Hi i am 16 years old and i have been going out with my girlfriend for 1 year and a 1/2. But thing havent been good lately because i got a job for the summer that requires me to put in hours from 6am-4:30pm and she has been mad because she feels i dont care about her anymore my job really gets me tired and she doesnt seem to understand well she hasnt been talking to me lately and i feel like i lost my love for her and im feeling i need to stay with her only so she wont hurt herself because im the only person she really has her parents both work 2 jobs and i dont know what to do should i break up with her in a way so she wont ever talk to me or should i sit down and talk to her to make her understand.
THANK YOU ALL,
Cheezy®
2006-06-25 17:48:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Cheesy
Get together with your girlfriend and let her know that it's Serious Talk Time.
Assure her that you love her. Let her know that your
job is also important to you because you have set a goal (saving money, getting work experience, etc.) for yourself. Tell her that
her complaints are valid and that you are very sorry for not being able to be there for her when she needs you, in fact, it hurts you when she starts doing that do you because deep down, all you want to do is be there for her like before.
But you do need to prove to yourself that you are able to cope and grow with the outside world by working at this job. She should understand that if you say these things in a pained, but tactful sort of way. It needs your dramatic flourish, of course.
If she's not a total self-absorbed princess type, she will understand that your obligations come first, and the time required to satisfy it. If she still can't understand this difficult situation you're going through, she will want to break up with you first.
*Warning* don't ever be the dumper. When the summer's over, you might want her back and you will regret being the first to break up. Let her dump you first and she won't ever bad mouth you later. Plus, your mind will be at ease.
2006-06-25 17:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Siddy 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Listen, you're a hard worker, and no offense, she's a spoiled girl who doesn't know that the importance of a relationship is understanding. You should talk to her and tell her that if you ever need to support her or in the future, possibly marry her, you need the job to earn money. I'm 13, but I assume that 16-year-old girls don't experience the life of working hard and raising a family, just meeting hot guys and dating them. If you really want to keep the relationship intact, you maybe need to work it out with her and her parents, tell them that this job is important and you work very hard for almost the whole day while you continue towards the future education plans. Otherwise, just break up with her and find someone who cares, listens, and accepts your way of life, and that success is a good merit to life.
2006-06-26 00:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by blingding 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut the cheez!--so to speak. In my town it's hard to find a man with a job---much less a kid like yourself. Listen, you need to ease off the girl slowly--she may become a stalker. You have too much pressure for a young man. Why don't you talk her into getting a job---so she can meet some new people. So what if she is bored---she needs to get out and make some friends or get a job and make money to buy them. I really think if she loved you so much she would understand and not try to control you. But i also think you need to let this fishy into the sea---before things really get out-of-hand.
2006-06-26 00:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by pmbrundle74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know about you, but you seem to have lost your love for her and only stick with her for fear of her doing somthing drastic, and thats not fair for you, and i think for her...in a way...shes immature and she seems clingy, yet i believe that shes only clingy, because her parents have jobs and doesnt spend that much time and now you have one, and she probably fears the same thing. but she caused this, and i think you need to talk to her and explain the things and dump her. you dont love her anymore and you need to move on, and clean hearted. well good luck.
2006-06-26 01:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. u've been through a lot together. make her understand that ur job is importnat, u r both growing up. maybe u can help her get a summer job too so that she has something to do and knows what u r going through.
2006-06-26 00:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with her & explain y u need the job( make excuse like saving for college) she should understand if she loves you
2006-06-26 00:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by brilliant blonde babe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her dude, dont break up wit her, u probably wont find someone like her, u know
2006-06-26 00:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by carlosofia2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds a little immature. break it off til she understands that you need to work.
2006-06-26 00:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is too needy! talk to her don't make her hate you! If she doesn't understand at least you tried!
2006-06-26 00:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by M M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋