My 11 yr old daughter was touched on the breast by a boy could this be a sexual assault?

Question

My daughter lives with her dad & she told me he grabbed her breast at the swimming pool & twisted it & he also kicked her in her vagina. She was very upset about it & afraid to tell her father. I am extremely upset. Her fahter works with this kids mother & the kid plays with my son who also live with his dad. She doesn't like this boy & doesn''t anything to do with him anymore although he is good friends with my son. I do not like the things I hear about him & do not want him hanging around my daughter or son. They live in the same apartments. I notiffied my ex about this today because my daughter is afraid to tell him.

My daughter lives with my ex & when visiting this weekend she teld me he grabbed her breast at the swimming pool & twisted it . On a seperate occasion he also kicked her in her vagina at the pool. She was very upset about it & afraid to tell her father. I am extremely upset. Her father works with this kids mother & they are neighborsas well. The kid plays with my son alot. My daughter despises this boy & doesn''t want her yojunger brother playing with him anymore. I do not like the things I hear about him & do not want him hanging around my daughter or son. I notiffied my ex about this today because my daughter is afraid to tell him. I am wondering if there is more I can do to prevent this from happening if my ex does not cooperate & continues to allow this boy to play around my kids.

My daughter lives with my ex & when visiting this weekend she teld me he grabbed her breast at the swimming pool & twisted it . On a seperate occasion he also kicked her in her vagina at the pool. She was very upset about it & afraid to tell her father. I am extremely upset. Her father works with this kids mother & they are neighborsas well. The kid plays with my son alot. My daughter despises this boy & doesn''t want her yojunger brother playing with him anymore. I do not like the things I hear about him & do not want him hanging around my daughter or son. I notiffied my ex about this today because my daughter is afraid to tell him. I am wondering if there is more I can do to prevent this from happening if my ex does not cooperate & continues to allow this boy to play around my kids.

My daughter lives with my ex & when visiting this weekend she teld me he grabbed her breast at the swimming pool & twisted it . On a seperate occasion he also kicked her in her vagina at the pool. She was very upset about it & afraid to tell her father. I am extremely upset. Her father works with this kids mother & they are neighborsas well. The kid plays with my son alot. My daughter despises this boy & doesn''t want her yojunger brother playing with him anymore. I do not like the things I hear about him & do not want him hanging around my daughter or son. I notiffied my ex about this today because my daughter is afraid to tell him. I am wondering if there is more I can do to prevent this from happening if my ex does not cooperate & continues to allow this boy to play around my kids.

My daughter lives with my ex & when visiting this weekend she teld me he grabbed her breast at the swimming pool & twisted it . On a seperate occasion he also kicked her in her vagina at the pool. She said in defense she punched him in the nose.....( yea for her)She was very upset about it & afraid to tell her father. I am extremely upset. Her father works with this kids mother & they are neighborsas well. The kid plays with my son alot. My daughter despises this boy & doesn''t want her yojunger brother playing with him anymore. I do not like the things I hear about him & do not want him hanging around my daughter or son. I notiffied my ex about this today because my daughter is afraid to tell him. I am wondering if there is more I can do to prevent this from happening if my ex does not cooperate & continues to allow this boy to play around my kids. I know boys will be boys but I think my ex should talk to him & warn him of the consequenses that can occur this day & age.

Answer 1

sexual assault? sounds like a "titty twister "to me
kicking her in the vagina.........you mean he kicked her between the legs, just as he would a boy.
The boy sounds like a BULLY to me --NOT a sexual deviant!! Tell your daughter to stay away from him so she doesn't get beat up on.

Answer 2

Sounds like this boy is a bully, and should be taught a lesson. It is an assult and very mean at that to do something like that to someone. He should go to counciling and figure out why he did that to your daugher, and I am afraid that if you do not persue this case, the bay may not learn his lesson, and may violate some other young girl, and maybe even worse. The boy needs to be court ordered to get help to resolve this issue. Yes this would be considered sexual harrassment, because your daughter felt shame in telling what happened, because this boy touched her in a bad way.. If this is not stopped now, your daughter may become a sexual crime victim all her life. Stand up for her, and show her that no matter what she can tell you anything that ever happens and that you (her parents) love her and not to be embarrassed about these things that have happened to her.

Answer 3

I would consider this a sexual assault, kicking a girl in the vagina? you really want to let that go unheard, I wouldn't, this is 2006 honey, that is a criminal offense in my book. Play or no play, a man needs to know the limits, my girlfriends son at 17 years old saw his father beat his mother several times and believes this is a normal thing to do. He is now 18 years old and has a police record for domestic violence a mile long after the beatings he gave both his mother and his 14 year old sister. Needless to say, you have to draw the line now, because if he gets away with it, whats going to happen next time he decides to abuse a female?

Answer 4

Was it purposeful, or just accidental or fleeting? Legally, it could be construed as such, but emotionally, this depends on your daughter. Was it done in a hostile way, does she FEEL violated or upset? If not, I would not make a big production out of it, it might make her feel bad. This really IS a kid thing, kids do this sort of thing, and don't mean it in a violent way. Sexual Assault is a violent crime; that has to be the test-was the kid curious, or was he offensive? If he does this more than once, it could be an ongoing problem, otherwise, if she is not upset by it, drop it. If she is upset, or if he continues to behave this way, you might want to look into charges being pressed

Answer 5

i think this is classified as sexual molestation. It doesn't matter what it's called. Make a police report. You can arrange a meeting with his parents. Since your ex-husband has custody, he must be told.Discuss his options before he confronts anyone. This can escalate the situation. In situations like this we used to handle it ourselves and the perpetrator had to make a public apology. But these days are different. Try to remain calm so that your ex will listen. Make a police report and discuss your options with the police. The boy might be ignorant of any wrong doing. His behavior has to be changed hopefully by his parents. Try to approach them asking for their input and help with the situation. Accusatory, belligerent behavior will not work. I hope you and especially your daughter find a mutual resolution to this problem and everyone is satisfied. First take control of your emotions.

Answer 6

I would consider it more like sexual harassment, and not assault, but I don't know much about laws. Talk to your daughter and ask her in what circumstances this happened, and if it has been the only time. Also, do you know the boy's age? What were his intentions?
This behavior is common in kids in grades 5-7. Most girls let the boys do that, or let them touch their butts. Of course some girls do NOT like that.There's even an "*** Grab Day" where both boys and girls touch... as much as they can.

Answer 7

Yes but come on now. Unless she felt completely in dangered or emotionally hurt. Sometimes it is ok to just say hey you little bastard don't ever do that again and then leave it at that.

I Mean this isn't going to be the first time or the last time. She also needs to learn how to scare the little peckers away.

When I was in school I had mine touched many times but there were also alot of boys who got a swift kick to the groin area.

Answer 8

there is no reason that your daughter should have to play or be around anyone that she is uncomfortable with. id tell the father its time to step up and do something. better yet, go to the boys parents yourself and tell your ex that if he cant provide a comfortable environment for your child that he can come and get her when he can. dont let your daughter think that how you deal with these issues is just ignore them .she needs to see that there is a thing called boundaries and she can do something about it. same with your son. ask your ex if he wants that kind of boy with that type of behavoir hanging out with his/yours kids.

Answer 9

Not knowing the age of the boy, makes it a little hard to answer your question. It seems that this young boy has a serious problems with keeping his hands to himself. I would talk with the father and keep this child away from your daughter. If this bot is older and is aware of what he is doing, then it needs to be reported right away.

Answer 10

depends on how old the boy was and what the nature of the offense was in my opinion. Legally i dont know. If they are both 11 and messing around at school i think its natural enough and the kids are simply playing. If the kid was 16 and older then its a bit creepy.

was your daughter shaken up? does she even know what happened?

Answer 11

I think that if this is not addressed head on it could get worse. If you husband does not do anything I would go to that kids mother and let her know. If it happens again I would call Child services. It may not do much but it will make that boy think twice about grabbing little girls.