he got the - best student of the year - in Nursary last year. this year his school is changed to a Higher Convent school. He did the same during initial months in his nursary. We tried to convince him in every possible way, but that doesn't seems to work. Any advice will be greatly appreiciated. Thanks in advance.
2006-06-25 16:47:58 · 16 answers · asked by lamboo_rajan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't believe in whipping your kids. Whipping them to force them to go to school just seems foolish to me.
I think their school is a lot like OUR WORK. We don't REALLY want to go. But once we get there, we're alright. We just seem to dread the 'getting there' part. About whippings - Somedays I don't want to go to work and having someone whip me into going doesn't make me want to go anymore. It just ticks me off.
So..he's four. I too have a four year old. (And 2 older kids.) Here is what worked for my tantrum thrower:
Don't ask him 'yes or no' questions. Give choices. I know you're thinking "No. This won't work." I promise- give it a shot. It will surprise you how often it DOES work.
Instead of saying "Will you get dressed for schoo?"
Say: "It's time to get dressed. Do you want to wear your power rangers shirt or your spongebob shirt?" If he argues that he doesn't want to get dressed say "That wasn't a choice. Power rangers or spongebos. If you don't pick one or the other, I will." He gets a little control and YOU get a son that is dressed. Breakfast - same way "Cereal or PopTart?" "I don't want it! is NOT an option. Pick or I will pick for you."
Do this the whole way. Remember no questions with "YES" or "NO" answers.
"Do you want me to carry you into school like a little boy or do you want to walk in by yourself like a big boy?"
All choices - all options. This gives him a much needed sense of CONTROL, while you get what you need! . :)
I hope it helps. After a while, he will get used to going and he'll want to go :)
~Maxie
2006-06-25 18:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Maxie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answers in that you are the parent, he is the child. However, I do have questions: (1) Did his attitude change seemingly overnight (for example, was he going along fine this week, and suddenly Monday morning he's saying "No Way"?)
(2) Does he understand that many of his old friends will be there?
I agree with the answer that said take the day off and go with him.
See for yourself first hand what's happening in his classroom. There may be a new student there that is more aggressive and it's overwhelming for him. He may just feel out of his comfort zone due to new teachers and surroundings. Go with him and show him what will be comfortable and familiar and make the unknown a new challenge and game. Let us know what happens!
2006-06-25 17:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by shereewk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Convince him"?? Honey, he is 4 years old. That means you are the parent and he is the child. You dress him in the morning and take his little butt to school where he belongs. You don't ask if he wants to go; he has no decision here except maybe what shoes he wants to wear. You want to visit this kid in jail in 10 years?? If not, take your responsibility and let him learn some respect from you and when you say go to shool, he knows he has to go. Most kids forget about you after you turn and walk out of the door anyway. He's a child. He needs guidance. Now GUIDE HIM....take him to school even if he pitches a hissey-fit.
2006-06-25 16:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually kids have a reason for not wanting to go to school, and sometimes it's just the matter of getting used to being at home and with family all the time. My son was refusing to go to school for a few weeks and he is four yrs old. We found out later that a couple of kids were calling him names and he was being bothered by it. (we had a talk w/the director). Try to make things fun for him, prepare, and go shopping to buy him some school items. Talking to him will help you get some info out of him. Walk him to his class and get to know his new class mates. It's funny 'cause every time I go to pick up my son from school the kids chat w/me..... Best wishes to you, I hope this gets resolved soon, I believe it's just a matter of time.
2006-06-25 16:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make life at home as boring as possible. Maybe tell him there is a monster in the basement that eats uneducated children. Tell him if he doesn't go to school God will punish him with eternal damnation. If he has friends at the school, play up the fact that he can hang out with them all day. Make him watch soap operas, I hated them when I was little, he'll be marching off to school in no time.
2006-06-25 16:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by david s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe suggest to him that big boys go to school. Tell him he will be doing alot of more fun things then in nursery school. Tell him how proud you are of him and encourage him that when he does good and goes to school, that you can reward him for that after school. If this technique don't work then you might have to take him there to the class room and just walk out and say I will see you after school. Bye now mom or dad has to go to work depending on who will be taking him.. Try that a few days, and trust me he will start enjoying himself more than you know.. Good Luck to yas. ;-)
2006-06-25 16:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See this the child psychology, since he left that school the hero worship on his teacher gets stopped and he cannot express this to you hence make this way go to that school and find who is the teacher and request her you problem with her openly and take her permission to take your child to her residence and that teacher as family friend take the child two or three times like this to her residence as well as the school the child will start liking the teacher as well as the school he will be more smarter than what you have thought and he will regain the lost kingdom.
good luck.
I am sure you will succeed in this attempt.
2006-06-25 17:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by gkakkasseri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 year old son that had a fit when it was time to go. I asked him why and finally he told me that 2 girls from his class were constantly chasing him and trying to hug him. He didn't like that and therefore didn't want to go anymore.
That being said IMO you need to sit and have a talk with him to find out the reason why he doesn't want to go. Hopefully he will tell you what's bothering him and you will be able to resolve it.
2006-06-25 16:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by monkey7174 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 4 years old. He's gonna be in school for the nx 13 years.
Give him a break and start him in public school when he's 5!
2006-06-25 16:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 4 yr old son is the same.... well.... we use the std soft approach, soft-hard approach and the hard approach. Use all this creatively with patient, focus and innovation. You can encourage the young chap to move on.
2006-06-25 16:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋