I'm dating a nice young woman (23) who I've been friends with for a while (6 mnths). I'm 25. My gal has so far presented herself to me as a principled person with impecable morals. Getting her to kiss me was a mission (4th date) and she stopped things when I grabbed her breast!
Could it be she's genuinely conservative and wants to wait (I'm not pushing for sex, but will do ALL else). Or maybe she does these things with someone else and I'm just there to fulfil her emotional needs while another guy enjoys the goodies? I'm in a dilemna coz I dont want to push her beyond her morals but I dont want to be taken for a ride.
Should I:
Increase the pressure and push for more action?
Be more patient and wait for the 10th date to french kiss and feel her bossom?
2006-06-25 23:02:55 · 19 answers · asked by tha dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheers! Good question and I just couldnt stop laughing, well just a question for you for your question here .... is she worth a wait till the 10th date?
Cheers!
2006-06-25 23:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by *Darling*Detective* 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This question is a doozy, I could go into this long explanation on why this and why that, but as I can see it looks like your the kind that wants to cut the cake before its been baked . To keep it short and sweet, You have jumped from a friendship into a relationship that a big leap on its own. Was she conservative when you were just friends? If yes, What changed? other than the type of relationship that you have with her. On your 4th date it looks as if you were already going in for the kill, Big Mistake-you just started "dating" her; a move too soon. Don't worry about what some imaginary guy is getting because if she is true to the waiting game than he's getting what you are right now-- time. And finally increasing the pressure(if she is a true waiter) is only going to make her distance herself from you or maybe worse, put the relationship on "hold". Also "Frenching" and groping her on the 10th date still might not be the best combination--I don't know depends on her, but don't be surprised if you get the same response as before.So be patient and slow down your harmones Mister. I hoped I've answered your question. :)
2006-06-25 23:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Miss rylus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you already said she is a person of morals...so why start thinking there's another guy enjoying the goodies. Girls like that still exist...those who know their moral limitations and have that really romantic idea that they want to save themselves for THE ONE. And that you should appreciate.Wait until she's ready. Don't pressure her into anything she doesn't want to do. It is very endearing when a guy can just be there and not think about getting in your pants all the time. There are other things that matter that girls can and are willing to offer. Appreciate these things too.Ask her too to tell you anytime she gets uncomfortable with what you're trying to do. Tell her how much she means to you and never treat her like she's a ***** just there ready to give it to you when you want it.Do be honest that sometimes you can't help wanting more of her in a sexual way but tell her you're willing to wait until she's ready...and please when you say that TRY TO DO IT!
2006-06-25 23:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go as far as she lets you. Dont push her. Some people still have morals and I dont see nothing wrong with that. She seems like a respectful person that could be trusted. I dont think the idea of her having another guy who enjoys the goodies is logical, infact its shocking for me that this has even crossed your mind. People are not all liars and cheaters. Trust her and respect her wishes. Enjoy being the first.
2006-06-25 23:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what makes you think she is seeing someone else?
Second, you might want to worry how principled she really is, what if her principles also say the only time you need to have sex is when you are trying to procreate?
Third she also might be a cold fish...which will leave you literally out in the cold were sex is concerned.
Fourth, if she is 'that' conservative, your pushing for more will not be successful.
What should you do? I say dump the lady, and find someone you can trust, because you obviously don't trust her,
2006-06-25 23:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question! You describe your girlfriend as principled with impeccable morals. Maybe she considers you principled with impeccable morals also and wouldn't think of disappointing herself or you. If you are really thinking about a future with her, I would value what she values. I sense some anger. If so, I would move on and let her find someone with her values and you also can find someone with yours. Are you able to be a gentleman? I wish you well and hopefully you are someone who will lay aside bosom touching, grabbing breasts, and the "all ELSE" and rethink your value system,
2006-06-25 23:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second option is better. You can't push someone in things like this, if something goes wrong with her then yo will never be able to forgive yourself.
Girls usually are shy, even now almost all girls waits for getting married to start sex life, that is what we are tough and in fact i should say that we are proud of it.
I feel pity on that girl to have such a boyfriend like you who thinks dirty about her and can't understand her values.
2006-06-25 23:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK. not "the" talk, but try to get yourself into a good convo where you can let her know that
-you respect her morals
-you are only interested in her and are not in a rush for anything in particular
-make sure your actions reflect that
-maybe reveal an uncomfortable dating moment about yourself(if applicable) to see if her behavior is triggered by an incident
just really try to get her to open up to you about enough things that you can figure out if this situation is for you. you sound like you are really willing to make things work. so the main thing is to be supportive of any info she gives you, even if you're not sure you can handle it in the long-run...take everything in stride for the moment and figure the rest out later.
2006-06-25 23:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by melig26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say be patient so you wont run her away wait until she is giving sugns letting you know she ready you should never push nobody into doing something they dont want to do because it will turn them off you and maybe make her stop coming around i say just take it slow one step at a time
2006-06-25 23:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by meckadance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you have to evaluate your reasons for wanting to build a relationship with her. Are you just *****, are you just looking for a good time, or are you willing to be patient and wait for her to become comfortable? Also, ask yourself how much do you care for her, and how much are you going to allow your feelings to grow for her?
2006-06-25 23:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to discuss it with her openly. Simply explain to her that sex is part of a relationship from your point of view.
From what you say, I would bet she's still a virgin. You'll have to be patient and caring but also very firm.
2006-06-25 23:08:57 · answer #11 · answered by Steaming emotions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋