I'm 42 and she's going on 18. We're in love and about to go legit in months. Need advice on the age diffrence.

Answer 1

if you had a daughter at 24 she could be 18 now.

Answer 2

U might not think it now, what happens when you are 52 and then 62 and then if you make it too 72. Do the math. You will not able to keep up. Your are just proud that you can get a girl that young. However It will get boring, when you say remember, this,or that. You are as old, or older than her father. Just keep it, like it is. Until she get into the 20's. Sex may be good now. Start using your brain, instead. I'm with someone 15 years older. Things change sometimes really fast.Your almost double that.

Answer 3

let's say you or she wants children...they grow up and you need to go to their operettas, sporting events etc. yes, people WILL ask you if you are their grandfather.

Further, why can't you find someone your own age. That is precisely where you need to look.

What is it about you intellectually, that women your age do not find attractive?

And also, an 18-year old is still a child, legal yes, but a child in mind set. Come on. Leave well enough alone. I'd let her be with her own agemates, era-wise et al.

She may be looking for a sugar daddy, and there must be some serious lack of male presence in her very young life thus far...

Good luck in whatever you choose to do!

Answer 4

There is no relation between heart and mind. If u'd take any decision with the use of yr. mind u definitely will take right decision so far as yr social image, family and yr soul is concerned. If u'd take any decision while hearing the voice of yr heart u definitely will take wrong & fulish decision like this u have taken.
U definitely will suffer in future as the gape in age is too much. U r a matured man & yr thinking has become matured as compared to yr expected soulmate who is a teanager. U can imagine the level of yr soulmate's maturity whose mind is still growing.
Only beautiness & physical figure is not sufficient in life. She can not use too much of her mind & will depend upon u 4 each & every small decision, which ultimately will put u into the trouble. My sincere suggestion is to avoid this relationship.

Answer 5

You've broken the mold as far as dating norms -
you've exceeded the standards of social acceptance and comfort -
and now you're looking for advice to.....do what...make it right??

basically, what you have in common is either...fantastic sex
- for now...because you are aging and it doesn't get any easier.
And a sense of father / daughter connectivity.

Which is fine until she turns 30 and you're 54 surviving your mid life crisis and thinking of retirement and holding out until then.
She will be wildly angry at you and not know that was she is feeling is called "emotional rape".

The end result is: she divorces you.
You're left old, half an income, and without a companion...
and probably no true friends.
She moves on to recover and develop a mature relationship that is satisfying to her new mature self.

Answer 6

The thing with big age gaps is that both people must see the other as their equal. Many of these relationships are unable to last because one sees the other as a parental or teacher figure, and then as is natural they grow away from needing a person like that.

Answer 7

I personally don't think age matters. There is a hell of an age gap there but considering she is only "turning 18" then that means you were not legal the entire time of the relationship. I'd be more concerned about that then the gap!

Answer 8

She is young enough to be your child. That is so nasty! I don't think you'll last more than 10 years, if that. What 28 year old woman wants a 52 year old man? You need to ackowledge your own age, and she needs to quit hunting for a father figure. She'll want to enjoy her 20's and you'll be grumping about being out past 10 and aching joints. Ewww! ewww! yuck!

Answer 9

The age factor will matter. U may live happily for 2-3 more years and after that she may find you "no more attractive and able". Also you may not be able to satify het orgasm efficiently.

So I believe this story eventually will have a very PAINFUL END for both of you.

So you should understand this and let her go.

Thanks

Answer 10

It's going to be tough. You're the one who will have to show the most flexibility and mind-openness.
You will have to teach her what a grown-up life is and int he mean time not be pontifying. Be patience and aware that you have different cultures, probably more different than between two persons of the same generation but coming from different countries.

Answer 11

she is old enough to be your daughter. you need to come to your senses before its too late. it may so happen that she may find a younger and better person in the course of time and you may be left alone. just think over it. she is still a kid. will you be able to keep in pace with her youth. the answer is no. even if you get married what guarantee is there that she wont cheat. you need a companion who is closer to your age and also mature enough to understand you. all the best.