I have basically been with this guy since the end of January and he still tells people we are just friends. My daughter and I stay at his house every night and have since April. We both get jealous or upset about things like a relationship but I guess I am not worthy of the title Girlfriend. I question what I am doing wrong and get scared that I will lose him...Please help....
2006-06-25 17:37:03 · 9 answers · asked by Tara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you dont belive in self how are you going to have anything better then just the friends relationship. Of not being worthy or not is not for your decision.
You have to defined between the two what is there between you two. Is there a spark ? Have you slept together ? Does he take care of your daughter.
He might be just looking for a company or providing you care and affection and does not intend or think about you as a girlfriend.
You will need to sit and discuss and if there is nothing that he has in for you, you will have to stop going to his place.
If you are giving him more without him asking for it why will he commit.
Stop going to his place for a week, dont meet him or so see him. If he calls you back then you have him else he was never yours.
Think positive and stop being negative as negative thoughts about yourself will take you nowhere. Try to see beyond..
Smile always
2006-06-25 19:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Smile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the question is why are you still there, if he telling people that
you are just friends. then you need to ask your self why are you
with this man. he has no respect for you and fact is you need not
bring your child in a relationship like this. and for the record he
not worth your time or anything else. you deserve better than
that girlfriend. move on. IT WILL BE HIS LOST. NOT YOUR
REMEMBER THAT.
2006-06-26 00:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not bring your daughter into a relationship, until you are solid about the relationship with the boyfriend. Men can be fickle. This will impress your child more than you know at the moment. Your child should be your primary concern at this time.
2006-06-26 00:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do: stop spending every night with him..you have your own home I take it? Live in it. Don't let him assume you are always available to be with him. You have to live your own life, especially for your daughter. You are teaching her an important lesson here....stay with someone who devalues you, or stand on your own two feet and be your own woman.
2006-06-26 00:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by scheiem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you lose something that's not your's already? Did you ever come out and say that you're dating each other exclusively? It may seem stupid, but nowadays you need to come out and say what you want from someone else. Honesty works best.
2006-06-26 00:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by hiclaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. You are not worth of the title "girlfriend," so move on!
You have already lost him - you are "just friends."
2006-06-26 00:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus...sounds like it will answer a ton of your questions.
2006-06-26 00:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by Su Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you are doing wrong is moving into his house with out a clear understanding of your relationship. you should take yourself and your child out of that situation and start a healthy, clearly defined relationship.
2006-06-26 00:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by 96vintage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well so far he sees it as you accept this,you still stay with him and everything so why should he change anything.
If you don't like it tell him so and if he still tells everyone your just friends then don't be anything more than a friend,and not one with benefits.Maybe then he will change his mind and want to be more than friends.
2006-06-26 00:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋