I met this guy at work and there's definitely mutual interest. He's not my boss or anything creepy, just a co-worker. The thing is, I just turned nineteen and he looks like he's in his mid-thirties (at least...he's got some grey hair). I don't need to hear anything about age not mattering if it's true love, since I know that's not what it is. We do have a lot in common, though, and I'm wondering if I should let the age difference get in the way of a possibly good relationship. Advice?
2006-06-25 18:12:52 · 29 answers · asked by Elle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were 10 years older, it might not matter that he's twice your age. My own love interest is considerably older than me. The difference here is that I'm a much older adult than you, and I've had alot more experience, and as such I don't make such an easy target for an abuser.
While men of any age will always be attracted physically to young women, a really good guy will be more attracted emotionally to someone nearer his maturity level. If not, watch out, he may be trying to use you, either as a trophy conquest to prove he's still got it, or maybe just for cheap sex.
I think the only way to tell for sure is to let time be the test. After all, what's the hurry? If it's reall, then getting there is half the fun!
2006-06-25 18:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something weird about dating someone so much younger/older than yourself. I mean, imagine if you were in your mid-thirties, would it be weird for you to be dating someone just out of high school? Then think about if the guy is immature for his age or are you just very mature? This might be one of those "learning experiences" you may have heard about before, but then again, a lot of learning experiences don't have to be first hand.
If the relationship works and doesn't get all creepy-like then I say go for it. If he starts talking about picking out curtains tomorrow or invites you to his room in his mother's basement, then I'd say learn from that, move on, and call it a day.
Good luck and be careful with those older boys.
2006-06-25 18:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by J Bents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all. If you both like each other, then go for it!
When I was 18 I dated a guy that was 39. It wasn't true love or anything, it was just dating, just a bit of fun. We had a lot in common and we liked each other, that was all there was to it. Some of my friends and family had some comments about it, but nothing really bad, more just teasing me over the difference. But in the end, everyone was supportive and it was a good relationship.
So, my advice is, go for it. There's nothing to lose. And who knows, it might develop into something more than just dating.
2006-06-25 18:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by tazzyspamazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why make it so serious, it may not last, and it may last. We only live in the now, take it one day at a time, see how it goes.Forget the age differences, you are both adults. It's how he treats you, and what kind of respect he has for you.
Don't be in a rush to get to some end results, thinking about marriage and or children, etc. That's too far in the future, if at all.
Date him, get to know him and he you, then after a period of time, you will have no doubts, you will know.
2006-06-25 18:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult, you can make adult decisions. I say go for it! If you are not bothered by any personality or lifestyle differences you have, don't let age get in the way. It's just a number. It may turn out later on that it is a problem. If it is a problem, you'll know it. For now, just enjoy and see where it takes you!
2006-06-25 18:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just going after a sweet little nineteen year old..all men want you at your age and especially a 30 year old.make sure he doesn't have a wife and find out if he has kids...then use your best judgment..I really give it a 80% chance of being a bad idea. is your dad around because he will flip the freak out!
2006-06-25 18:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mitr says,.... if the guyy loves you like anything and is totally committed to you, the age is no bound..... as long as you are sure that he will keep you happy and just give his love to you......
i don't think twice the age is not a big deal... but remember....... he may or not be able to keep staisfying you for long... at around his 50, you will be around 35 or something and you can still have sex urges....
think about all these and not the age difference.....
take care and good luck
2006-06-25 18:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 37 yo guy that dates lots of girls in their early twenties and the one basic conclusion that we have all reached is that age is just a calender number and the way the person looks, acts, keeps up with current trends and times and the way he can make love all night long like a seasoned veteran of the sex wars is all that matters....and the fact that he is more secure in many ways helps a great deal...lot's of love to you baby !!!
2006-06-25 18:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by DarkStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not the one for you. You are just 19. Give yourself the oportunity to experience things at your level. If he is in the mid 30's that means that he is more worldly experience, but also he wants things in life that when you hit his age you won't be interested anymore. All I'm saying is live a little before you open up yourself for something that you might not be ready to.
2006-06-25 18:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by scentedtouch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age difference is a minor part , working with him is the biggest problem right now. what if the relationship ends nasty or simply ends and you have to face him each day. Work and realtionships is not a good combination, think this one out first. You talking re true love, find out more about him first..............
2006-06-25 18:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋