Ok, I had my wedding shower today. It was AWFUL! Half the people didn't show up, & that really hurt my feelings. I sent the invitations out early enough for them to let me know if they couldnt make it. Anyways, it gets worse. People didn't even try to talk to my family. My fiancee's mother, who is EXTREMELY social and whom I was depending on to help me out with getting people to talk- came right in and sat down and only talked to HER family. I even attempted to introduce people and she never even tried to talk to others. My sisters worked really hard on this shower and I feel so bad it turned out the way it did. I was already under a lot of stress, but more was added to me to walk around to every group and mingle in and try not to let people feel left out. O'yea... my future mother in law talked to me briefly... and only about her daughters wedding which is still a year away! That set me off.. I mean c'mon its my wedding shower! I felt so bad that i bawled when i got home... =(
2006-06-25 18:58:10 · 11 answers · asked by JoHanna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank to everyone who wrote and made me feel better! To that one person who said i was "fising for gifts"- My maid of honor- My SISTER- threw me the wedding shower. And no body thought i was fishing for gifts- because they know me and know i'm not like that. The people who didn't show up could have atleast did the PROPER thing and told me in advance- because there was so much food bought in good faith that those people would show up- and they never did. You obviously have no concern about other peoples feelings.
2006-06-26 05:59:36 · update #1
Once again, I really appreciate everyone's advice about wedding showers! Thank you all for being kind and understanding! I feel better and have realized that my wedding day is about me and my fiancee and that's all i'm going to be worried about. I definatley do not want to become a bridezilla! Thanks everyone!
2006-06-27 04:27:34 · update #2
Same thing happened to me with my bridal shower. I made the mistake of asking my mother in law to help. Unfortunately, my maid of honor was so caught up with her own life that she didnt want to take responsibitliey and let my Mother in law do more than what was needed of her. Most of the party was her friends and she rented the place for two hours. It was not enough time. She didnt talk to me the whole time all she did was gosssip with her friends.
My advice is to let it go. This is just the begginign to what will happen with things that are out of your control. Just wait till the wedding.
2006-06-25 20:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by empowered2008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that your shower didn't go the way you had hoped. A lot of people just don't come to things, even when they promise they will, sometimes last minute things do happen and it is unavoidable but sometimes people think "Oh enough people will turn up, I don't feel like going now" and they rely on others to show face instead of them. Try and put it behind you, I know it hurts when you have made so much effort and worked so hard. Concentrate on your wedding now, that's the most important part now, don't let this get you down. We don't even have wedding showers in the UK so it's not the most important thing. Your true friends showed up and now at least you know who not to invite to any other parties in future!
2006-06-26 05:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My shower was this weekend too and not one single member of my family showed other than my mother. I have about 15 out of 50 invited show and some of those didnt get invitations. We left an open invitation to the ladies at church and they came but my own family didnt. The invitations went out a little late, but most of them were warned ahead of time. Now, I'll just wait and see if they show for the wedding. I understand you completely. Good luck for the rest of it, just think about your honeymoon and being happy with your man and forget the rest. There's nothing you can do about it now anyway. There's no point in staying upset or becoming a bridezilla towards everyone. Put on your happy face and try to forget it.
2006-06-26 03:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad. I had maybe 12 people show up. No one from my husband side showed up at all. Sept my mother in law and her daughter. She was upset about it. Which made me kinda mad. Then a lot of people from my side didn't show. We expected about 50 guest. Just remember them when they invite you to something. This is suppose to be fun. Don't let anyone bring you down. I looked at it this way. More cake for me. LOL. Something is always bond to go wrong in the whole wedding thing. Don't take it to heart. Just have a good time no matter what. It is yours and not anyone elses.
2006-06-26 08:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chose not to have a bridal shower for my wedding last year - I've never enjoyed going to them and felt it would be both a time saver and money saver. Initially, people couldn't believe it and the women on my husband's side were shocked - they are Greek and expected a huge gathering - but they got over it and respected me for sticking my ground about not wanting one. So sorry to hear yours did not go well - the best thing I can say is your wedding is coming up and it will be great!
2006-06-26 07:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, because this is going to make you feel worse. It is very incorrect to have a shower for yourself or for someone in your own family. It looks like you are "fishing" for gifts. We give showers for other people's families, but never for our own. That is why so many of your guests did not come.
I suggest that you buy the Miss Manners Guide to Weddings by Judith Martin. This book is easy to read and will have you laughing out loud. But it also is a useful reference book for your wedding and will help you avoid such embarrassing faux pas.
2006-06-26 02:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad. just dont let it get you too far down. you have a great fiance and he loves you, regardless of what happens with your shower. besides you have a wedding to look forward to. the wedding will be different, i am sure everyone will talk to each other. if you have to go to a day spa and have a day of relaxation just for youself. anyway GOOD LUCK and CONGRATS!!!
2006-06-25 19:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go! People don't rsvp to things because they are inconsiderate...it has nothing to do with you, they were probably busy. As far as the social thing, people tend to talk to who they know or have things in common with...it's perfectly fine for them to do that. Don't waste your energy being upset about what happened...it's done, you can't turn back time, so move on!
2006-06-26 00:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the worst thing that happens to you in your marriage you're doing alright. Try to remember that it's about the marriage not the wedding.
2006-06-25 20:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let their problems affect you! Just remind yourself about your husband to be and all the reasons you're getting married. Good luck sweetie.
2006-06-25 19:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋