If you don't have respect for some of the things they've done or have not done with their life, and if I don't have respect for how they think about certain things (the two sexes tend to view some things differently), is it possible to say you love them? (By them I mean your intimate partner)
2006-06-25 23:50:06 · 14 answers · asked by Laura Palmer 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't respect what they've done. You don't respect what they have failed to do. You don't respect how they think. And yet you want to say you love them ? Puh-leese. You're in bed with them and lust rules the day, but "love" - I think there is a teensy chance you are clueless as to what love requires. You can have differences of opinion with the one you love, but if you don't respect them, you don't love them.
2006-06-25 23:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's possible.
I think it's possible to respect someone without loving and admiring them. But not the other way around. Love isn't possible without respect.
But also, respecting someone does not mean that you have to agree with everything they've done in their life and all their points of view. Hell, I don't even agree with everything *I've* done in my life... or all the things I've thought. ^__^
But just a hunch, if you're talkin about a guy who doesn't have motivation... and that's what you don't respect, my advice is turn and walk away. Do it as quickly as possible. It might be cute now to think it doesn't matter. But the truth is, it does. And it'll catch up to you.
(That also applies if you're talkin about man-whore issues. ; )
2006-06-26 06:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has done or said things that is disrespectful, does it mean that you should not respect them for who they are? NO! Admiration is Respect! If the person has disrespected you more than once over the same thing and is not Sorry, then you would not Admire that person, nobody is the same and everyone has their own opinion, listen to him and learn who he is, (or she) you've got to be open minded about the opposite sex. It's one of the hardest jobs you will ever have in your life. And very well worth it.
2006-06-26 06:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tricky one, but from personal experience I'd say yes. I had a boyfriend who was a total alcoholic. I really admired some of the things he'd done, he wrote articles that were published in national magazines, he had lots of amazing skills, and I loved him. But he drank so much that he never gained enough respect from me, he never understood that I just couldn't repsect someone who couldn't do anything without a drink in his hand. I ended it, it really hurt, but I never respected him and I really felt he never respected me.
I'm now going out with someone much more suitable, lol. I do love and admire him, especially just for who he is, he's amazing. We do sometimes disagree and I don't honestly respect some of his decisions, but I respect his right to them and because I love him we overcome this. I think respect is a gradual thing, built up over time, and that respecting someone's rights is much more important than respecting their individual actions. I'd like to think he feels the same about me.
Hope that helps!
2006-06-26 06:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Katie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called infatuation. "Love" is a word used too loosely. And love is not possible without respect. Once respect is gone, love flies out the window. It's always best to respect someone first before you fall in love with that person.
2006-06-26 06:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mitr says.... no... not possible girl.....
if it would have been just sex, lust, infactuation, then it might be possible (i have seen cases where it doesn't )...
love is something which makes people good... being good will always give the feeling in you about the respect you have for your partner... where there is love, there ought to be respect...... trust me on this
2006-06-26 07:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you truely love someone, respect is there. you can still be initimate with someone and not love them, so you wont need to have respect either. we all have different views on issues that doesnt mean you dont love them.
2006-06-26 06:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally agree with holly
no respect no love
2006-06-26 06:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love and admire someone it automatically means that you also respect him or her. otherwise where would the love and admiration come from.
2006-06-26 06:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by sudjenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think love is possible without respect.and anyway real love is unconditional.
2006-06-26 06:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋