What does the bible say about...?

Question

Here is my sistuation.. I got pregnant at 16 and married at 17 (19 now) to a guy my parents didnt like and he never asked for there blessing.... when we were married I was saved and he said he was but he wasnt. i have found out he has cheated (since weve been maried) on me more than once and hit me. I want to know what the bible says about that and if god would see it wrong if we divorced I was unsure because of what numbers 30:2-16 about not having the fathers blessing and because he broke the vows more than once. Please help me out with this and give me any scriptures that may help too.

Answer 1

yes you can divorce since he cheated on you

Answer 2

I wish I could tell you exactly where it is, I never have been good at remembering scripture. In the old testament it does say that if a girl is still living in her fathers house and her father has not given her consent to get married, then her vows basically mean nothing. In the New Testament, the only reason for divorce should be adultery which he has committed, and the vows are null and void if you decide to divorce him. So if you divorce him you will be free of any attachment to him and won't be committing adultery yourself if you remarry.

Answer 3

Hey there
God is loving and I don't believe He would want you to stay in such an abusive situation. Yes the Bible says that God hates divorce BUT it also states that grounds for divorce IS adultery! Plusthe Bible also says that if a believer is married to a non believer (which shows through their actions not just their words) then the believer is free to let that person go. Your husband is not being a Christian husband. Christian husbands are instructed to love their wives as Jesus loved the church. Would Jesus betray the church or abuse it or in any way hurt it? No.
Get out of that situation. It will only get worse. God will give you the strength and He will help you through.

Answer 4

I'd luv to answer Ur question.. First of all u were too young to do all that! i know luv was the most thing u care about that time but believe me, Ur life would never be great without parents blessings, God said that,, n about getting divorced..its not a sin if u get divorced because he cheated on u, its forbidden to get divorced if u dnt luv him anymore or sth, but in ur case its ok,, i cant give u any resources I'm sorry but I'm sure of that,, how about u read the bible n find out urself or ask a priest (a real one ;p)..Good luck :) by the way ask for God's forgiveness for getting pregnant before getting married :)

Answer 5

First of all,

THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE

....and just on that alone, I would've said to you....grab the children and leave.
But it seems like your asking from a spiritual point of view and from what you have written along with your question, it shows that you are a person that takes serious the laws of God. And I can see that you have researched the matter of divorce already but yet you hesitate to do it. I think that maybe you want to be thorough and absolutely clear in understanding what God allows before you do it.

As you can see, everyone here so far all agrees that you are cleared of any wrong doing in divorcing him because it is your husband that broke the vows and cheated on you but my guess is that maybe, deep down inside, you feel that there is something still left undone? or else you would've done it already and felt satisfied that you are correct in doing so.....

I'm not sure if I am making any sense to you or if I am even close to what you are seeking but I would like to suggest to you one thing.....I think you are a person that takes.... making vows before God very seriously.... ask your pastor to make a special prayer on your behalf to God...to release your words of promise and to free you from your vows of marriage (that you vowed before God), to your soon to be ex-husband...and this can be done by using the keys given in Matthew 16:19.
Reason is....his vows may be broken but yours are still honorably intact....
I am like you.... I take making vows and promises very seriously.

I hope this helped a little if anything. Good Luck and I wish for you and you children a very pleasant life.

Answer 6

I think u can divorce him because he has cheated on you. i mean you have the right to do so. However, it's not a good idea because i believe every marriage has been arranged by God. let me share a passege with you. 1 peter 3: 1-10. it says even though your husband does not believe, you need to have good behaviour with love to change him over.
also, are you really sure he's cheated on you?? or maybe it's just a plain mistake. . You can ask him and share your feelings. BUT whatever you do, pray and have faith. I am sure the whole issue is a challege to you . BUT remember, our God have done miracles in the past and HE will continue to do so nowadays in out lives!. Have faith. Pray that your husband will know his mistakes and that Jesus will be the head of your marriage. Do your best and God do the rest.

Answer 7

The Bible states that a man or woman can get a divorce. When your husband or wife has been sleeping with someone else. Because that person has broken their vows that was made before God. You are the only woman that he is suppose to sleep with.Therefore you are not bound by your vows.You must however get your divorce decree before you can marry again.

Answer 8

If he is not saved, then you are unequally yoked. It seems that he is violent and that you and the baby may be in real danger. I normally do not counsel divorce, but in situations where the wife and child are in danger, it is my view that it is permissible. It is obvious to me that he does not love you and that he only married you because you became pregnant. Pray about this and seek God's guidance. The devil will tell you that everything is going to be alright, but remember that the devil always lies. Jesus loves you and the baby, and he wants the very best for both of you. God bless you both.

Answer 9

11Cor6:14 tells us to not be unequally yoked together. Many people today stand before a judge, preacher, or who every else they can and say their marriage vows. This does not make them joined in the sight of God. I do not believe God would put something in His Word, then turn around and do the opposite of what He says. He also says in Matt. 19:6 What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. This put in layman's terms is simply saying if God did the joining then not man or devil in hell can take it apart. Now If you Love this man pray for him and ask Jesus to save him and your can both be happy. If you simple married him because you were pregnant and didnot love him, get rid of him, still pray for him, ask God to forgive you and get on with your life. May God Richly Bless You

Answer 10

God is loving and most of all understanding. You will not commit sin if you divorced but one must remember that both of you promised to each other that you both will love each other in sickness and health. Your husband being cheating is bad he promised you to love you until death. Now if he has broken that promise then god will be on your side if you have not cheated on him. Best Advise one can get is go to your church consular and ask for advise. Church minister will help you too. God Bless you. You are no Sinner.

Answer 11

Though it is always nice, the bible says nothing about requiring a parental blessing.

Jesus clearly provided in Matthew 5 32 -- "But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."

If you believe Jesus forwarded love, he would never want anyone to remain in an abusive relationship. Your husband's unfaithfulness qualifies as an acceptable reason to divorce.