2006-06-25 23:45:31 · 14 answers · asked by missmolls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would try to help him, but if he continues drinking, yes I would dump him
2006-06-25 23:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've been there and spent years believing it. The only person who can get him sober is himself. The longer you stick around trying to help the longer he has an excuse. It'll end up making you sad and lonely, he won't change unless something drastic happens to make him see sense and CHOOSE to stop drinking. Leave him, it may shock him into transforming himself and if it doen't, you deserve someone who will treat you better, listen to you, who can socialise with you without the need for a drink, who will put you first. Drink could easily be called 'the other woman' and right now, he's having a full blown affair with her. Look after yourself, let him do the same.
2006-06-26 06:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by Katie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never be able to help him. He can only help himself. He's trying to get you to become codependent and ultimately support his habit. This way, should he fail and not get sober, he'll have you to blame, since you didn't "help" him enough. Encourage him to go to AA, or if he's more serous, then to an in or outpatient rehab. You could be there for him as a friend, but other than that, remove yorself from this responsibility. An ultimatum may be just what he needs as well.
2006-06-26 06:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worst scenario would be that if he cant get sober he will most likely blame you for it. I have to say that any guy or gal for that matter with a drinking problem is bad news. If he needs your help then he wont be able to do it. He needs to want to get sober himself but will he stay that way and for how long?
2006-06-26 06:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by AussiePete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you can still be there for him as just a friend, don't abandon him completely, unless he's mean or violent. If he wants to get sober, he'll get sober eventually, it will be a hard and unforgiving battle, but he'll do it, if he succeeds reward him by becoming more than friends again. I hope that's come out right.
2006-06-26 08:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dump the hump. He is passing the responsibility on to you.
If he can't stay sober he has insufficient responsibility to be in a relationship. Send him to AA
2006-06-26 06:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Vermin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him before you get hurt.. Drinking problems usually comes with beating up gf/wife.. and when he turns sober, he apologises and ask for your forgiveness.. then the cycle repeats itself..
2006-06-26 06:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by HaloVivian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By that claim the drunkard is trying to make you an accomplice of his addiction. Your help can be to tell him where to find counsel, but not more. In fact, you will have to tell him either to to kick the habit or to go without you. An ultimatum indeed!
2006-06-26 06:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by rainbowunweaver2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell to go to rehab,and by the way you think you are helping but you are really enabling him.And rehab is NOT a 30 day program.6 months or more is a real 12 step program.
2006-06-26 06:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody deserves a chance..ask what kind of help he would like....and if he abuses it throw him to the curb. Those AA types can abuse help. Be careful
The Dr.
2006-06-26 06:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Halfrican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋