I am struggling to find words to console him at this time but I don't want to come across has hard faced, but I don't want him to get upset either? What should I do?
2006-06-25 22:31:55 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
"I heard of your loss, and I just wanted to offer you and your family my sincerest condolences in your time of grief."
Then just drop it. He may respond, he may not. But your kindness will be noted.
Good luck.
2006-06-25 22:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by ravenna_wing1 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Obviously tell him that you are sorry for his loss.
I would only take the conversation forward if he instigates it though, as maybe he is using work as a distraction for now, and whatever helps his mourning process should be respected, so if he wants it left at that, do so.
It would also be a nice gesture to offer to arrange cover at work for the funeral, or even if he just wants to take some time off to be with his family. This will mean that there is one less thing for him to worry about if he has a trusted colleague looking after things while he is away.
2006-06-25 22:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you must say something keep it very short and don't get emotional. Your boss might not want to show his/her feelings to the staff so just say you're sorry about his dad and leave. Don't let him get embarrassed. It might be better not to say anything and just leave a card (not 'in sympathy'). Just a nice plain card saying you're sorry about his loss. If your boss is female a small bunch of flowers (not wreath) might be nice from the office. Not just from you though. That might look a bit too personal.
2006-06-25 22:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Iluv24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more I look on 'Answers', the more I think the world is full of idiots.
What do stupid people get out of putting things like 'ask for a raise' when the questioner was asking a serious question regarding a death.
If I were the questioner, I would report everyone who has not answered sensibly.
2006-06-25 22:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you are sorry for his loss, and ask if there is anything you can do to help him while he is going through this (like extra work, etc). It's always a tough situation, the words sometimes don't come, but just establish that you are there to help in any way needed.
2006-06-25 22:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a bit of an a*selicker aren't you, you want something that will sound nice and benefit you.
Try telling the truth, the real is always better than the false and as he knows you he will recognize the heartfelt truth rather than a formulaic condolence.
2006-06-25 22:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by Ben C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is say say sorry to hear about your Dad.
Tell him anything he needs help with just ask .
Maybe you can do things in work to help him out or even with funeral.
If he does get upset get him cup of coffee or tea what he prefers and just sit with him a while maybe even talk about his/her father.
2006-06-26 01:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow some people are really so cold whenever they answer on here. I would suggest a card, possibly flowers sent to the funeral home to let him know he and his family are in your thoughts and prayers. Hope everything works out for the best .. Best of wishs
2006-06-25 22:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply say, "I was so sorry to hear of your loss", and leave it at that. You have to be professional, but you have done the courteous thing, and acknowledged his grief, but you're there in a work capacity, not a friendship capacity. If you're friendly with him, too, then console him outside work.
2006-06-26 01:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by bouncingtigger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he was mentioned in the will, why do you want to say anything, if you had something to say, or if it was anything to do with you you would not need to be asking us, your boss would tell you what you should be saying and just how sad to be looking. trust us your boss still does not consider you as part of the family, in spite of what he said last Christmass in the back room at the office party.
2006-06-25 22:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends. if the boss is an asshole.
he takes after his father. then again. he may take after his ***** mother. man, it really depends. the sociology of parent influence on kids. if ur boss is nice, im guessing he was real close with his mother. if he were single, then his father. EITHER WAY. if his father passed, the best thing you can do is tell him, "if I knew your father, i would say your just like him". IF of course he was in favor of dad over mom. if other way around. let it be. hes gunna
you know what
honestly
i like ur qwustion
but im way to drnk and i dunno WTF ijm talkin about tonight
my gf got in an accident and i am jst
man
so upset about it
tonight of all nights
bye
2006-06-25 22:36:04 · answer #11 · answered by Oh, Natey-O! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋