why do i abuse my girlfriend evean thoe i love her?

Question

hit my girlfriend

Answer 1

okay "allison"....i feel like this is a fake question, but i'll answer anyway because there might be someone on here who is abusive and needs to read this.

i'm not going to call you a jerk, punk, coward, or anything like that. namecalling doesn't amount to anything. people are abusive for a reason. no one hits anybody for no reason (unless they are mentally imbalanced, and in that case you wouldn't be capable of the love you claim to feel for your girlfriend). you have some unresolved issues in your life. i can't sit here and guess what they are because i don't know you. it could be family related, personality disorder, or a number of things. the first thing that you need to do is to go and seek help. you need counseling, not just to stop the abuse, but to find out why you abuse in the first place because whatever it is that is causing the abusive is probably causing destructive behaviors in other aspects of your life. after you find out why, stop. and mean it. you need some sort of healthy outlet to let out any anger and frustration that you may feel. if you get mad, go to the gym and hit a real punching bag. if you truly love your girlfriend and don't want to lose her (because she WILL leave you eventually, if you don't kill her first), then you will stop.

Answer 2

Have you heard the saying " You always hurt the one you love"? Well that is pretty much true. We place a lot of trust in those we love. If you are having a hard time, you tend to be angry most with those you are closest to because you trust them most to still love you, even if you are bad or make mistakes.

Often the anger you have isn't even directed at the one you get mad at. It's just that if you are mad at someone else, and you show it, maybe they will leave you. You fear that, so you take your anger out on someone you know will be with you and love you.

Now, here is the hard part. The ones you love who take this abuse will suddenly stop accepting the abuse and will leave you suddenly. So if you love your girlfriend, please show her you love her by seeing a counselor to get the tools you need to stop hurting her before it's too late.

Don't put this off! TODAY is the time to do it. If you have no money, the department of health in your state can help you.

I wish you all the best!

Answer 3

you have violent mood swing and probably have an underlying depression problem(even if you dont think so) Did you grow up in a family with violence? thats could be a huge part. you are suffering from some problem or aggression that has you pent up and since you love her the most -you feel safest taking it out on her.Its not fair and you have gone too far? Do you know how you make her feel as a human,grown woman..being on eggshells not to peeve you off and get beaten like a dog?please get help if you really love her or you may kill her one day.

Answer 4

Girl you got problems go get some counseling before the police are involved. In some states the state will file charges against you for domestic violence even if she doesn't and you can get anything from a small fine to being forced to go to anger management classes and or jail.

Answer 5

good question... you need to think this out for yourself.. you definitly need to think about this and maybe even seek counseling.. you may lose her somewhere along the line if you are abusing her.. i know i was abused so much by a husband i once really loved and i really can say it was 25 wasted years and i would not do it over again.. i should of left when he first started abusing me.. you must have a problem somewhere.. and it is time you do something about it for you can have a happy relationship....a woman does not deserve to me abused and i do not think a woman should abuse a man.. life is to short.. love each other and try and find out what your problem is...if it is your temper then go to groups that may help you with this....i really almost hate my husband if i really had hate in me it would be.. i know i will never have anything to do with him.. i do not even like to talk to him about our kids.....it can do real damage to the woman by you abusing her....

Answer 6

Is there something that happen to you in the past? I was told by a professor sometimes people who are abusive were abused when they were young. You need to get some counseling. Your girlfriend won't be around to much longer if you keep abusing her.

Answer 7

seriously, only you can answer that. just know this -- if you loved her, hurting her is so NOT an option. love & abuse cannot live in the same house.

before you can get to the heart of why you abuse her, i invite you to get to the heart of what is hurting YOU. my offering to you is to get into counseling ASAP before the abuse becomes more abusive - even fatal.

just to make you aware of how serious this is consider the stats:
every 6 seconds a child or woman is sexually assaulted; every 10 seconds a woman is abused; every 14 seconds someone dies in the name of 'love.'

are you going to lend to the statistics by being part of the problem or part of the solution? an injury to one of us is an injury to all of us.

just something to think about...

Answer 8

Maybe you need to "beat up" the part of yourself that makes you do something you know you shouldn't (settle your restless spirit). Find something else to vent your anger on. Better yet, take your girl and get next to a big, strong-looking man, and then start beating her up so that guy will do the same to you. Then every time you feel like beating her up, go let yourself get beatup instead. Get as much therapy as you can find. good luck

Answer 9

Sounds like you should go to an anger management class. You really don't love her if you hurt her. Sorry to be the Barr of bad news but I tell the truth.

Answer 10

What do u mean by Abuse? U tease her? Cheat her? Or beat her? If u are, u must be a punk and crazy and better go die