He claimed that I dun wan 2 help him wen he's out of money. But he actually spend most of his money on football bettings. It's not that i dun wan 2 help him, i js wan him 2 learn a lesson, but he does not seem 2 understand it. I'm veri upset by his words thrown @ me & we quarelled one whole day. i'm veri sick & tired. My frens advised me try 2 change his ways or worse come 2 worse, change HIM..meaning 4get abt him...
2006-06-25 22:04:08 · 10 answers · asked by ViNNzZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you cant change him when he doesn't want to be changed himself. If you really want to help, you have to make him realise that he has been spending too unwisely. Talk to him, if not write him a note.
Tell him that you wont lend him money for betting. be direct and let him know that your money is not to be wasted in gambling. Help him budget if possible.
2006-06-25 22:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even start giving him money...you do it one time- he will expect you to do it each and every time. Do not continue seeing this guy. ...he seems pathetic. Believe me- I've been there...an ex of mine used my ATM card without my permission. I was very young back then...now and then I still have night mares about him. You can't change someone like that...he's been conditioned to believe that people have the obligation to help him out when he is short of money. Maybe his parents are sick and tired of it. Now he wants to abuse you financially.
2006-06-25 22:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends are probably right. he is gonna start just using you for money. If he really loved you he wouldn't be after you for money after HE bet his away. he has a gabling addiction and needs help./ if he doesn't get it he will be in a whole hell of a lot of trouble and if you stay with him you will be in the same dangerous boat as him.
2006-06-25 22:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's like that were he's not responsible w/his finances why would u want him?Just wondering?That would be a big future problem if u stick with him and he doesn't know how to handle money.
2006-06-25 22:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey lol
men are so
bad wild stupid ...
I am talking seriously
and there are the worst:
drunks,gamblers...
so don't wait even one more week ,let his choice be : ME or betting?
so you get yourself ending half the way and may be more..
such kind of males shuoldn't be even a friend not a boyfriend for a gentle woman.
2006-06-25 22:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love football too .... but you were right not to give him money.
If he can't support his own gambling habit ..... it's time to stop, if it gets to be a serious problem you could suggest he go to gambler's anonymous meetings ....... but he seems like type that probably wouldn't admit he has problem.
If he continues to prompt you for cash,
then make it clear to him you don't approve, and if his problem still persists you might want to just steer clear.
2006-06-25 22:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him you sure can't change him and if he is wasting all his cash on gambling don't give him any of yours!
2006-06-25 22:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by SHE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's the one who is stingy, tell him if he wants money maybe he should stop wasting it on stupid crap
2006-06-25 22:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell33091 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well hes taking advantage of you
2006-06-25 22:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him!
2006-06-25 22:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋