This guy likes me A LOT but I just like him as a friend.We talk all the time and he tells me he loves me but I don't feel the same way.Should I go out wit him to make him feel better or jsut keep talking to him as friends and make him suffer?
2006-06-25 17:58:47 · 26 answers · asked by Lacey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are being down right mean and cruel and you are a liar. Tell him the truth and quit stringing the poor guy along.
2006-06-25 18:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Spartan Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a conversation with him and tell him how you are feeling. How fair is it to him that you tell him that you want a relationship when you don't? Its not. If you are friends and that is all that you want, then explain it to him that is what the relationship is going to be and he can have that or it will be nothing. If he is looking for someone to settle down with and you aren't it the one in his forever life except as a friend, then he needs to go and search of that. But you will need to make sure that is what you want to do and make sure how you will handle your feelings if he does find someone. I would be sitting down and trying to figure out if you could love him and have a future.
2006-06-25 18:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has the same situation.
I suggested to her that you be honest to the young man. Maybe you could try telling that you treasure your friendship the way it is and you don't want it to change for fear of loosing your special friendship. This could be good or bad. He may accept this or reject the whole idea.
You don't need to go out with him "just to keep him happy." Do what your heart and mind are telling you to do. If he cannot accept the way you feel, then maybe it is better that he doesn't come around at all.
2006-06-25 18:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by sisbee8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally wouldn't go out with him just to make him feel better, in the long run you will hurt his feelings more. Make sure that he understands that you are just friends, and don't cross that line with him, it will only lead him on all the more. Eventually either he will accept how you feel or you may develop feelings for him. Whichever happens, being clear cut in what your relationship consists of is totally important.
2006-06-25 18:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by lizzey_in_pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should date him just to make him feel better.
If you really don't have any romantic feelings for him at all, but you do like him as a friend, then you should talk to him honestly, face to face, and tell him exactly how you feel. Be gentle about it and just tell him that you don't feel that way about him. And if him saying he loves you makes you feel uncomfortable, then tell him that. But like I said, remember that he's a man in love so just be gentle when you break his heart.
2006-06-25 18:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by tazzyspamazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend then you owe it to him to be honest with him about your feelings. If you pretend you will put yourself in a terrible position of having to hurt him more in the future. Explain to him that you love to have him as a friend but you are not interested in it becoming anything else. If he is a good friend he should understand.
2006-06-25 18:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves u that much then u should love him back
u already no him theres no suprisses u no him he nos u and he loves u so giveit a shot an dont be mean to him ima girl that just lost her good friend im tellin go for it
2006-06-25 18:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by brandy baby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be honest with him and tell him, you only want to be friends. don't ruin you r friendship by going out with him. That is called a mercy date and if he found out that you only went out with him to shut him up it will most likely turn ugly. best wishes
2006-06-25 18:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, tell him that u don't feel the same way about him. and tell him that u would like to be friends with all the time but if he wants he can have a date with u..but it is strictly friendly...
2006-06-25 18:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by answerer101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't interest, don't put him in a spot where you will get his hopes up, just to hurt him down the road. It isn't right, and it isn't fair to him. Be friends with him, but don't let it progress.
2006-06-25 18:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋