is it possible that my fiance doesnt turn me on anymore?? the other night when we had sex, i never had an orgasm. i faked it. i had to, i didnt want him to feel bad. i just felt nothing. this is the first time it has ever happened with him. any ideas on what might be wrong?? am i ok?? could it be him and not me??
2006-06-25 20:46:33 · 23 answers · asked by Trish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's probably nothing at all, a lot of factors can affect a persons sex life, maybe you were stressed about something after all women are more mentally affected by sex than men, what i mean is a lot of the time a couple needs to mix it up, ad some romance or maybe some role playing, it's not as freaky as it sounds and it could be fun with your partner/husband/fiance, most guy's think its cool and some women to. just don't start very big maybe some scented candles and rose petals, it help to create a mood of romance and scented candles also help to stimulate the other senses which can be fun to. But what ever the two of you try just have fun and no worries.
2006-06-30 22:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you probably just weren't in the mood. There's nothing wrong with that, it just happens, just like the other answers above mine said. If you two truly love each other, which I have a feeling you do, you will be fine. You could just be getting nervous about that wedding too. Don't worry, just stay positive and talk to somebody if your feeling nervous, it's totally natural before a wedding or any big event in your life. I think you and your lucky fiance are going to be very happy together!!!
2006-06-26 07:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by DustInCarroll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless it happens frequently, i wouldn't worry about it. it's hard for both people to be in "tune" at the same point in time. (he's horny and you're mind is occupied with what's going 2 happen at work the next day while he's pumping away) if this in not the 1st time this has happened to you, maybe try a differnet approach. some fore-play perhaps, a sensual body massage, or something of that nature to get both of you relaxed and in the "mood" before the real fun begins. use your imagination! role-playing, dressing up in lingerie, there's 1 million and 1 ways to "kick it up a notch" in the bedroom (hey, maybe you should do it somewhere else besides the bedroom for a change of pace!) just don't go pointing fingers about who's fault it was and who's the problem
2006-07-07 16:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually in your first sex you have to get orgasm very fast, in your case I think you might be having fear and ur consentraction might be some where. First go with foreplay everything will be alright ok. Best of luck
2006-07-09 13:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you be stressed out because of planning your wedding?
I think that all of life and its' stress can pile up.
You need to take it easy. Remember why he got you all excited in the first place, and use that to get yourself going during sex with him.
Everyone goes through this.
There are always other means to have an orgasm.....think toys.
Good luck with this.
2006-06-26 05:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by stvsgrl2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just don't. Be lucky that you do every other time! A lot of women can't! Only you can determine if he turns you on or not. Do you get hot when you look at him? You might have just not been in the mood that night.
2006-07-09 20:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have to fake it and don't have to feel bad about it. and tell him stight up like Honey I not in the mood for sex... when ever you are ready then you will feel better that you are honest and stright with him smile.
My wife did that to me and finally she told me and I asked how long it been like this she said 2years when we were married and I told her if you not in mood for sex let me know. I would love to make love if 2 people enjoy and feel better. than.... so now 9 years we been married and no plm at all. if you keep on fake it and later your marriage will go down.... be honest and open too smile.
2006-07-09 07:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably just a rut...remember you wont have an orgasm everytime...nothings wrong calm down. if it keeps happening though check into some alternatives, like toys, roleplaying, xtra foreplay.... and if it still keeps happening then talk to him about it. itll be ok. maybe he just came too quick, or maybe your mind wasnt completly there or maybe you were tired...there are lots of things to consider. but until it becomes a constant thing its not a real problem...
2006-07-08 22:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just weren't in the mood. You'll find that things are back to normal in the future. And how in the world does a man fake it? Wouldn't the girl know?
2006-07-10 03:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have an orgasm every time you have sex. Sometimes you may not because you're tired, you have other things on your mind, etc....since it's the first time, I highly doubt it's anything to worry about.....
2006-06-26 07:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋