well we are in ninth grade,i tried to propose to her but she rejected it and said we can be good friends,and she is not having any other bf also.please help me soon.
2006-06-25 23:48:47 · 18 answers · asked by arjun j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so sorry that everybody thwarts yr love plans. I can understand yr love for yr gf and just have to tell you that she may tell you that she doesnt want to marry and has no other bf because in fact she may actually have another bf or interest on another one. If that is not her reason then, she is very afraid of a marriage at her age.
I cannot say that you cant get married or propose to her. I think you can propose to her and take a long time to carry out the marriage plans.
However aren't you proposing to that girl so that she does not have another boyfriend or show that she is taken?
Probably not, just checkin.
If you are so in love with that girl, remember this, "people change with time" you may end up disliking her completely in a few years and then ? divorce? see that is the easy way out and many people think of it that way, if i t doesnt work out i just get divorced. That hurts everybody involved and not. That disrupts society and humans by disregarding a very common and important to keep action like marriage.
How are you going to support her? will you have enough now to give her food, clothing, car, medical, distraction, entertainment, travelling and all the shopping a woman loves to do? now?
Can you pay for school and home rent and all the utilities?
I mean you love her, you want her to marry you , so you have to show her that you mean it. You have to show her that you ahve all it takes to be the man of the house and protect and take care of his woman. Right? YOu have to.
So show her that you are able and you may be able to make her change her mind and accept the proposal, only do take at least a year to even set a date.
You should see the movie "Birth" with Nicole Kidman and a 10yr old boy that comes to life as her dead ex husband. It deals with this. Love at a very young age. In a different context and time lapse but I think you may get some hints from it.
Good luck, and don't think that because everybody tells you "dont" that your feelings are invalid , you have as much right to love as any other grown up. Just know the differences and know that yes you have a long way to go in life, you are just starting.
But don't give up, yr love and yr honor shows through by wanting or being willing to love and take care of that girl, and that is noble.
God Bless You
I will pray for you and your loved one
2006-07-07 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow umm sorry to say this but for my opinion u perposed to her a bit too soon BUT! if u felt right and you really love her than what a gr8 desision i support u right through. well if i was that girl i would of rejected but still b your gf of coaurse you sound like a gr8 guy ( im in grade 8) but i would b there 4 u all the way and b as loving and as caring as she could be she has made the wrong desision so you can try get bak with her or just move on i know its hard but you have to live through life makin good and bad desisions good luck!
2006-06-25 23:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by divalysha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, im in 9th grade too. you are probably going way to fast. getting maried in 9th grade is a big step. she is probably thinking about her rent's, what her friends will think, if she could ever go party with "the guys again" and what not. just go along with being friends. if yo get to know her even more, try asking her out again, but don't propose. that is what i would want if my bf did the same
2006-06-25 23:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the 9th grade! Why in the world would you want to be engaged to anyone? You have years of exciting relationships ahead of you! Trust me... better times will be on their way!
2006-06-25 23:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe McIntosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be a good friend first and understand her..slowly that may change to Love which u expect. accept her proposal of being a friend. try to be close to her during friendship and let her think always abt you.let her feel ur absence frequently..slowly u will win her.
2006-06-26 00:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by monoo_76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was not sure of what to say to U at that time. U need to give her a little more time. She needs time to trhink or maybe she is just not interestedtry to find out. Don''t worry it will all be fine.
2006-06-25 23:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by pineapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK what don't work don't keep doing it man.
like you being super nice to her and doing what ever she wants all the time telling her she is beautiful or hot or your so lucky have a girl like her STOP THAT ALL.
girls hate that. girls want a guy that is not going do what ever she wants him to do a guy that not going tell her she is beautiful so hot so sexy and all that all the time only say something like that once in a blue moon.
2006-06-25 23:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never get engaged in school. You are way to immature for this and she probably realized that when you proposed.
2006-06-25 23:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay next year u will have to concentrate more on ur studies.Now ignore her.let her be a good freind of u now.next year propse to her she will be one more year older and may agree.
2006-06-25 23:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by cannon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
concentrate on ur study--its too early 4 u 2 get started.
2006-06-25 23:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋