My 1 year and 6 months old son is a very healthy boy, there's nothing wrong with him. But I'm so confused that everytime he sees hes father he always cry and wants to be carried by hes dad, but hes quite heavy and he might get use to it which is not good. Please Mommies.... help me to refrain my child in crying. Everytime he cries, hes giving me a bad headache.HELP!!!!!!
2006-06-25 19:05:22 · 11 answers · asked by shaznay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are at home with him all day but Dad's at work, it could be that he just wants some of Dad's attention. If it doesn't bother your husband let him carry him for a while. The baby needs to bond to both parents. Besides it will give you the chance to have some Mom time. Enjoy the break and treat yourself to a refreshing walk or a nice relaxing bubble bath. If it becomes a real problem though, let your husband carry him for a few minutes and then put him down. If you let him cry it out a few times he'll get the idea that he's not going to get picked up every time he cries. Good luck.
2006-06-25 21:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by jimminycricket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm not a mommy, but I am a daddy that has raised my 6 year old by myself since he was 9 months old. This sounds like an insicurity thing. My son did this at times. There were times that I felf were appropriat to hold him.(while watching tv, or playing or reading before bed.) But when it wasn't appropriate, I would just have to let him cry. I wouldn't yell or freak out on him, I would just tell him it wasn't a good time, and if he continued to cry, then there would be consiquinces. the first one would be time out. If he got put in time out in the chair, and continued to cry or refused to stay in time out, then I would put him to bed. If it got that bad, he would usually pass out in bed in about 5 minutes, so he was probably tired anyway. good luck. kids are tough, but worth it.
2006-06-26 02:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by lightningviper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for a child of that age to attach to either mom, dad, or both parents. Relax, it will pass. There is nothing wrong. One thing daddy can do is perhaps not pick him up every time but get him interested in a toy or activity - a distraction. That may help.
Been there done that - (both mom and granny)
2006-06-26 02:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is crying for his Dad cause that's the way he's saying "pick me up or I'll scream till you do". He'll stop soon. Give him something to distract him, no, not TV. Have Dad take him for a walk or play with him instead of holding him when he cries.
2006-06-26 05:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for children to get into this stage... one where they want all mommy's attention or daddy's attention, even where they want to be carried around. You don't have to give into him all the time, love on him and let him know hes a big boy now, and has to walk on his own... worked for me.
2006-06-26 02:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my children were young my doctor told me to put them in their room and let them cry it out or else they would get use to getting their way by crying any time they wqnted something. he said if I just ignored them and let them see that crying wasn't going to get them everything they wanted they would get the idea and stop doing it. I was worried they would hurt themself crying like that and he said it was good for them sometimes to just yell and replace the oxegen in their bodies. After a couple of times letting them cry it out they just stopped doing it because they knew it wasn't going to get them what they wanted. Hope that helps you some. I know letting them cry can seem mean and sometimes cause you headaches but if you keep giving in to him it just will get worse. Loving them is good but always giving themway makes them think they can get what they want by being annoying and then they will do it for every little thing they want. Spoiling them makes it hard on them and you because sometimes we just can't give them all the things they want, so they need to learn that early in life.
2006-06-26 02:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by midnightlace2525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a mom question per say. You are dealing with a daddy's boy. At this particular moment, he is enamoured with his father. I cannot speak for why, just accept it. It may stay this way, it may shift to him being a momma's boy. Either way, look on the bright side, your kids father recognizes and wants to be involved in his life.
2006-06-26 02:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax Mom. He is only little once and the time goes by quickly. Let Dad hold him as much as he wants. They are bonding and parents can never be too close. Keep being the great mom that you are.
2006-06-26 02:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband to sit down with him and entertain him with something else. And just say NO, it will make you feel miserable but it's got to be done or you will have big problems. Including back problems, trust me I got to the point where my doctor said I had to stay in bed for a while because I injured one of my spinal disks.
2006-06-26 02:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your husband when ever the child cry just sit down besides him and play with him for a while.
2006-06-26 02:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sajis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋