my boyfreind ask me to have sex with him one day, after we went for a concert. i rejected him, telling him i wasn't ready. but he gives me cold shoulder after that, and kinda ignores me. I felt hurt,.....and so, we gradually became distant in our relationship, and we called it off after that.i don't really want it to end, cause i still loves him, but i have to.What do you do, if you were me?
2006-06-25 18:21:28 · 16 answers · asked by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simply, if he is repelled from you just because of sex, then that is all that he wants since sex is playing a role in the outcome of your relationship. I would recommend that you dump him and forget those feelings for him because they will just hurt you more and more. Move on with your life and try to find the person who respects your decision and wants to see you not because his willy is awake but because his heart explodes if he does not see you everyday.
2006-06-25 18:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he gives you the cold shoulder after you told him you weren't ready for sex, then he isn't respecting you at all and doesn't love you. He's was trying to manipulate you by giving you the cold shoulder, and you'll be hurt alot worse if you try to get him back than if you stay apart, wait awhile and find another boy. You sound really young and you have plenty of time, there's no need to be pushed into something you don't want to do.
2006-06-25 18:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by talentscout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not willing to love you the same until you are ready, then he does not truly love you and was probably after sex from the beginning. He is worthless to you. Stick to your guns. Dump the guy and wait on that guy he sees deeply into your heart and will do anything to stay with you, including wait, even if he might want to at first.
P.S. I admire you for standing up for your personal beliefs in the heat of the fire!
2006-06-25 18:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rockstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. if you're not ready then he shouldn't push it. Because he gave you the cold shoulder after that you shouldn't be with him anyway. All he wanted was sex and probably wasn't too concerned about a relationship if he treated you that way. I doubt he's worth your time. Let him go.
2006-06-25 18:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself for someone who loves you, and will wait for you to be ready. Don't have sex unless you are ready, that will be something you regret for the rest of your life. Be true to yourself, and wait for a guy that will be true to you as well. Any guy that would live you because of this, you are better off without. I'm sure you care about him a great deal, but he doesn't feel the same way, he only wants one thing.
2006-06-25 18:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by natex14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then your worth the wait, there should be a emotional connection before sex ever takes place never feel pressure to do something your not ready for
2006-06-25 18:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by twistedsingle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm telling you from a personal experience,dont do it if you are not ready!Thats your test to see if they want you for more than sex.If you say that youre not ready and then he acts like he dont want to be bothered hes just in it for the a**.But if you tell him that youre not ready and he accepts that,then just keep him.But I think that u need to move on to someone else thats willing to wait until you are ready.
2006-06-25 18:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should've talked to your bf that sex isn't everything. that it can wait until "both" of you are really ready. i think it's for the best that you guys called your relationship off, coz he doesn't deserve your love coz all he wanted was sex. if he loves you, he would stick by you even if you wouldn't wanna have sex yet.
2006-06-25 19:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by d&r08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should not do something that you are not ready to
do . and if he really love you then he would have understood how
you felt, but he sound like he did not feel the way you felt and honest good ridden to him. if he cant respect your feeling then
maybe he not the one for you. love is about respect.
2006-06-25 18:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. If he truly loves you and respects you, he should accept your decision. Too bad for him.
2006-06-25 18:27:26 · answer #10 · answered by Son of Gap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋