Is it worse to have sex before marriage or refuse to have sex to your married spouse?

Question

What is bigger sin?
Is not it funny how it is so hard to wait to have sex until married, and then while married you are not willing to have satsfying sex life?
Luckily this does not apply to everyone...tell me your thoughts

Answer 1

A sin is a sin. One can not be worse than the other.

Answer 2

I don't believe in "sin". I think it's better to have sex before you're married because there may be a huge difference in the things you each enjoy and that will only create major problems later on. A couple needs to be compatable in the bedroom as well. Not wanting to have sex with your spouse isn't "sinful". Sex is based on your desire for one another (or lack of). Having sex against one's will just to satisfy the other is not only wrong, it's nearly rape. There is no longer such a thing as "wifely duties"...there never should have been in the first place. Some religions have created these ridiculous "laws" that have kept women in bad marriages for fear of "sin". We need to look at what's really happening and not at what religious text has dictated (which is always in favor of the man).

Answer 3

I am glad that I cannot answer this because I have no direct knowledge.
Wait a minute, I can answer this question. I don't need knowledge, just a wild guess will do.
Yes to both. No, wait a minute, No to the first part and yes to the second. At least you are having sex before marriage, that can't be all bad if you like sex. No, that's not right, what about diseases and unwanted pregnancy, that's not good. Then after marriage, what if your wife had sex before marriage and got diseases, maybe sex after marriage would be a bad idea.
So, in summary, sex is probably good, at least the orgasm part, but the unintended consequences can be bad.

Answer 4

Worse before marriage if you are a believer. Worse after if you constantly refuse to have sex with your spouse. Ive been married about 8 years, together for 11. There have been many times in which I could not have sex but wanted to due to medical problems. Also if he is acting like a jerk, there is no way that I am going to make love to him. There are certain circumstances that override having sex or not having sex. My husband has never cheated on me nor have I ever cheated on him. We both have a very good understanding. If either of us even thinks we want to have sex with someone else, we will file for divorce.

Answer 5

I think it depends on what is important to you . If you believe, you should wait until you get married then do it. If not then have sex. In God's eye's sex before marriage is a sin, but then I can think of a lot worse. And believe it or not God will forgive you. I have always thought having sex with a potential spouse is like buying a car, you have to test drive it before you buy it. Because, if it's not there before it won't be there after-wards.

Answer 6

From your writ ting, I assume that you had some religious up bring.

Do what your religious conscious tell you.

In the End, you need to Justify to yourself before your Maker.

Sex before Marriage
In some relationship, there is pressure to get physically involved. Whether it is right or wrong, debatable, as it may leads to the next issue.

Not satisfying Sex in Marriage
In a un-satisfying Sex, it is usual that one party refuse to participate.

I see it as an issue that both parties not communicating.

Information being held by either side, want the other side to "Mind Read" them.

Communicate with your partner, see if an understanding can be achieved, if not, life after marriage maybe an issue.

Answer 7

Sex is not a sin, but a blessing of God in us. Any blessing, if misused, you call it whatever you can.

Parents have the responsibility to bring up their offspring. Abortion is murder. Honouring these two responsibilities, how do you see sex out of marriage. This is the reason our society has formed the family set up so that our children will not be bastards.

I look at sex as the best entertainment God built into us. Both partners need to accept this fact and then enter the life. The life will be amazing.

Answer 8

No.1 Sex before marriage is fornication which is a sin.
No.2 Refusing to have sex with a spouse, that depends on your reasons for not wanting to have sex is there justification for the reason. No one likes sharing or leftovers.

Answer 9

All sin is the same in the eyes of GOD.

You will never regret being a virgin when you marry.

It is ironic that the very thing we fight not to do before marriage can become the very thing we hate to do after marriage..however most of the time refusing to have sex after marriage has nothing to do with not liking sex. Most likely it is from unresolved issues in the marriage.

Answer 10

Along with all other kinds of sexual immorality, sex before marriage/premarital sex is repeatedly condemned in Scripture.
Bible promotes abstinence before marriage. Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality, because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations that God approves of (Hebrews 13:4).
I feel that having sex before marriage is far more worse than not having sex after you are married. Because if you have sex before marriage then you have deprived yourself of saving something that can never be given back. Then if you are not having sex while you are married.....Problems can always be worked out.

Answer 11

I have to imagine its the latter rather than the former. By not having sex with your spouse, you are essentially doing one of two things. 1. Depriving your spouse of having a sex live. Forcing your will on another person with whom you supposedly love. 2. Forcing your spouse to seek sex outside of the marriage....which is clearly wrong and amongst the "big ten."

The bible is wishy washy about premarital sex. It says veiled things like "your body is a temple" or do not behave "immorally." It certainly is not one of the Ten Commandments. If it is such a big deal, why not?