1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry, that is a sad story! The Lord gives us the ability to reason and think, and he expects us to keep his commandments. Therefore, I feel, in this case, you need to honor your father for who he is, not what he has done. Your earthly father gave you life, honor him for that, and that only.
If you're not already, you will probably be a wonderful father. Honor your father for that, paving the way for you to know how to be there for your family, as we can also learn from bad examples!! God Bless!
2006-06-26 08:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Punky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We honor our parents so that we may have a long life.
Honor your father, not because of who he is, but because of who you are. You are right, he is not a good example of a loving father in any way shape or form. But honor him anyway.
So what do I mean, am I saying that you should admire, revere or venerate this man? Absolutely not. But as distasteful as it may seem, you must respect him, never put him down. It is okay to be ashamed or angry at having to be his son, but you must always maintain solemn respect for him. I know, this is really hard to hear.
The reason is this and it is very simple: you will learn such a major life lesson in it for yourself that you will be forever blessed by it. I know you don't see that now, but it is true, and I hope you do know this is the only commandment with a promise in it from God, straight to you :)
2006-06-26 08:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The commandment is not wrong. The context in which it was given was within a family where the father was a follower of God. Obviously it does not apply to your father-he did abandon his responsibility. He is due no honor from that commandment.
2006-06-26 08:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concerns. It sounds like he was more of a sperm donor and not an actual father. However, the word honor, as translated from the Hebrew, would probably be more accurately written as respect your father and mother, which you can do, regardless of what type of life he has lived. In other words, you do not speak ill of him, you do not wish for bad things to happen to him, you pray for him, and ask God to change him.
2006-06-26 08:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "honor" your parents by being a good person and making the most of your own life. The commandment does not require you to worship or idolize a parent.
2006-06-26 08:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Left the building 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor=giving the respect earned by position and accomplishments.
If nothing else he is your biological father so give him the respect of being "in name" father. Say only what you have to then forgive and move on.
2006-06-26 08:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by williamzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋