I love my daughter very much & no she is busy, so I go to her house. On her days off or spare time I would love to have her come to my house or go out for lunch ,anything but she is already busy with something else. I miss her! what should I do??
2006-06-25 19:36:02 · 9 answers · asked by TT Bomb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her you want to spend more time with her. Make a date ahead of time and make her keep that day open for you.
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2006-06-25 19:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a life. She has a stressful job and then needs to get her own things done (laundry, errands, etc.). You didn't mention if she has a family or is dating and that takes more time.
I suggest you find something meaningful to do, wanting your daughter to be with you in all her days off and spare time is smothering.
2006-06-26 02:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE PATIENT, AND DONT PUSH.
I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM WITH MY SON, WHO I LOVE SO MUCH,
MY SON, LIVES APPROX ONE HOUR AWAY,, AND 45 MIN IF YOU DRIVE FAST, AND FOR THE PAST THREE YEARS, HE IS ALWAYS TOO BUSY FOR ME, MOTHERS DAY, CHRISTMAS, ALL YEAR LONG, I CRIED WHEN HE DID NOT COME FOR CHRISTMAS, AND YET HE IS BLOCKS FROM HIS FATHER AND STEPMOM.. BOY HAVE I SUFFERED, I FELT NOT GOOD ENOUGH, RICH ENOUGH, AND WONDERED WHY HE DOES NOT WANT TO SEE ME,
WE EVEN HAD ARGUEMNTS, AND HE GOT MAD WHEN I CRIED, AND DID NOT LIKE THE GUILT TRIPS.. ETC,,
SO I DECIDED TO JUST BE ME, I LOVE HIM, AND I CALL HIM, AND I SEND NOTES, AND REMIND HIM, I LOVE HIM MORE THAN THE SKY IS HIGH..
AND I HAVE DECIDED TO DO SOME DIFFERNET THINGS, SO I MAY BE MORE INTERESTING TO HIM .. I AM AWARE OF THE FACT THAT I AM SENSITIVE, MY SON OWES ME NOTHING, I DO NOT OWN HIM, OR HAVE A RIGHT TO HIM, OR EXPECT ANYTHING,, I DONT HAVE A RIGHT TO HISPRESENT TIME, OR FUTURE, OR HIS SECRETS ETC, I GAVE HIM THE GIFT OF LIFE, AND I WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HIM,, I WAS AFRAID HE WOULD GET TO KNOW ME MORE AFTER I AM DECEASED,, BUT I LEARNED\ NOT TO P RESSURE HIM, JUST BE HERE, AND GUESS WHAT ?
THIS MOTHERS DAY, HE CALLED ME THE NIGHT BEFORE AND ASK IF HE COULD COME AND SEE ME, AND TAKE ME OUT TO LUNCH,, HE DID, I WAS\
SO HAPPY, AND FELT LOVED, HE GAVE ME A BEAUTIFUL CARD, AND I READ IT OVER AND OVER, HE WAS CONCERNED ABOUT A ROOMMATE I HHAVE AND EVEN SAID TO LET HIM KNOW IF I HAVE PROBLEMS,.. SHE SHARED PERSONAL INFOR RE HIS GIRLFRIEND OF THREE YEARS AND THEY BROKE UP ETC, AND HIS JOB AND GOALS, AND I UNDERSTAND, THAT I DO NOT NEED TO COMPETE, WITH ANYONE, I AM HIS MOTHER, HE HHAS HIS LIFE AND CHOICES, AND I AM JUST GRATEFUL THAT I HAVE A HEALTHY KIND, UNIQUE SON, AND WE WILL ALWAYS BE CONNECTED EVEN IF IT DOES NOT ALWAYS MEET "MY EXPECTATIONS"
SO I SUGGEST YOU BE PATIENT, SHE IS DOING WHAT SHE NEEDS TO DO
IT WILL EVENTUALLY CHANGE IN TIME, AND YOU WILL GO TO LUNCH, AND THINGS LIKE THAT,, DONT WORRY,,YOU HAVE LOTS TO LOOK FORWARD TO,
2006-06-26 02:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouls explan that to her.. Maybee if you tell her that you miss her and need her in your life more? Everyone loves to be needed and wanted. This may be the very thing she needs. Honesty is allways the best policy .She may not even know how you are feeling or that she is even doing this ... Taking care of children is one of the hardest things to do .. maybee invite her for dinner some night .. that way she could come to your house for dinner and relax aftre work ???
2006-06-26 02:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by princess2luv_u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem, too. My daughter works from 8 am to 5 pm ,and she lives now for 2 years with her fiance. But I invite her and her fiance every sunday to have lunch with me and her father. And after lunch, we talk a lot. I hope this will help you.
2006-06-26 02:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by m_kiss2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel.....I think she'll be happy to know how much you care for her and want to spend time with her. I have a problem with my parents going through some kind of "mid-life crisis" right now. They just got a motorcycle and things are opposite for me....I can't get any of their time, so let you daughter know how lucky she is to have a parent who loves her enough to want to see her as much as possible!!!
2006-06-26 02:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by alacaliwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can offer to run some of her errands while she is working , if it is errands that she is doing on her off time, than she might have time to go to lunch or just hang at your house..
2006-06-26 02:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Fawkes58 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is busy and you really want to be with her then you can join be with her when she is busy bcoz she has daycare and you can also join her in that
2006-06-26 02:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know she is off one day maybe stop by and see her.
2006-06-26 04:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋