2006-06-25 16:42:56 · 21 answers · asked by meek 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't go out to bars. Hanging out at bars and clubs just don't do it for me. I find myself being bored after an hour or two. I use to be a church girl, but somthings happend and i don't go as much anymore. Single mother of 3 so i don't have much me time. Give a girl some ideas here please.....
2006-06-30 19:25:19 · update #1
Unfortunately, most men use the wrong head (the one with no brain matter and drain in it just in case it develops intellegence) to do their mate selection process.
Men live in a fantacy world, they expect to find a Playboy Centerfold with a perfect body and no personality faults. If they should be lucky enough to find one they can't understand why other men leer at them.
Big women are not the only victims of rejection. There's a lot of nice thin girls with knobby knees, small breasts, and big feet that are passed up as well. One of the nicest and prettiest girls I ever knew was confined to a wheelchair for the rest of her life after she lost both legs in an accident. I could relate to that, as I had my own physical handicap, even tho mine was invisable. We had something in common. Point is, men are vain, self-centered and short-sighted when it comes to judging women by their figures.
I don't know how "big" you are, or why, but your attitude about yorself and your personality can definately make a difference in finding a good man.
2006-06-25 17:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by tee_nong_noy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ma!! You are looking in the wrong places, for I have a guy that is 6'7 and weights 274lbs. We are both big together and we love every minute of it. I'm not that tall and I don't weight that much, but I am a BBW. I have been told several times that I have a beautiful face. And if you notice most heavy set women do have the most beautiful faces.That face and put a nice personality with it you will turn many heads. And in everything you do do it with confidence WALK with confidence TALK with confidence. Most men like this no matter what size you are. I dare you to try it.
2006-06-25 18:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by mothers finest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately most men are pigs. Yes even me. I know, hard to believe huh?
Society is mean and inconsiderate that is just how it is.
Stay true to yourself, and always be the best you can. If men are judging you by your weight then those are men you need to avoid.
I dated a heavy women some time ago. She was one of the nices people I ever new. She had a beautiful smile, gorgeous hair, and ounce I got to know her I found her to have an awesome personality, and to top it all off she was a passionate kisser and a bitchen lover.
Hang in there, I promise you there is someone out there that will feel the way I did when I was with her.
Oh and I realy am not that ugly. lol
2006-06-25 16:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Extremely Evil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so hard, honey. All you have to have is a pulse and bait! Look at it this way, when you're a Big Beautiful Woman (BBW) you cannot hide yourself. So therefore you have to dress better than thin women, smell nicer, have a better smile and a nicer hair doo. I know it's not fair, but hey if you're lookin for a man, honey, better do yourself up right!!! Show a little cleavage, don't wear tight tight clothes; just look so classy and hold yourself up like a queen, smile and the guys will be swarming around you like bees to honey. It's not the size, it's how you feel about yourself. If you FEEL sexy, you will be SEXY to men. They'll forget all about your "size" and want to be with you when you are self-confident. You GO girl!
2006-06-25 16:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman may be looking in the wrong places. There are very nice guys who love big women. They may be tough to find, but they're out there. Try looking in other places. I always find it funny though when women say they can't find a nice guy and they only look in bars and night clubs.
2006-06-25 16:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto - a bit larger than average but not really BBW (I've been told) and tired of being passed over based on looks alone. There is too much emphasis on skinny women almost everywhere you look!
My opinion is that if a guy doesn't like me the way I am now, what is he really after? If my waist size is a deal breaker, he is too focused on the physical part of the relationship.
2006-06-25 16:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for a guy who likes big women, then you need to change your aproach. Lemme explain, men can find big women attractive but that doesnt mean they only go for big women. It means they think big women can be attactive too. Men should like you for what you are, not for being big.
Smile as much as you can, bookstores and coffee shops are better places than bars!!
2006-06-25 17:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by CUBICLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she never seems to look in the right places... Think hard and deep to find a deeper person and where he would hang out, shallow guys wont dig but you never know.
2006-06-25 16:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by MiLk*MAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm skinny and guys still treat me like garbage-some guys are just loser and very shallow-trust me, plenty guys love something to hold on to, stop thinking so negative..MR. RIGHT is bound to come your way, but if a guy is trying to get with you based on your size-he's really not even worth the time of day
2006-06-25 16:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by Cleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are hung up on the looks of people. Then again, there are a lot of guys that love big women, I know I have one.
2006-06-25 16:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋