Because I m going to be married soon, I just don't want to do on my first night, no there is no problem but I just don't want, so I want to clarify this thing, is it necessary for a muslim to make love on first night of marriage?
2006-06-25 18:02:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i agree that these questions should be addressed to a sheikh directly. however, if you look into the Quran, Allah addresses divorce, and one of the thing that He Az wa Jal Mentions is conditions IF a man hasnt approached his wife yet.
also, if you look at the ruling of the woman who is on her period, of course a man should not approach his wife during that period.
technically, your married once you do kabt-kitab (the Islamic Contract) and you can consumate your marriage any time after that.
wallahu ta'ala alem.
I would also recommend going to IslamQA.com and looking up your question.
hope that helped.
May Allah subahana wa ta'ala bless you and your wife in this life and the hearafter. ameen!
2006-06-25 20:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Shirien 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it is no necessary for a muslim or a a matter of fact anybody to make love on the first night, but why you are not doing so, explain clealy to your wife, or she may loose faith in your manhood, you may have good intentions, but she may feel otherwise, my suggestion is to go ahead and do it, dont just jump on it, talk enough, spend good time in foreplay, then you do it, make her comforable and be like a friend
2006-06-26 01:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by sajid_icfai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Islam that's between the couple.. You don't ahve to sleep together the first night nor the next.... But you have to consumate the marriage before you have a walima....
So in the end if you don't feel like it tell your futrue spouse and if they agree then so be it... you wait until when you are ready but keep in mind that the walima cannot take place until you two do the do...
Mabrook to your marriage...
2006-06-26 13:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you should ask a sheikh, preferably the sheikh of your masjid. If your mom's around, ask her, see if she can find an answer. I know for sure that it is the woman's duty to make sure the man doesn't go off looking for sexual fulfillment elsewhere, so under no circumstances can you deny your husband sex, but I don't see why you can't ask him to wait, to give you a chance to know him. Then again, I don't have more than a basic knowledge of fiqh, so I may be wrong. You really need to go to a more learned person, preferably a real, live person.
2006-06-26 01:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Darknight 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not. People get tired in the first day of marriage. it's just a tradition, it's not mentioned in koran. so just be cool with that.
2006-06-26 01:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Freedom yeah freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. it is not
but for some families in the middle east, it is necessary (this is not based on Islam rules, but based on traditional ones) in the 1st night just to check that the girl is virgin n the man have no physical problems.
u see what i mean?
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2006-06-26 01:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by ONE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not!!! has nothing to do with islam as a religion!!!
it's up to you though if you dont wanna do it on the first night, then dont!!! no one puts a gun to your head but let me tell ya your wife may think that you are gay thats all. no biggie right?
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shut the hell up spamandham you are such a jerk!! u know nothing and just keep on bluffin to get points if you are so ignorant about a question then dont answer it. moron
2006-06-26 01:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate these hard questions. Can't you ask something easier?
2006-06-26 01:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by valcus43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't screw like a wild monkey that first night, Allah will send you to hell.
2006-06-26 01:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋